How To Get People To Open Up

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Welcome to the BeeFriend course. In today's lesson, I'm going to share with you the mindset I have when trying to have deeper conversations with people. I'm often on the receiving end of many secrets and bottled up emotions from the get go. And this is because of 2 things that I tend to do while talking to others. This is how I get others to open up to me.

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[Brickinasock]

When you open up, others open up. Remember, though: you can only open the door. Don't get mad if they don't walk through. Same for getting anybody to like you. If they don't respond, move on.

[theraptor]

On history class a girl opened a conversation by saying, "have you ever licked a wall" it was a very deep conversation

[manamancer]

Most important advice about opening up: be ready for people to judge/reject you. Not everyone can bring themselves to be objective and understanding.

[jorianvannee]

-doesn't care about what society thinks
-explains the importance of 'social value'

[danwooliver]

man: **opens up to you and hasn't told anybody**
you: **puts it on internet**

[markangelosambrano]

Dentist: Open up please

Me: Sometimes I get sad.

[Victor-yz]

How to open up someone

First step - iniciate with small talk
Second step - get a little deeper, but slowly
Third step - talk about things that bothers you, and ask for the other person's opinion
Fourth step - be intimate, just don't rush things, at this step, you should prioritize being genuine

Remember that being smooth and intuitive are keys that will help you opening that door, and the progression should be slow, and remember to listen the person you're conversating. The thing you must prioritize in the entire conversation is being genuine.

[augth]

"Hello I squat on toilets"

"Oh wow I feel like we’ll be best friends !"

[tunasandwich]

The scary part about opening up is when they judge and avoid you after the conversation

[danieleduardomorenoperez]

The hardest thing about opening up a person, is when they start screaming :(

[chadlikespasta]

I like that you address the "social value" aspect. How certain things can land differently depending on who they come from, and some advice isnt a one size fits all type of deal.

[strivingfornewhorizons]

I just realized that that's why my roommate and I had a deep connection right from the start. We both did those things. My strength is opened up by telling weird stories and being honest about who I am, his strength is listening very closely (he's extremely attentive, something I have to pay more attention to)

[jamesgriffin]

“I actually squat on the toilet”

*Finally.. someone who understands me*

[santosaints]

Omg, It works! I followed these tips and I got a person to open up about them being a serial killer.

[neville]

This is something I've realized I do unconsciously. I have never understood why people suddenly open up to me about so private stuff even though I haven't even known them for long. My next step is to learn how to actually respond to someone suddenly opening up cause rn I get really overwhelmed and I don't know how to properly answer.

[vincent]

3:09 is the part where it says "if you're out of shape or poor, don't even bother". That's great. That judgmentalism is why a lot of people off themselves.

[garciaerick]

1.Lower your filter. This will make others believe that you can't be any crazier than them.
2.ask assumption questions. Pick up on cues and ask questions based off those and what interests you about them. It's okay to be honest.
This is my way of engraving these lessons into my noggin :)

[themosaab]

Nobody:
Improvement pill: so I don't actually sit down on toilets, it turns out that's not how we're biologically designed to do it.

[mellacorn]

As a person who rarely opens up I find it annoying and even more hard to open up when people try to hard to get me to open up. Like even if I know they aren’t being harmful it’s still difficult.

[DannieWiz]

The dude who told him bout his fiance watching this: 😳