125. My Ex Reached out Then Disappeared

In this video Rory discusses what to do if your EX reaches out and then disappears! He also goes into why this might have happened.

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[umpalumpa-qwru]

A video about 'Do I really want my ex back or is it my ego' would be great. I think a lot people, including me, are not sure if they miss their ex, just the time we had or if it's just our ego that's still hurt

[marcvslicinivscrassvs]

It is indeed a victory. I have no intentions in getting back with my ex, but the fact that she reached out first, and continues to reach out feels good. By doing No Contact and learning to be alone, I feel much stronger.

[shuhanak]

Reaching out and disappearing continuously and inconsistencies in their behaviour and that too with meaningless messages ....its called poking the wounds.

[blacknight]

They disappear when they realize they can have you back at the snap of their fingers. DO NOT ASK THEM OUT when you first hear from them. Often they are just testing the waters. They want an ego boost, are lonely, bored, or have been dumped or hurt, and want to know if their comfort blanket is still available. The only way they'll come back for good is if they know they have to FIGHT for you. You are the prize! They need to EARN you back, and this will not happen if you play "eager beaver" and say, "So do you wanna hang out?" In their mind, they'll be thinking, "F**k, this desperate sap will take me back just like that after all these months? I'm not so sure I want this BETA cuck." Be the Alpha. This time around it's on THEM to make all the effort. Let them come to you and let them ask YOU out. If they are desperate enough to the point they fear losing you FOREVER, they will

[krystalo]

My ex reached out, I replied. Then I disappeared because the conversation doesn’t spark joy.

[itsspookie]

This happens a lot to me. My ex would always reach out to me until I finally told her to leave me alone. Sometimes there's something there. Most of the time however, it seems our ex's just need a hit of validation to go on with their day. Loving someone who doesn't reciprocate is a destructive path friends. Deep down YOU KNOW the flaws of you two being together again. Don't ignore what's right in your face.

[klougauxmarrons]

I was one of the people who asked for this video, so thank you so much, Rory!
My ex reached out three times and disappeared three times, we hung out, he likes things I post on social media... but he’s in a rebound relationship. So I totally agree, sometimes they’re just testing the waters but not in a steady emotional state that will allow the two of you to reconnect properly. Better to keep focusing on yourself and not put your life on hold for them. If they manage to assert what they want and it’s being with you, then great. If not, whatever.

[vannhelsin]

When they reach out ignore them this will make them go CRAZYYY

[MissSarahGM]

Narcissists hoovering : they come back just to check their grip on you.

[GirlsOnTop_]

My story is quite different. We broke up on a good term even if I didn’t agree with it at first, he said he needs space and time for himself (and for sure, to see someone else) i was hurt. He reached out 3 times in 3 weeks of our break up to check if i’m okay.

I still love him and want him back, but he needs to sort himself out. I’m not his options. He can’t just come and go.

[Tig-bv]

Sounds like a narcissistic "hoover" to me. 🙄 Vanishing magicians. They'll reach out again if they can't find any other good supply.

[simonsays]

Thank you for this video man, it really helped me. My ex reached out last week and one thing led to another but now she dissapeared again. Im back in nc baby, i feel good :)

[jesserobert]

Thank you so much for this video Rory! This was exactly what I needed, because EXACTLY what you described happened to me. She finally reached out after 5 months around 12 AM, the next day the conversation barely started and she disappeared after telling me she was glad I was doing great. After this, I never reached out and continued with my life. I’m sure it won’t be the last time I’ll hear from her. But this victory feels good! The only games I play are video games :P

[bernieoconnell]

What a beautiful voice Rory has. Sorry he’s not doing dating coaching anymore 😊

[jumangiiowl]

126. How to be more attractive
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Thank you and keep up the great work Rory!

[Outsider_aa]

Please keep these videos coming, focusing on yourself can be a wide area to cover, I really appreciate your content.

[TheTouchofklass]

Sounds like an ex who doesn’t want you to move on, or it could be a Narcissistic Hoover attempt.

[joonapietila]

When the past comes knocking, do not answer. It has nothing new to tell. Just live life to the fullest without regrets. So what if u messed up ur last relationship? Learn from it and find someone better. We only live once, so mind as well just take the famous YOLO attitude and keep on being ur awesome self! Interesting content coach.

[victortouschang]

my Ex called me yesterday after 5 months of no contact. We chatted for a while and I know that I need to set a date, but part of me just don't want to because this person hurt me way too much for me to be able to look into her and pretend nothing has happened....

[alpamomo]

Can you do a video on mind games. Reaching out and dissapearing or trying to get a reaction from you like making you jealous.