I Dumped My Ex, Should I Be The One To Reach Out?

Jocelyne, Erica and Corey discuss a viewer question that asks if he should be the one to reach out since he dumped her.

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[nealT]

Solid content right here. When reading the title you know the dumper is supposed to reach out, but I love the details involved and how coach reinforces the value behind boundaries and self respect.

[mrdee]

Coach is spot on, just raw truth no bs

[thewaxandgreaseremover]

Coach, I just want to take the time to say thank you so much for the content you give us and the world. I literally don’t know what I would do without you, you’ve changed my life for the better and when I get to a place where I am financially in a better place, I will book a phone coaching session just to say thank you in person.

The message from this video came at an absolutely crucial time for me. The words you spoke in this video were like if you were talking directly to me.

I dumped my girl back in late September for the very reasons described in the video, she was violating my boundaries continually and was becoming b*tchy and grumpy. She was one of those, “I can try to help her, or I can try to fix her, ” projects that you continually tell us NOT TO DO. Men, if you are reading this out there, never and I MEAN NEVER, try to fix someone. You can’t unless they want to, and if you try, it will only lead to a life of pain and torture.

Well, I got to the point where it was just too much for me to bear anymore, my HEALTH was being affected and that is when I pulled the trigger and let her go. And it is as they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. I was feeling weak today, I almost wanted to reach out and give her another chance, BUT, I am trusting my gut and paying attention to the Coach’s words.

Even before this video was released, I was of the mindset of: I want her to reach out to me with a GENUINE apology for what she did wrong. I want some recognition of what she did wrong, how she acted, and how she is striving to change.

Well, none of that has come. On the contrary, my girl was back at the club and on dating apps by the first week of our separation. It’s like the Coach says, she is currently of the mindset of, “I can be replaced, ” and it will take more boyfriends IF she can even change.

Stay strong my guys! If you needed the message in this video, stay strong! You know why you dumped your girl. You know she was causing your life to be miserable. You know she was violating your boundaries. You know she was taking you for granted. These are BIG and I mean BIG red flags.

The Coach always says, “the quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of your relationships, and your intimate relationship has about 95% control over the quality of your life.”

So don’t settle for someone who won’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated my guys! You DESERVE a girl who is easy going, easy to get a long with, and who can help you grow and support you. Not someone who will make your life miserable!

It’s better to be alone than to be with someone who will make your life miserable. BUT, if you follow the Coach’s advice, you will NEVER be alone if you become a 3% man! The world will become your playground and it will ultimately be you the one with the choice! STAY STRONG MY DUDES, WE GOT THIS! 💪

[ALEXANDER-qfig]

Needed this today coach, I broke things off with my ex after a string of drunken abuse, I communicated asked for change & it carried on, I have doubted my decision in times of loneliness it’s been 5 months now & I have been on dates but I’m not ready for anything serious or fully feel comfortable but I’d rather be on my own than with someone that doesn’t respect my boundaries, as I value respect over the word ‘love’ it’s meaningless if they are willing to continually hurt me as I don’t see that as someone that loves me if they can repeat said behaviour.

[shortingthetrend]

Never reach out to someone who you dumped cus then you're going back on your word and enabling bad behavior... This guy needs to wait for HER to reach out.

[djcapela]

The coach is always right. Good video corey.

[JM-zzvs]

Dear Coach Corey Wayne,
Thank you for your channel and your information .I first started to find channels like yours and similar after a breakup on " How To Get Them Back" and "No Contact Stuff".
All other type of coaches just say "go NC" and blah blah but none really target the issues on why as man were you dumped. I thought to myself how did this happen I'm tall, good looking, and a great caring boyfriend but it was after watching your videos did I realize "yeah you were cool and all man but you started acting like a weak needy boy to your girl and that turned her off, and then following the breakup I didn't act like a true man and remain unaffected by it, instead I tried to "convince" her . Getting chicks can be easy but once you have them it's also easy to fall into a comfort -beta zone. If it wasn't for you, I'd still be thinking stuff like "she just doesn't care", "she didn't value me :( " . At 25 years old, I can truly say I'm ahead of the game now finding your work but it's not enough, I'm convinced to buy your book and read 10-15 times to truly become a 3% man. Chicks want men not boys, so act like one . I could loose a chick for many reasons but never again for my own insecurities and losing my masculine frame.

[darrenharris]

No... never reach out to someone that dumped you. You wish her the best and walk away. If she reaches out to you and wants to get together. She's gotta come to you.. the farthest you should have to go is to the front door to let her in....

[Happy-Me.]

She was disrespectful, I dumped her and I would never chase her! Always remember that shes your ex for a reason!

[Strive_for_change]

what would you do if your ex reported you to the police missing during the relationship and then she ended the relationship and did the same again. when they know that you work and come home at the same time. what would you do in the situation?

[lifeadvice]

What if you had an argument and immediately afterwards deleted her on your social media can u still reach out months after that ?

[tjbohmier]

"Two strikes your out!" I will give two chances. If I have an issue with a woman's poor behavior/actions towards me and she does not address them sincerely, I'm gone.

[frawnt]

What if when either one reaches out and you have thorough talk about what went wrong and consciously work on bettering that and apply the same system with future problems? And then put it to the test of time

[NightLife]

Wow corey came in clutch, I just broke of a 7 year relationship because of this, and I was the one reaching out, fuck that

[DukeFavre]

Don't do it. Maybe you have a bad day and regret dumping her BUT don't ignore the red flags. You said "she does not care". Maybe you need some validation or you're specting more, a 50/50 relationship but it's going nowhere. Move on. Don't taste the water. Piece of advice. If someone cares about you, he/she will reach out. You don't dump and reachout someone you hurt. Focus on you and hope for the best.

[JackGordon]

No matter the reason, the dumper is the one that ended the relationship, shattered a connection, and walked out. Not the other way around. It's on them to mend it. If there was abuse, neglect, etc. from the dumpee, they need a lot of time to reflect and fix their shortcomings. In that process they may find someone else and hopefully not repeat the same mistakes. But it is on the dumper to check if the dumpee has changed or not.