How to speak so that people want to listen | Julian Treasure | TED

Have you ever felt like you're talking, but nobody is listening? Here's Julian Treasure to help you fix that. As the sound expert demonstrates some useful vocal exercises and shares tips on how to speak with empathy, he offers his vision for a sonorous world of listening and understanding.

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[meditationrelaxclub]

If everyone took an extra minute to think before speaking, the world would be such a better place.

[MrDuck]

He didn't use any "uhm"s or "eh"s in his speech. Absolutely amazing.

[MysticsofIndia]

this is the shortest 9 minute that have passed. What a life-changing speech.

[Venus-]

7 sins of speaking:
gossip
judging
negativity
complaining
excuses, not taking responsibility
exaggeration, that can become lying
dogmatism, confusion of facts with opinions

H - honesty, be clear and straight
A - authenticity, be yourself
I - integrity, be your word, trustworthy
L - love, wish people well

Humans prefer voices, that are low(coming from chest), rich, warm, smooth. YOU can train to get there (coach, posture, breathing, exercises).
Change tones, to communicate meanings. Dont use wrong tonality and make it reflect what you are trying to communicate.
Pace
Silence
Pitch - how high
Volume - from loud to quiet


Exercises:
2X arms up, deep breath in - breath out as arms go down
warm up lips "ba, ba, ba..." 8:14
lips coming alive "brrrr" like kids
tongue exaggerated "la, la, la, la"
like champagne for the tongue
siren high to low 2x "oooweeeeaaaw" copied comment, used for reminder perposes

[ondermetu]

4:06 " If you are wishing somebody's well, it is very hard to judge them at the same time. " impressive expression, so real.

[swine]

"Theres nothing wrong with silence, is there?"

This man has obviously never been to dinner with my family.

[ayaankhan]

Thank you for the great info, my takeaways:

- Things to avoid:
- Judging
- Excuses
- Gossip
- Dogamatism
- Complaining
- Lying
- Negativity

- HAIL
to greet or acclaim enthusiastically

H - Honesty → Be clear and straight

A - Authenticity → Standing in your own truth

I - Integrity → be your word

L - Love → Wish them well

- Voice
Register

- Speak from the chest → Depth = Power and Authority

Timbre

- Way your voice feels → Rich-smooth-warm
- Train your voice - Voice Coach
- Breathing and posture

Prosody

- SIng song → Meta language
- Monotonic tone is boring
- Make it livilier with changing up the tones
- Repeatative Prosody coming up

Pace

- Pace up
- Slow down → Emphasize
- Silence

Pitch

- High and low pitch signify different meaning

Volume

- Vary volume according to purpose
- Warm Up Exercises

Arms Up → Deep breath in and sigh out Aaaaahhhh

Lips → Bupp Buppp Buppp

→ Brrr

Tongue

→ La la la la

→ Thrrrrthhrr → Champagne for the tongue

Pitch
-

[hospitalcleaner]

"People prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm like hot chocolate" Julian said, knowing his voice sounded rich, smooth and warm, like hot chocolate.

[countmein]

Did he just influence such a large group of people within 10mins to make them stand and do some warmups like that?
He proved his technique to be true. Amazing!

[lusamafatman]

His speech is like his head. Clean and smooth

[ysa]

I assumed this would be your basic talk on vocal coaching, how to carry and conduct oneself in public speaking. But he went to a deeper level and emphasized how we should speak about goodness, light, and positivity ❤ A concise message that hit the mark precisely ❤

[gilsukim]

Four things I learned from watching this talk

1. "Seven deadly sins of speaking to avoid"
1) gossip -> I need to work on this sin
2) judging -> I need to work on this sin
3) negativity -> I need to work on this sin
4) complaining -> I need to work on this sin
5) excuses
6) lying (embroidery, exaggeration)
7) dogmatism (confusion between fact and opinion)

2. what I need to say: four powerful cornerstones of speech to make a change in the world
c.f. "hail means to greet or acclaim enthusiastically"
1) H: honesty (be clear and straight)
2) A: authenticity (be myself)
3) I: integrity (be my word)
4) L: love (wish them well)

3. how I need to say: tools to play with to increase power of my speech
1) register: e.g. if wanting weight, lower pitch of voice
2) timbre: the way voice feels e.g. breathing, posture
3) prosody: rhythm (e.g. not monotone)
4) pace: e.g. slow to emphasize
5) pitch: e.g. make pitch high or low
6) volume: e.g. louder to emphasize

4. exercise the following before making a presentation
1) arms up to sigh out with ahh
2) lips with ba ba
3) lips with brrr
4) tongue with la
5) tongue rolling an r
6) siren from we to aww

[Bitter_Biscuit]

Notes and summary for myself

The seven deadly sins of Speaking

1. Gossip: Speaking negatively about someone who is not present. People will not trust you because a while later, you will gossip about them.
2. Judging: It is hard to listen to someone who consistently judge you during a conversation.
3. Negativity: Having a negative viewpoint on things.
4. Complaining: which is mere viral misery. Could be on anything, politics, sports, or the weather.
5. Excuses: Not taking responsibility for our actions and being a blame-thrower
6. Exaggeration: Drawing an imaginary image and inflating stuff excessively. It can get to the point of outright **lying**.
7. Dogmatism: stating your opinions as if they are facts without consideration of an evidence to support your claims. In other words, Bombarding people with biased opinions on a certain topic.


