7 Reasons Why Your Ex Contacted You & Then Disappeared

Your ex has finally contacted you during no contact! You text or talk for a few days and then they disappear. Why did they do that?

In this week's video dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals why an ex will first reach out and then ghost.

Lucia is an internationally known dating/relationship expert, author of "Lucia's Lessons of Love", former host of "The Art of Love" TV and radio shows, a syndicated columnist and keynote speaker.

She has over 100 major national and international TV and radio credits including Dr. Phil, The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, 60 Minutes Australia, The CBS Early Show, ABC 7 News, Good Day L.A and the KTLA News.

Lucia has been interviewed by numerous publications including Details, Business Week, Allure, Elle and media from Italy, France, Germany, Canada, Japan, the UK, Australia, Azerbaijan, Chile and Denmark.

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[tiny_tim_needs_love_too]

When you finally heal and take your power back, you realize that they are not a necessity, but they are only a desire. A desire can be lived without. The necessity is you loving yourself more than them and putting you first. No more games if they want you they have to earn their way back. No contact says reply pieces of the loaf not just crumbs.

[kula]

I really hate when they do this.brings your emotions back.not again.I won’t answer her calls This time

[johncieclark]

They won’t say something significant if they’re an avoidant.

[rebeccaweaver]

Mine visits me in person then disappears, I’m only posting this because I think he wants me to “chase” him and be “his backup” like I was in the past, I also wanted to say I think when he chats with me I give him too much information even though I’m so much colder then I have been in the past and make it clear what I need in order for me to consider him at all and then he disappears. So less is more everyone! Sometimes they know how to get just enough out of you to feel they have you as a backup!

[ElevatedCultivator]

After 2 years no contract she contacted me saying she regretted not trying more ..then she suddenly disappeared but said shes in a difficult situation shes far but moving back to our city we'll be together....in no contact again 3 months not playing her games ....

[davidriley]

She left. Posting all kind of moving on and other stuff. Bad break up. Went no contact immediately! Been 2 weeks. Now, I’m Getting breadcrumbs ALL over my social media. Gonna take more than that! Lucia is the bomb!! Listen to her fellas. DO NOT BEG! Fight it the reaching out!

[kenbrooks]

At Christmas she texted me Merry Christmas, I responded with Merry Christmas Sweetheart, back to radio silence😢

[Noora]

I went no contact. It was the hardest thing I ever did. He came to see me on Valentine’s Day so I thought he would come so we can talk. He didn’t say anything. Not even sorry. Nothing. Acted like he didn’t do anything wrong. He called a month later and now again silence. Im so tired of his in and out.

[Luzma]

My ex reached out after almost 1 year of no contact. Of course, her message was non significant she just told me that she has been thinking about me and my family, and that she hopes everything was doing well. I DID NOT answer.

[cobaincowboy]

I learned this the hard way but never go back to a ex guys, as my old man would say they are a X for a reason..

We just gotta focus on ourselves and the right person will come along eventually:)

God bless us all

[sdt]

He left after an argument, and said I am leaving, November 16. I immediately went in no contact. His sister called me on New Years Eve.🤔 Day 83, He finally emailed on Feb 10, with 14 love songs, Feb 11th he text 4 more love songs, Feb 12th phone called but left no message. Feb. 13 texted me good morning sunshine is emoji, then texted. I am sorry things did not work out with us. He said " I will always love you forever" I did not respond to anything. I feel he should have left a message. I am still in no contact.

[Kmahersh]

I broke up with my ex because he didn’t want to discuss the future after 4.5 years together. I reached out to him after 3.5 months and he initially seemed excited. He asked me to go to coffee and a week later we went out to dinner. About two days after, his texting died off and he ghosted me. It’s been 3.5 weeks of silence. I guess it was his way of getting back at me for breaking up with him. I really wanted to get back together and work on things, but after ghosting me when I tried to reconnect, I would be a fool to ever consider him again. It just lets me know ending things was the right decision. 😢

[junimarifam]

Lucia… love your videos. My ex reached out twice (one call after the other) 5 days ago and completely ignored both calls. Have not heard from her since. I am still in no contact… 32 days and counting!!!

[johnnycalderon]

She called me crying that she missed n.. was upset at me for now changing wen i had a chance. I said ok. A day later she says she doesnt love me and doesnt want to work it out 🤦‍♂️. I just told her dont call me again. 34 years old and acting like a teenager!!

[EsmeraldaRojas-ygew]

Yes I decided to text my ex because of his birthday and then I logged out as soon as I messaged him, later that night I see he texted my number saying hey and starting a conversation then he disappeared leaving me confused and I felt like I was heartbroken again like he opened a wound that I was already healing and the crazy part I was just being nice and didn’t even expect a conversation for saying Happy Birthday

[tarawebster]

I haven’t heard from him since december, when he sent me an insignificant message, that I didn’t reply to. I really want to move on from this, but a part of me wants to hear from him so bad

[Jacquie]

What is considered a significant message from them? 43 days no contact at the moment. I'm feeling much better but think of him often.

[luvngold]

blocked me, deleted social media, changed numbers 💔 it hurts. Especially being in different states. I made my mistakes, (begged /pleaded bc wanted closure/ anxiety, blamed myself ) I never wanted him out of my life, never wanted to push him away, but I think I blew it. I even said that I respected his decision, just the hardest part was him not being in my life in any capacity, even as a friend.

I tried no contact and failed. I hate myself so much. My trauma brain took over.

[longfellow]

In 2.5 years I've heard from her probably 10 times. As soon as she gets a sniff that I'm up for seeing her she vanishes. She even sent me a super like on a dating app as I had blocked her. She says things that are significant and that makes no difference. I could't give two shits about her now though, but it's draining all the same. I'm assuming narcissism is at play here but be warned, just because they contact you they could quite likely just be seeking validation.

[stormmtl]

I saw this video too late. My ex called me back after 21 days of silence. I thought she wanted to come back but no, she was just breadcrap.. I wasn't strong enough and I tried to convince her but she told me she doesn't love me anymore and she just wanted to know how I was doing... I guess the timer is starting over and it's just going to be longer this time because she's reassured that I'm waiting?