Midweek with Dr. C- Admitting Your Limitations With A Narcissist Can Feel So Wrong

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[sandrawamerdam]

I choose not to give my energy to that narcissist. You can only have a superficial conversation with them....then get out with any excuse you can think of.

[Snezanah]

I'll pray for Gus' s health.🙏🐾🐾🙏❤️

[jenreiter]

Over the past year, I've realized I've been with a covert narcissist, for so many years, all the flags are there, and it answers a lot of questions. . It actually took hearing the term "trauma bond" from my kids, to finally realize what's been going on. Hoping for some continued and healthy healing from now on. Trying to move forward.

[aaronkwolfe]

If I retaliate in kind to a narcissist behavior, I'll become who/what i hate. Not Worth it.

[jamaalhorton]

I don’t feel bad at ALL!! This channel helps me realize I’m not wrong! When I realized these people don’t care about my well being and I better start caring about my own well being life got better! I have eliminated many things for peace! People always say how cool my brothers are not knowing them like I do! I always say “ I don’t know I don’t talk to them “ to hear you say 80 percent of the population is incapable of clear thinking and self reflection explains why I’m extremely isolated!!

[jeankipper]

Something I've finally learned is if they say something, believe them. Drop it. Drop them. And am working on knowing, even when they don't say that.

[sandys]

Oh boy, I had to laugh when you said “oh your mother is the nicest lady, she brought the cookies over”, SPOT ON!!

[michelleharkness]

For the record- wishing both Dr. C., Ph.D., his friends and family and as well Puppy 🐶 GUS( a regular dog 🐶) a nice 😊 afternoon ahead and as well a pleasant evening ahead!!!

[a.pieceofpie]

I heard someone say that folks around you may not understand your plight with the narc because the narc isn't giving your friends/family the energy/actions that they are giving you.

[gypsyfaded]

I had the lolz at "Keep it shallow"
Hate, like love is a strong emotion. It helps me to remember that the opposite of love isn't hate ...it's indifference.
Get well soon, Gus! 💜🐾

[EGA]

My father was diagnosed with a severe narcissistic personality disorder. My mother finally divorced him after 30+ years of marriage, and he married the woman with whom he was having an affair. I went no contact for several decades thereafter. Towards the end, we had a few decent communications via mail. Then he died. In his will, he stated that I was dead. I think that's proof positive that they are incapable of love.

[christigoodeating]

I know I feel I can’t be myself around a narcissist!

[MT-txbu]

I think it can be helpful to see this behavior as being emotionally immature. Once I saw it as that, it helped me in so many ways. Being limited means your honest about who you are. Just recently, I heard someone say this: "If all you have to offer this someone is your friendship, would they stick around?" Thanks Dr. C:

[rebeccah]

Prayers for lil gus to feel better soon. And for you and your emotions going through this with him .

[gracemorrell]

Prayers and a pat on the head for GUS!! You will heal, Buddy!!

[bereal]

They're terribly confusing to be around. One minute nice the next awful and often it's when times are difficult already. They make good times awful and bad times horrendous. The emotional dysregulation and intermittent mental is like psychological warfare

[merin]

Haha. ANGER GAMES. Sounds like the HUNGER GAMES. “May the odds be ever in your favor.”😂👍👊

[faithinrockstars]

I was with my ex for just about 8 years, and they finally lifted their mask for the first time fully to me last week and I feel so bittersweet. The closure I already accepted I would never get from them I actually got, and all I could do was just thank them for giving me what I deserved (truth) and say goodbye for good. They are remorseful and regretful and I’m proud of them for doing that, I hope they find it in themselves to forgive themselves for their mistakes and continue to be insightful of their actions so they can continue their journey in life as losing me is and will be their lesson towards becoming a good and true person .

[kellymackie]

Thank you for this!! I feel like I have my encounter so far behind me and I’m healed !! But always cautious and I talk regularly with my young adult sons about being healthy in relationships. My 19 year old son is in college now and psychology is his major - mostly because of what we went through with narcissistic gangstalking in a church…
So my message here is: THERE IS A WAY BACK from it and there is a future with healing and health and peace! Don’t give up. My circle may be very small (lost my own brother and all his descendants) so it’s just us 4 and the friends we’ve made here in NRH . But we’re at PEACE.

[nina.]

I always listen to your Wednesdays live sessions Dr C. (Sweden-time) I especially love your answer today to the first question; don’t call her out, don’t press your feelings down… but answer with integrity, showing who you are. You give me tools to handle the situation I’m in. Thank you!