- Foundation of powerful speech (HAIL)

1. Honesty: Being clear and straight. Not using deception and lies. But using brutal and unnecessary honesty could hurt people. "Honesty tempered with Love".
2. Authenticity: Being yourself and not imitating a non-genuine persona. "Standing in your own truth".
3. Integrity: Be your word. Do what you say. Be trustworthy, and take responsibility.
4. Love: Wishing people well. No judgement.


- Toolbox of Speech (Voice)

1. Register: Talk from your chest, not the nose or throat. "We vote for the politicians with lower voices". People associate depth with power and authority.
2. Timbre: The way the voice feels. "Rich, Smooth, Warm, like hot chocolate." It is a skill that can be trained.
3. Prosody: Talking with enthusiasm, having a rhythmic voice, and not being monotonic like a robot. Avoid repetitive prosody as if every statement was a question.
4. Pace: Talk normally and slow right down to... *Emphasize*. Talking fast or slow at the right time is key in conveying your point.
5. Silence: A powerful tool to bring attention. Should not be filled with filler words such as UH's and UM's.
6. Pitch: To deliver an idea or ask a question and being understood. (The caps-lock of speech)
7. Volume: The quieter the better in bringing attention. But don't be too quiet all the time and don't be a broadcaster too. Pay attention to your loudness.


- Warm up the toolbox of voice

1. Arms up, take a deep breath and sigh.
2. Lips: (BA BA BA)
3. Lips: Horse sound
4. Tongue: Exaggerated (LA LA LA)
5. Tongue: Roll an R
6. The siren (WEEEE [High] yoooo [Low])

Speaking is one part of the puzzle because having a good conversation also depends on being a good listener.

Edit: Reconstructed the phrasing of the point of dogmatism.
Thank you for all the beautiful replies.Happy to make your day a bit easier :)

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[royalhighness]

I'm learning more on the internet than I'm learning in school

[aeronaut]

Imagine someone being late and walking in at 8:49

[zzo_duduu_]

He such a good speaker. I like the way he spoke and his confidence. I love his speech

[kingzeus]

Conversation and speaking is truly an intricate art. The mastery of it takes discipline composure and consistency, among many other things. I now take every single interaction I have, whether it be a physical interaction or via any digital format text messaging, etc. I take it as a test for myself every time. I then rate my conversion based on how well I applied this great information to work on all my weaknesses each time I strive to do better than my last interaction. How to correctly apply this information is key. Thank you for sharing this information with us all. To anyone reading this comment, I really do wish you all the best. The more we practice, the better we all become so start now and take action immediately speak light and positivity all day every day. Children of the light stay close to all those who speak and live life positively.

[mathieublake]

The Dont's
Habits to move away from -- Seven deadly sins of speaking:
1. Gossip
2. Judging
3. Negativity
4. Complaining
5. Blame-throwing (Excuses)
6. Embroidery, exaggeration --> lying
7. Dogmatism (my way or the highway; conflating fact and opinion)


The Do's
H.A.I.L -- Four (4) cornerstones of powerful, change-making speech
H - Honesty: Being true - straight and clear.
A - Authenticity: Be yourself. [Standing in your own truth.]
I - Integrity: Be your word. [Doing what you say.]
L - Love: Wish them well.

Toolbox (the voice) - Some tools
Register - (P.s. Depth is associated with power and authority.)
Timbre - The way your voice feels -- rich, smooth, warm (can be trained!)
Prosody - the sing-song, the meta-language, the root 1 of meaning in cnversation.
Pace - including silence (don't have to be filled with ums and ahs)
Pitch - to indicate arousal, etc.
Volume - excitement (loud), attention-grabbing (quiet)

Warm up your voice!
1. Arms up, deep breath in. Sigh out.
Lips:
2. Ba-ba-ba-na
3:
Tongue:
4. Exaggerated la-la-la-la
5. Roll an


6 The siren - Weeee (high)... awwww (low) [Repeat] The only one if able to do only one.

[ChristinaDunlap]

Not one time did my mind wander or drift away. This was pure excellence.