Covert Narcissism Is The Lethal Combination of NPD & ASPD (Sociopathy).

After his last YouTube video on covert narcissism reached 3 million views on YouTube, Ross Rosenberg decided to create an updated explanation of covert narcissism. In this video, Ross dives deep into the mind of a covert narcissist and delivers an explanation of the personality disorders associated with covert narcissism.

This is crucial information for anyone, including Self-Love Deficients/Codependents, suffering at the hands of a covert narcissist. This knowledge will help the victim have a deeper understanding of this mental health problem which stems from childhood trauma and abandonment issues, which will help them “prepare for the narcissistic storm” when unmasking their covert narcissist partner.

Stay tuned for Part Two, where Ross explains the tricks that covert narcissists use to manipulate their victims into believing they will change to restore the relationship, which is an empty promise that they never follow through with.

ROSS ROSENBERG BIOGRAPHY
Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it.

Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops.

His global impact is best illustrated by his 22 million viewed/240,000 subscribed YouTube channel and the sale of 150,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages.

In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

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[Jesusandcoffee]

I outed my covert narc husband and he knew exactly what he was. His mother is most likely the same. He said “I have zero empathy, sympathy or guilt for anything, ever. In fact, I can’t even love. “. His words, not mine. When I heard this, I said, wait, you don’t love me? I had spent 13 years with this man, the last 8 being a nurse of sorts to him because of a fatal illness. He realized what he had said. He said, “Oh, I love you”. I asked what he loved about me. His answer was very telling. He said “ I love everything you do for me”. Very telling indeed. He also told me he knew who he was, and didn’t want to change. 6 months later, I got the courage to leave. I have been out 14 months now, still trying to divorce him.

[Razainthewoods]

My ex x husband told me he has never felt empathy and that he has had to mimic emotional responses since he was a teen. He also told me he knows he lies for no reason. He was good looking and charming. When he got angry he glared at me and then the corners of his mouth would slightly smile. His mother would do the same thing when she said something hurtful. My ex lived a double life our entire 8 year marriage. When a person tells you who they are, believe him. I’m thankful I got out but struggle with depression and feeling a sense of belonging.

[epluribusunum]

Coverts will “love” you as long as you give them supply. You hold them on a pedestal and they are looking down on you with a smirk.

[jeanettecook]

I knew that my covert narc mother knew what she was doing, was extremely cunning, and enjoyed the power she exerted over others when she hurt them. I was called delusional by one doctor and told by a nurse, "Oh, don't worry, she's harmless, " & etc. when I was a child and suffering under her abuse.

Thank you for explaining that this not only was possible, but how as well, because I know what I saw, and she was a knowing and cruel destroyer. She'd often smirk after cutting another person down. She won every battle. I did expose her, out of sheer accident and ignorance, and you're right, when the mask comes off, it's nothing but ugliness and repellent horror inside. It was the worst thing I've ever seen, and the most shocking moment of my life.

I've been no contact with this thing for over 30 years, for my own health.

[flowersofthefield]

Coverts are there most dangerous of all the predators who walk among us Ruthless and highly cunning.

[breakthroughmoment]

The coverts are relentless in their effort to destroy their victims. Thank you for validating what I already suspected about my covert narcissistic mother.

[nxrurjk]

Scott Peck wrote an excellent book on these people long before people were talking about narcissists: People of the Lie. He was a psychologist as well as a theologian. He considered them "evil".

[JennRazo]

I think a key characteristic of these people is that they can see the pain of the world, but they cannot see the pain they cause other people. My mom was a classic case.

[hugmc]

I grow up family scapegoat and programmed too be a people pleaser messed my life and self worth but I survived by the grace off God. But having learned a bit late in life about narcissistic behaviours my life has improved a lot but those demons are everywhere

[purpleturtle]

I think of myself as being well informed about narcissism, as I have lived it in my family of origin. This video was the missing piece for me, the part I could not figure out, the "light bulb" moment. I have 2 covert narcs in my family (I have disowned them years ago) and had been waffling with the label for them; thinking they were narcs with borderline tendencies and then the sociopathic traits as well. Now it makes sense! This is the ONLY video that I have found that explains it perfectly, now I get it! I also think a big part of the covert narcs character is that whatever they are accusing us of is exactly what they themselves are up to; they are actually "telling" on themselves, telling us what they are up to. Am I correct in my thinking? Thank you, thank you, thank you! You are truly doing God's work here, so very much appreciated. You are literally saving lives.

