Dealing with Criticism

Dealing with criticism - constructive criticism and destructive criticism

There is only one way to avoid criticism - do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. Aristotle
How to deal with criticism - both constructive criticism and negative criticism. I not only cover receiving criticism, but also giving criticism.

Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't. - Eleanor Roosevelt

Focus on the positive
Don't dwell on negative thoughts
Do not complain or blame
Don't take criticism personally.

[forein.k]

I pray and hope everyone commenting can over come this and push for their goals, I don’t care for likes just wanna spread positivity

[User-zzyyxxvv]

I wish I learned this when I was young. I still have a hard time with criticism: especially if it’s harsh and rude. I take it personal. Thanks for this video. I’ll try the no complaining for one day.

[Arya-sujv]

When a co worker said something negative and critical to me which was a personal attack and unhelpful criticism, I responded with "Oh it's nice to see you too and walked away. She was at a loss for further words .

[thilagavathim]

I am very sensitive. Thank you for this video. I know it will take a great deal of strength and time to over come it...I'll try my best though.😍Thank you!!!

[letthesunshine]

No matter what you do, people will criticise, so do what makes you happy. 🌸🙇‍♀️

[notofficialdani]

Yesterday, some idiot tried to criticise me. I tried my best and this guy just wouldn't stop complaining. I then just ignored him completely. Thank you for the video as well! It really, really helped me out. Ignoring is also an option, which helped me a lot but I didn't do it properly.

[humanearthling]

You cited one of my favorite quotes! Aristotle's "There is only one way to avoid criticism - do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing." it's so true! This video you created is great and very timely .

[prophanic]

As someone who wants to make content this is something I struggle with a lot. It can be hard to hear or read rude comments and remarks discrediting stuff you actually put effort into, but the idea of separating actual feedback with negative words meant to hurt is helpful but easier said than done. I hope I can grow mentally to be able to take words like that and not let them bother me personally.

[fantasy]

I realize that I really do not complain much out loud if not at all. It is mostly those around me like family, and I am the one who just listens. I do complain to myself because I know the truth is that what I think really only matters to me.
If someone is criticizing without being constructive, as hard as this is, I believe I should have that same mindset, that it does not matter, they are complaining more than assisting.

[jessicatran]

I always felt on the defensive side, i tried to find meaning behind their words for they are not the kind and concise but hurtful constructive behavior policing every actions movement i can make. Some i need to cool off or after full steamed off, noticing how much i made to admit it was my fault. The thing i got to do is pinpoint the good and the bad criticisms from the complainers - observe and decide accordingly. This is the challenge in itself that keeps tripping on me, and i hate it and internalized it if it has gotten worse. Responsibility and criticisms can buds heads with one another, the challenges i faced are mainly my ego victim-mindset. I dislike how i most of the time jump to a conclusion without seeing the whole picture or stepping into their shoes/point of view, beliefs, values, backstory, and all the meantime not embraced their problems/stress/flaws as my own. It's a working process. I think the complainers are the best teachers to understanding yourself and finding out-of-the-box perspective of each criticism giver can offer. They're like a smothers and makes you don't care of situations stirred up by them, and at the same time still loves them, just because you can. Choices to improve. Now all I'd need to do is: take it into action, initiated steps, to follow thru my advice(s) and plans, that is another youtube videos I'm searching up in life lesson plan.

[shadowwsk]

My parent keep criticising me for not behaving the way they had expected me to be. Even though im clear of who i am, i am still always confused and forgotten who i am. I dont blame them, this is what parents do. I just wanna do things my own way.

[tangchankien]

Yesterday, i tried to dabate with other writers about my idea. Of course i prepared to handle criticisms but everyone was just being a d*ck. I tried to make them explain why was my idea so bad and their responses were all making fun of me, then i was a little aggressive by mocking their bad sense of humour. Gladly, i got myself calm and ignored them, never felt so much better.

[MartyEliBowerMusic]

this is so helpful, I'm going to try some of the exercises starting now!

[ninaschaefer]

I really like this video. The visual aids and quotes are fun and interesting. Thanks so much!!

[SydMountaineer]

The quotes shown in this video are excellent! And what the narrator said about how to model your response, or how you would handle criticism based on someone you admire, is EXCELLENT ADVICE! It's very tempting to respond to criticism, to explain to the person that you are not what they've assigned you to be, (especially when it's coming from someone in your family or someone you have to deal with everyday like your boss), but it does not help - at best, most people will say, "Yeah, okay, BUT you should /shouldn't do ____, you this, you, that - It does not register with them, because they are projecting, and need you to be the person they want you to be, in their own mind. That's where the quote about "none of my business" comes in helpful, both to the receiver/victim, and the blamer.

It is especially hurtful when a family member treats you normally when things are going good in life, until something happens in your life, then they wrongly blame you for, like when you get sick, lose a job, etc, instead if being supportive, they blame & criticize, even though they know better, that you're not that type of person, that you've never displayed the behavior they're accusing you of. That's when it's very tough, because you don't want them to think that way about you, so you have to deal with the fact that no matter what you do or say, they will always criticize & blame.

One important thing to remember, is boundaries, even when life is going well, and the blamer/criticizer has nothing bad to say about you, and is treating you normally, it's good to make boundaries during that time, too, so that they have consequences. Don't allow them to get away with saying that you're a terrible person one week, then they want to hang out with you the next - if you're such a terrible person, then why are they treating you normally, just because there is nothing current for them to criticize?

[NFS_Gamer]

Tons of people nowadays don't have the slightest clue of what criticism is, let alone practice it. It's one of the reasons why this world remains problematic.

[PatisaNombakuseITAuditMentor]

I love this, have a no complaining 7day! I will practice this

[juliaevans]

Even Jesus got criticised throughout his life .... and he was perfect !!

[meow]

i hope this helps. im very sensitive and bottle up my emotions, i cry myself to sleep at night. im not used to criticism or anything like that in any way, if i argue with someone i start having a panic attack

[jomac]

It's hard not to take it personally. My hubby seems to criticise me everyday, several time sometimes. I feel tired, angry and worthless.