Midweek with Dr. C- Narcissists Who Can’t Contain Their Misery

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[snowbear]

The narcissists in my life would never ask my perspective. They know it all.

[aaronkwolfe]

Containing misery gets them nothing. They want ALL the attention, sympathy, support, etc.

[snowbear]

My sister tried to destroy any friendship or relationship I had by turning people against me and isolating me.

[BaraSchmidt]

Catching you on the tape delay...A Narcissist is the "gift" that keeps on taking!
No matter how it's "wrapped" or who it's "gifted" to...the contents are the same!
With discernment and Radical Acceptance we can make psychologically safe choices - for ourselves. It's challenging, but remember...
Real, lasting change requires uncomfortable action.
Thank you Dr C and SIR GUS! See you next time!

[nicoledburns]

I have gotten so good at setting boundaries and going no contact...i realized I have to set an example for my kids and I cant do that if I allow myself to be abused and scapegoated.

[raven]

Alcoholism is covering up their feelings of inadequacy! I don't feel that I can engage well with other individuals! They are running away from their own responsibilities! Running away from insights that they don't want to deal with!

[kellyandaaron]

My ex would ruminate constantly. He would get angry when I'd leave things in a place of 'I'm going to agree to disagree'. We never lived together throughout the 4yrs, so he would leave and just barely communicate for days or weeks. The minute we would see each other in person, he'd start it right back up again. He never ever let go of a conversation where I disagreed with him. Eventually I couldn't take one more second of this and the mounds of other nasty behaviors. I loved him dearly, but I had to go no contact.

[janinealexander]

Dr. C. Your philosophy for D. R. C. has given me hope for humanity!
Dignity, Respect, Civility. Even has I approach an old Domestic partner
in court proceedings! and Confidence. the real kind in Christ.
Thank you for your commitment to educating us.

[garrimic]

One of the hardest things I have done was walk away from my father and my only older brother.

There’s many of days where I wish my mother was still here with us. She was the only one who was there for many different situations in my life. She was such a good woman and mother.

[cherylnathanodette]

The world needs more caring genuine people hope everyone on this channel is healing, God bless you all.

[gorgeousawesome]

We love you Dr, thank you again for all your love and support.

[caroleminke]

My mother in a nutshell 🤦‍♀️ it took me too long to go no contact 🤷‍♀️ it’s difficult to let go of your own mother but she no longer wanted to be one 🙍‍♀️ she just needed a scapegoat

[rwdchannel]

The reason narcissists are miserable is they made bad decisions when they were young and never stopped.

[amandaliverpool]

Its the only thing they do share. They not only try and bring you down to their miserable level but even lower!!!

[Hatbox]

I was with a narc who was nice to everyone, but always sarcastic and hateful to me. I did more for him than all of his friends, flying monkeys, etc., together, yet was never appreciated or thanked. Another thing I noticed about him was his pretentiousness. If he went somewhere and things didn't go as planned he'd act as though they had. He couldn't seem to deal with reality.

[hollyk]

I live with a narc and am moving in April. I went basically no contact because I got tired of nasty comments and conflict, avoiding them at all costs and was actually pretty successful..until she found a small excuse to blow up and scream insults at me, two feet away from her child, and the worst stuff you’ve EVER heard. She thinks I’m weak and had me convinced too. I developed epilepsy from stress and a tbi a year ago and I had a seizure this morning. She said she can’t help but to yell at me and there’s something wrong with me that creates that in her, so I said leave me ALONE but if she won’t I’ll call the cops. She witnessed 3 of 6 seizures I’ve had and the last time she verbally attacked me I was just home from the hospital that day. She carried no remorse and basically made it known that if an emergency were to happen don’t rely on her. I would never. Can’t afford to break my lease, so I am now invisible, I never saw her as abusive but I’ll die before she’ll admit any wrongs or show empathy. I’m disappointed in myself but I won’t allow this anymore, good people are out there and will believe I’m good too, just as I am.

My ❤ to anyone suffering with this, I’m so sorry.

[Justlookingmostly]

Dang. Almost a million of us narcissist sufferers. I hope each one of you finds a way to happiness. Im working on going elsewhere. Two hundred miles might be far enough away. On St. Patty's day im going. Wish me luck folks. I need some positive imput. 😢 Three days before leaving. Yesterday he put dry rib bones on the floor for my 16 year old dog. The day before he put some riblet bones on top of the garbage for him. I said nothing. So the next day he got even more dangerous ones to leave out for my old dog. Then he tried to say I threw the bones on the floor. Told him I have all the bones from mine in my bedroom. Because I knew he was going to do it again after the first try didn't work. I also said he was too predictable to do this stuff. Idiot.

[winter-qdyw]

I just want to say thank you for these videos. Today you brought up the question of how to respond. to a narcissist. First, thank you for mentioning that some of us have this with family members who
Happen to be adult children. This is so painful and I know it has so many questions around it alone, but it IS a part of narcissistic fallout for some of us. It is me wanting others to be aware how far this can go.

I feel I was meant to hear your response to this question as this just happened to me and am really struggling. I had to respond to my adult daughter (yes, with grands) to a question she asked last night. As it came in the form of a text I was able to sit with it for a while. I did not respond until early this AM as I literally started doubting myself but then did exactly what you described. My answer involved a decision on my part and I could not sleep all night as I felt the need to play out in my mind the ramifications of my answer. You are so spot on with the fact that we have to do this to know if we can bear the outcome to our responses. That in itself was my answer as far as my self doubt. There would be no need for this struggle within a healthy relationship. Thanks again. I appreciate you.

[Summer_Harvest]

Misers
Stealing a granddaughter from your daughter in law and enabling your son in his abuse. Keeping the grandchild after your daughter in law is deceased (while your son is serving) from the whole of her family!
She had her whole life ahead of her.

[hannibalnarchy]

Doc C, I just had to thank you for being who you are as an individual, and for lending so much heart and wisdom to us over these years. Your perspective and delivery is unique and unparalleled. Wishing you and family the best as always, including Mr. Gus! 🙏🏼