10 Toxic Tactics of the Female Covert Narcissist

In this video, I will give you 10 toxic tactics that the female covert narcissist uses to dominate you psychologically and turn you into her human pet.

** Timestamps **

00:00 Intro
03:31 #1 Love bombing
05:48 #2 Passive-aggressiveness
06:57 #3 Super defensive
07:36 #4 Zero empathy
08:15 #5 You are always at fault
08:42 #6 She will compare you to others. You are never enough for her!
09:46 #7 Measuring your efforts
11:29 #8 Unrealistic boundaries and expectations
11:51 #9 Control freak
12:48 #10 Your self-respect is lost

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Hi! I'm Lise Leblanc. I am a therapist, life coach, and author of 9 self-healing guides. I have over 20 years of experience in therapeutic, educational, and leadership roles.

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[wayVier]

Hearing this and reading a top comment about a FemNar's decades of canibalizing her husband, I suddenly felt strong sympathy for my dad who remained stoic and all-supporting thru the divorce and onward whereas my mom still behaves in many of the ways described in the vid whenever I bring up anything tangentially unpalatable to her. She's constantly reading some new self-help book yet she's stuck in an adversarial non-update'able version of reality: of events, and of people she once knew - their behavior is summarized into a handful of unflattering experiences and that's how they're remembered - as faulty (new characteristics are only invented if she hears they've achieved smth, whereas if they've sunken then "she always knew they would"). She blames me for being twisted, narcissistic and manipulating her whenever I try to break thru that noise and reach her. Real problems are ignored and replaced with melodrama and farce, much like in the TV soaps she watches (should be banned, it's like opium for psychologically mal-adjusted addicts). Love is the only cure but it requires a lot of clarity and stability from me to both be authentic and respect the eggshell trench-lines between us. Every time I meander closer it seems some new reason is found why I'm not allowed "inside". I am considered as "a dangerous porcupine" by my mom, and my hugs "aren't real" and I remind her of my supportive but disheartened dad. Her allies dwindle, her stance remains. Don't know how to help her so I focus on healing myself💖 forgiveness 🙏 and responsibility IRL (cursed games can only be opposed by building a new architecture from the ground up and moving base there)

[bethmendoza]

My dad spent 67 years with my narcissistic mother. My father was a handsome man, with hobbies and many achievements before he met her. She took it all away from him, little by little. She constantly put him down. She was really cruel. She neglected him, never cared for him or appreciated his loyalty and dedication to his family. It’s very sad.

[robz]

Nothing is more powerful in a relationship than the ability to walk away and never look back. Never put up with someone's BS mind games or abuse.

[jasonnolan]

The family court system breeds this behavior.

[Warigami]

It's crazy how these people will slowly turn you into someone you're not.

[scringe]

My ex girlfriend always made me feel guilty. I gave her attention, gifts, trips around the world, great restaurants, everything. This video absolutely nailed her personality. Anytime I called her out she, deflected and then she blamed me. People like her never change. I told her who she was at the end and why I left her. I'm just glad I didn't marry and have kids with her. Life is good now.

[Braininmalin]

This happened to me word for word. I spent three years with her until the anxiety left me unable to handle basic things. I had alcohol problems, gained 10 kg, etc. Despite my fears, I broke up with her last May.
It was a very difficult time. Since then, I've lost 14 kg, I'm in the best shape of my life, I do martial arts, I have new friends, and I'm improving mentally and physically every day. I feel alive again!

[irv]

I spent 5 years with a woman like this. It was the most stressful 5 years of my life. She did every single one of these things almost daily. She literally had me questioning reality half the time. I was chronically stressed with her. The worst type of human beings in my opinion. I’ve seen a few women since, and that experience has shown me how to spot the red flags right away. Never settle gentlemen. If you have a woman like this…LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. They do not have the capacity to change.

