Covert narcissism #narcissist #npd #npdawareness #npdabuse #abuse #toxic #cheater #love

[audreymobley]

Great information. I was raised by a narcissist. Then I married a narcissist. Thank the LORD I am free.

[spacegirl]

You are so right. My husband blamed me for

I will never forget when he said to me that he cried himself to sleep because he thought I didn't love him. I was floored. He said I wasn't touching him or showing him any affection (ie -- not enough cheek clapping, never enough). Of course, codependent me showered him with all kinds of love, affection, gifts, and encouragement.

He was the one who stopped holding my hand or randomly smooching me or grabbing my butt. He stopped taking me out too. He rarely ever did those things he demanded of me to me, yet it got turned around that I wasn't doing it. When I was. Crazy-making!

Just glad I'm out now. I didn't think my husband was a covert narc, but I'm going to delve deeper there and hope and pray I never give another one a moment of my time.

Thank you, Ben.

[lajimolala]

You are absolutely right. That's what exactly my narc coworker did to me. She kept telling me I was wrong even though I was right and didn't make mistake.

[downhomewithsarah]

Bless you for making this content. It helps people like me. 🙌

[IAMREXYANDIKNOWIT]

I only came to light with this term covert manipulator recently. I said to my therapist on Monday, (after seeing her for a year thinking I was the problem) the therapy will actually start now I know what I’m working with. I have felt like I have been going round in circles. I will never have any answers or accountability from him, But at least I have my sanity - which is possibly still in tatters but I know I can move forward. I look forward to looking in the mirror and liking myself again one day !

[bigNo]

You are great for teaching us about this. I hope you will find happiness

[emmaharper]

Yes!! They know what they are saying and doing

[LuDigiArt]

I was discarded. When i found out he was cheating and I confronted him he told me he wanted a divorce. He denied cheating even though I had legit proof. He told me he wanted a divorce because of some flaws I could not change. He moved on with the woman I accused him of cheating with. He called me a liar for telling my story as I knew it to be true. He told me I was not willing to admit that I was the one that didn't make him feel wanted so he found someone else that did. I have to admit that sometimes I wonder if this was my fault I was faithful I did love him but he did start acting distant and treating me poorly a year ago and it just got worst until he left me claiming I would not listen and then told him I can't change these stupid flaws ok. One of them was I did not pick up the chord to the vacuum which he would come home and see this once a month I vacuumed every day. I struggle with this please give me the truth.

[tracyatracya]

Ye im controlling, but in reality wouldn't take responsibility for anything. Had to go to therapy after a breakdown asking if I was a narrisistic. All I did was get unwell 25 years quite happy nurturing and caring got unwell and always never there now running around like an over grown teenager. Mums the enabler she's very covert. Poor daughter is the one that highlighted the gaslighting he knows I know so run. Victimise himself telling me he no lknger want that relationship aye 😂 you have help me so much thank you for doing this ❤

[michelenesvetlik]

When I see him do something that is narcissistic I send him a video because it backs me up n it's not coming just out of my mouth. So he now is saying that he is becoming one by watching these videos and it's my fault cause I send them to him! What more do I have to say?

[tajassasnaar]

Temukan org yg realistis dgn kekurangan & kelebihannya.
At least itu tanda dia gak sakit mental & gak egois2 bgt 🤗
krna setiap org pasti sulit mengakui kesalahannya biarpun cara ngasih taunya sdh bener & sopan sekalipun, biarpun dia mengakuinya hanya ke kita & org2 dekat lainnya.
Setidaknya itu sdh tanda org yg masih Normal 👍 not All blame other people.