How to Talk to People When You Have No Common Interests

Tips on avoiding those awkward silences.

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[JP-]

My favorite icebreaker question:

"What are you looking forward to, lately?"

[michaellowder]

I have no common interests with anyone I meet so it's hard for me to even make friends

[amro]

I used to struggle with this a lot when I was a bit younger, but later as I grew older I realized that I simply don't need to try or do anything, and since then I no longer worry about it. Now whenever I'm with relatives or any group of people where I find that we seem to have no common interests, I have no problem sitting silent through the event - much more pleasant and easier than awkwardly trying to mingle.

[djdeth]

this subject hurts me to the soul because i am very passionate about what im interested in..people always seem like they wanna either 1up you or just show no general interest at all with things you love

[tramarthomas]

Im a weirdo and I find it hard to connect with others, let alone speak in a concise way to them. Life is hell and Im ready to go

[Liza-cxcy]

I think talking with someone with no common interest with you is really fun and challenging. You'll really know more stuffs about his interests and he'll really know many stuffs about you if both of you are keep asking a question.

[leigholding]

The best advice I herd was to pretend that your a celebrity and when ever you go outside and people are walking around and you want to approach and start a conversation, then every one around you is outside to meet you cause your the very reason they have come out to walk around, like a abundance mindset

[itzkeven]

With someone face to face, it is easy. But when i face it in a group with no common interest.. this is feel so hard to me like i got nothing to talk, just quiet and be kinda weird to the others :(

[averymurray]

Here is another tip! It is sometimes fun to not have common interests because then you have more debate in your conversations with opinions!

[Fleetstreetbestone]

How would you start a conversation with someone you’ve known for a long time like in school and have nothing in common? Please answer I can’t handle the awkwardness anymore...

[j-prosper]

has anyone had those moments where someone is talking to you and no matter how hard you try to listen to their speech of passion. You find yourself not retaining what they said because you couldnt find a hooking point. also when i try to focus more on something im not intrested in im finding myself missing everything because im telling myself to listen.

[MetalVikingBatmanfan]

Most of all my cousins and uncles are big football fans/ soccer but i am never shure on what to talk about with them because i ha 0 intrest in that but i am the only metalhead in my entire family both on my mums and also my dads side, so i tend to just got to the default weather conversation, this video is very Insightful and interesting given me some things to think about

[starshot]

I have something to add: Try finding out why they are passionate or so interested by this topic, without trying to change them in any way. Just hearing why they might find something meaningful can make you resonate with them more. If you have something to add, first compliment them, regardless what their plan is, then ask a critical question, rather than expressing your opinion about it. A question should be as objective as you can make it. Practice facial expression if you have a hard time making and reading expressions that fit the situation.

[stevestone]

Awesome awesome tips! Great mindset.. thank you for sharing

[lucasa]

the hardest part for me is when the other person talks to passionate about something and all I can think of is "sorry, I don't care" but I don't want to be rude so I just say whatever

[FocusMrbjarke]

Awesome really like how it goes right to the point and also have great information :)

[miap]

Thank you so much. This is truly helpful. I have social anxiety and consistently overthink social situations. Hearing this is some of the best advice I have heard.
Thanks again. xo

[LosCarlos]

Martin's eyebrows are fascinating. He could be in a commercial for eyebrow products. 🤨

[emilioorange]

I’m watching this during covid and no one in my house watches anime and it’s really is lonely Bc usually talk about that subject and they don’t understand anything ->-

[nahaletaha]

Can you make a podcast about this book ''how to read a book".