[DorianGriner]

One of the best videos I ever watched on this topic. I was raised by such type, a bizarre mix of a highly covert NPD, severe BPD and some traits of codependency all in one person. He was totally maddening and abusive with explosive rage, terrible temper, violence and hence unbelievably damaging to my mom and me, all done behind closed doors. But for public, he was the sweetest, kindest, smooth, humble, charming, sheepish and a generous angel. I thank you Ross for your great work you're doing for years, on this immensely complex subject. 🙏

[cynthiafortier]

It's so sad, my 2 sisters are this way. We suffered neglect and abuse growing up. Thank God I turned out with a great sense of empathy. I do not talk to to them at all, I realized I had to have peace in my life, a good mental health. So much better without the stress and painful drama.

[venusessentials]

Title alone: I'm not sure that I have seen anyone brave enough to address this directly a deepest nightmare to live though. May any innocent person who is in the midst of dealing with someone like this know total protection, total favor and complete justice for any of the losses or harm sustained in the process. Amen.

[tra_vis]

Married to covert for 10 years. It’s unbelievable. I have hundreds of hours of stories and examples of how these people behave. She is still coming after me and we’ve been divorced 4 years now.

[jessysmith]

Dealt with one of them. I grew up in a narcissistic family, and I had met tones of narcissists prior to him. He was extremely charming, good looking, he was so attentional at the beginning. I was sure that he felt empathy. I was blown away when I figured out that he was a covert narcissist. He was the most dangerous person I have ever net. & there's a spiritual aspect to them, they are sadistic and destroy everything they touch. They can't appreciate what they have, the best thing you can ever do is to leave them alone. They'll sabotage you and then play the victim. They're actors. Nobody will ever believe you if you try calling them out. They are vindictive too. If you know that you're dealing with a covert narc you need to run.

[Emilys_opinion]

You just summed up in 12 minutes what took me over 5 years to learn the hard way. I can confirm every single word. Especially that they are Oscar worthy actors. They really are! Exactly my words after the veil fell off. They are very hard to spot and they will tell you anything they think you want to hear. I personally think they have no soul. But that’s just my opinion.

[koiulm]

I think that my ex boyfriend, I believe a covert narcissist, was so skilled at it that he would actually admit to being a narcissist, even go to AA meetings and see a pseudo, non licensed-therapist (a friend of his) to declare that he was doing everything he could to work on his issues so he couldn’t be blamed for that. At the same time he gaslighted me and made me become almost a codependent to keep me under his control; occasionally telling me I was the narcissist and that I was the one who wasn’t working on my issues while he pretended to work on his…

[dominics]

I love your work Dr. Rosenberg! You’re a genius.

[enlightenedone]

My experience has solely been with covert narcissists, starting with my narc stepfather at the age of 13. I never knew that covert narcissism is a combination of NPD and ASPD. Very interesting!

[hawkarae]

I married a covert narcissist in disguise while in shock following the suicide of my dad who was destroyed by his parents' toxic dynamic and his inability to live as the upright man he knew himself to be. I white knuckled like a ninja until my mom killed herself thirteen years later. That is when the decompensation began to show. And boy howdy was I decompensated. She had been the borderline puppet master and my birth family divided along fault lines I had not known existed. Suddenly I was entirely alone, exhausted on every level and helpless as only a decompensated pollyanna can be. I could see no way out that wouldn't dump my burdens on my kids and I was determined to keep that vow at least. Fifteen years later I am able to say that I am who I was always meant to be and decades once lost are now layers of compassion and avenues of discovery. Stil and all the shape shifting covert narcissist points out fallacy and weakness and so the work continues even as I do the inner and outer work to free myself entirely and the universe trusts me with a helping role. Friendship, fresh air, honest conversation and easy laughter is the picture I carry and work toward. Thank you for ALL the help and encouragement!