[flyingfluffyhockey]

I would like to add #11 - she will never tell you the full truth about things, ever. You will receive ever changing versions, tears, claims that she does not remember, and be told that YOU are insecure, making things up, that you need therapy, ect....all the while you know she is lying because you saw the emails ect. It's brutal because you want SO BAD for her just to tell you the truth, but she never, NEVER will

[richardlebreton]

constantly having to prove that you're better than her "loser ex" after awhile you'll be "just like her loser ex no matter what you do"

[emilkadd]

To all the men in the comments that went trough abuse and got out intact…. Still have will and power to fight on and get well. Firstly I want to say congratulations. If you ever at doubt with yourself or yourself worth - don’t be. By leaving addictive and toxic relationship you have demonstrated how strong you are. It’s one of the hardest decisions any person can make in a lifetime. Takes strength, courage and immense dedication. You can be many things but you are definitely NOT weak.
You can be proud of yourself when you look at the mirror.

I must also add: If you let in a toxic person into your life, ignored all the red flags and stuck in the relationshit for certain period of time…. Then there is also a present issue within yourself. Such as codependency, people pleasing. Maybe some trauma in the past you are not aware of. You would do yourself good by tackling these issues to improve your life and avoid toxic ppl in the future.

Stay well kings 👑

[dianezielinski]

Female covert narc, 10 behaviors:

1. Entrust with most vulnerable information. Negative shift. Figure out what she needs.
2. Super passive agressive. Pushing buttons. Acts upset. All fabricated.
3. Incredibly defensive. Dismissive. Minimalizes.
4. Extremely careless w/ emotions. Zero empathy.
5. Cannot win, it will wrong.
6. Compare you, relationship to others. Feeling unworthy.
7. Grading performance, sex, dissatisfied with gifts. Thin ice. Begging for approval.
8. Boundaries will be disregarded.
9. Know and control everything. Afraid to make a decision.
10. Stripped of self worth. See a shell of a person you were. Become a puppy dog. 🐶

Thank you! Great video.

[jeremiahdavidpriest]

As a man this is scary, I've been married for ten years and every time I try to tell folk that this what I'm going through they think I'm wrong and that I should try harder. Smh this video is crazy. I've never had anyone hit it on the head as accurate as you have.

[nyoom]

Was just released from a 9 day stay in the psych ward after finally getting away from a 5 year relationship with a narcissist. It's doable, it just hurts alot. Stay safe, kings.

[JohnExploresEverything]

Many women I’ve dated tried to do this to me. I always said “happiness comes from within, if you’re not happy in your heart you won’t be happy with me.” And the fact that I wouldn’t bend to their manipulation would signal the end of the relationship. Which now I see I was dodging many bullets.

[NFTeve]

Very good explanation. My mom has destroyed generations

[gdon-kf]

Thank you for this explanation. I loved my beautiful family and did everything the best I could to take care of them, but it was never enough. She constantly invalidated me, and somehow made me seem like the bad guy in every situation which was not true at all. After 26 years of marriage she divorced me, with no explanation and no conversation. I was so devastated that I became homeless. During this dark time God spoke to me and told me that I had been a good husband and a good father and that he loved me and was proud of me for all that I had done, and all that I had tried to do. I now feel complete and validated by the one who sees and knows all things. Thanks again, this helps to make sense of things.

[DaMnVorteX]

The double standards with boundaries is something so evil. it’s like they want everything about you to be theirs, and as soon as you ask something very little of them they freak out like how dare you! Super selfish behavior is all I experienced.

[mza]

All this sounds like my first wife, she came from a very disfunctional family and nothing ever made her happy. Giving up on her was the biggest relief I ever felt in my life.

[mr.eastcoastgrow]

I'm lost. Lost of sense of self. Confidence. Doubt myself. The one who made me feel like a king now makes me feel like nothing. She says I'm crazy. I believed it for a long time. Time to choose.And if anyone else is feeling hopeless and can't decide what to do your not alone. We will get through it. Alone but together