How To Take Criticism Without Getting Defensive

Being defensive comes to us very naturally and can validate accusation. Is there a right way to take criticism? Fortunately, there are ways to overcome it.

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[nxxo.hwvp]

As someone who is sensitive in criticism i always repeat their words in my head and i imply myself that it isn't that deep but whenever i suddenly remember it, it irritates me. Even in school if i was given simple criticism i would overthink what others might think of me, but i grew out to take it as a lesson although i still am sensitive 🤣 thank you for this video!

[mindmybusiness_peace]

This man saved my life. I been watching & listening to him. I'll watch his video over and over again to remind myself. Being angry only gonna hurt me. I'm here to learn and not be negative towards someone when I get defensive, upset or angry with anyone.

[Nathan-xrgv]

Everyone who looked up this video is already taking the proper path of self reflection. 😊

[metamorfoggie]

I tend to take work criticism personally, and always end up wanting to cry, which I know i can't do, but it's hard to control! what do you recomend?

[fantasy]

I wish the rest of my family would understand that sensitivity can be good! Thank you for this! It helps me think in a different way :)

[brianng]

I've had so much problems with being defensive up to the point where it cost me many days of heated never ending pointless arguments that has a repetitive pattern, this helps a whole lot. Kudos yet again Dr Paul. Thank you.

[picklevid]

I had a situation this week that left me anxious, confused and angry. I was misreading it so after a debrief I looked at why I get all defensive when I'm being criticised and this really helped me. So Thank you for your feedback

[BubblyBibleGirl]

0:30 Defensiveness Validates Accusation
1:30 There's a Difference Between Facts & OPINIONS
2:10 We Don't Have to Respond to That Attack
2:40 They're Telling Us More About Them Than They're Telling Us About Ourselves
2:50 What Other People Think About You is not YOUR Business
3:15 FEEDBACK: You're Getting Input Back From Something That You're Interacting With
3:40 INFORMATION: About What? About That Person's OPINION
4:25 My EXPERIENCE of You is That You're Sensitive
7:45 CRITICISM Can be Redefined as FEEDBACK
8:25 You're Still in a Better Stronger Position if YOU Consider it as FEEDBACK, Even if...
8:35 Say Thank You

[inyshel]

If someone says youre sensitive. Take it as if you know now how much is too much for them. Cuz your feelings are infinite.

[TayB]

Thank you so much; I’ve been carrying around this “guilt” that I have to change to make someone else feel comfortable or better about themselves when it’s not about me, it’s them.
And perception and sense of self is so important, now that I’m learning that; that one action does not define your whole personality, it makes you human; and you would lose yourself if you believe every criticism that someone has about you when you’re just minding your own business and doing your thing while setting boundaries.

[AZDC]

3:57--"Let's say someone tells you 'You're so sensitive' AS IF that's a BAD thing!" Talk about flipping the script!! Great video

[purpleflame]

This is such a very timely reminder of the universe to me ( like a heavy smack in the nape) to say ‘Thank You for your feedback’ to those who misunderstood my calmness and neutrality over chaotic situations. They thought of me as unsupportive of their negative emotions and blind or self-centered opinions. Well, my nature is not egoic that is why people view me as ‘not normal’. I have learned so much how to ‘respond’ instead of to ‘react’. And believe me folks, its more calming and peaceful
❤️

[destini]

I’m a videographer and I always have to send my videos to get reviewed by the client. I put my heart and soul into my work so when I get, what I now know as “feedback”, I get all worked up bc I know how much time and effort I put into a video to make it perfect to present. And in my mind it’s as perfect as it can be so when I get feedback of how it could be different I always take it as criticism even though I know that it’s not. This video really has helped me to understand how to process feedback for work so at the end of the day I have healthy customer relationships to keep my business going. Thank you!

[danielfundora]

I need to remind myself learning to maintain humbleless and open mind for criticism in better way to improve on daily lives very helpful thank you!

[TheeaMusic]

for those like me who are hypersensitive to/ dysregulated by it, I feel this affirmation will help with self-regulation:
"criticism = simply what triggers the other person"
very helpful talk! I just subbed to this channel.

[TheKrumster]

It depends, if someone calls you lazy and your not of course your gonna mad and defensive

[nugulikeyou]

i had to disagree in the part that you said "nobody thinks like this." because, not to toot my own horn, but this is exactly how i see it! often, this is how criticism translates to me and this is how i process it! though there are still times that my hotheadedness gets the best of me, this is how i think i normally see it!

[kylesconiers]

Did anyone feel defensive watching this video? Lol

[yc]

I have always taken things personally and have been tryong to interpret things less defensively. This is affirming and so hepful.
Thank you!

[Infiniteeverything]

Thank you for the feedback!! I was almost too defensive at the beginning of the video. I didn’t want to hear your opinion on my most shameful behaviour even though your not even here and It was my choice to watch it!!So crazy how brains be. Where has it all even come from ?😹😹 I really appreciated your insight. It’s exactly what I needed to hear and now I’m going to watch all the videos and learn how to master myself. Thank you