7 Red Flags In Dating You Should Watch Out For

Learning how to recognize the dating red flags and the early signs a relationship won't work out can save us a lot of pain and regret later down the road. We’d all like to believe that we’re too smart to let our hearts rule our heads. But when it comes to dating, too often do we let our emotions cloud our better judgment. To help you save yourself from heartbreak, we've created a video on some of the red flags in dating you need to start looking out for!

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Zuzia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[TotalImmortl]

Video: *_exists_*


Singles: *So you've summoned us?*

[MrJoon]

"the heart gets confused when it's constantly told 'i love you' by the same person who destroys it.."
-r.h sin

[YamiBlake]

In my experience, I think the most important thing is: Trust your gut.
When something feels off - it probably is
When you feel hurt because of what your partner did - it means he/she hurt you and it's wrong if they don't accept it because "you're so sensitive", "I didn't mean to"
No. Your gut always tells you if something is wrong and you can keep telling yourself it's not but that feeling won't go away.
I'm just saying it because I used to ignore my gut and had to endure a lot of pain because of that - just watch out, be careful out there and never forget, your feelings matter!!

[nicolebrowne]

8. When they talk about themselves a lot and don’t ask you questions about yourself

P.S. I know people get nervous and ramble (this happens to me sometimes) but I’m speaking of those who are just too self-centered to notice who is sitting across from them

[fitnessmmaplaylists]

I swear this is the best community in all YouTube. Everyone here is supportive and care to help

[solseclipse]

1. They always agree with you 0:55
2. They hide things from you 1:37
3. They don't prioritize you 2:06
4. They are dismissive of you 2:38
5. They easily get jealous 3:13
6. They make you second-guess their feelings 3:42
7. They talk badly about their exes 4:13

Thank you for reading! <3
Unrelated, but what is everyone doing for Halloween? I'm going ghost hunting!

[mozarellacheeze]

Any singles here watching this video for no reason? 🙋🏻‍♀️

[cecegranados]

After watching this I can recognize myself doing these things. That’s exactly why I told myself and people I talk to that I’m not ready for a relationship because I don’t want them to feel like that and get hurt. It’s important to recognize not only when someone is doing something to you but when you do something to someone. Honesty and communication is essential when dating.

[MO-key]

I honestly always end up falling asleep when listening to her soothing voice..

Its been a YEAR!! since i posted this comment just wanted to say thank you for the likes and for being a wonderful community❤️

[belle]

Don't date an emotionally unavailable person! Waste of time! Run for the hills!!

[tinycalflover]

I sort of disagree with the the last point. Me and my boyfriend have spoken about all our exs to each other. I think it can help the other person understand why you are who you are in a relationship. Me personally I've been cheated on which makes me jealous and paranoid at times, he understands why I feel this way sometimes and reasures me rather than just calling me stupid like other past relationships have.

[sharianlloyd]

Do not engage too quickly is a sexual relationship. What works for some people won’t work for others. You must hold back the sexual attraction for sound reasons.

Know a person’s health background. Ask questions sprinkled into ongoing conversations. A healthy sexual relationship is always good. “Take your lover to the doctor date” is a good way of knowing if he/she is really into you.

“Anything worth having is worth waiting for.” “Slow and steady wins the race.” “Don’t put the cart before the horse.” “You build a house one brick at a time with a solid foundation.” “Be a good listener.” These old adages still prove to be accurate today.

[avserenity]

It’s so much better to deal with the very temporary sadness behind letting toxic relationships go immediately rather than letting the heartbreak build! Great video.

[herbzrgreen]

0:38 1 - They always agree with you
1:35 2 - They hide things from you
2:05 3 - They don't prioritize you
2:37 4 - They are dismisive of you
3:14 5 - They easily get jealous
3:41 6 - They make you second guess your feelings
4:12 7 - They talk badly about their exes

[p.s.shnabel]

On the other hand, opening up about past relationships is part of establishing a good relationship.

My advice would be to look out for people who use very derogatory language and exhibit strong rage/hatred for an ex, when you haven't known each other for some time.

I'd trust my gut on this one. Does the new partner seem to be obsessed or still hung up in the past? Or are they just expressing a healthy amount of hurt over things gone wrong (and hopefully getting right this time).

One important thing I also look for is at least some praise for former partners. There must have been *something* at some point, and I think it's important we always remember that, take the positive with us.

[contrex]

Sidenote: Watch carefully if you're dating a person with ASD.

Most of the mentioned behavior also applies to Aspies and they don't do it because they don't like you, but mostly because it kinda worked in the past for them or at least they felt like it.

My example:
1. My partner hesitated at first to disagree, because he didn't know how I would react. Instead he went with an answer in his comfort zone.
2. Not really hiding, but just not telling, because it makes him feel vulnerable (telling his fam about me etc).
3. I'm am very important to him, but he needs his routines and time to be alone as well to charge his so called social battery.
4. My exemplary is just a human encyclopedia and doesn't compliment me too often. Took me quite some time.
5. Does not apply.
6. That's typical, because mostly it's because he just doesn't feel like I do. If I ask him if he misses me, he would answer: Well, I don't miss you, when we don't see each other. But I would miss you, if we would never see each other again.
7. Does not apply (at least in my case).

[bbuingtan]

omg the nails in the thumbnail are EVERYTHING

[stayhappylittlemermaid]

Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.

[StinkyEla]

I almost always agree with my gf but I don't do it to make her love me more, we just genuinely think the same way

[macadamia]

Entitlement for love/relationships is the biggest red flag I'd say.

Love/Relationships are something that takes time to brew up. Yet, there are desperate people that think a single night of "flirting" = a relationship.