Should You Use No Contact If The Breakup Is Your Fault?

Are you wondering if you should implement the no contact rule after a breakup that was your fault? In this video, Coach Lee dives deep into the complexities of handling breakups where you were the one who made mistakes.

He discusses the benefits and potential pitfalls of going no contact if the breakup was your fault, how it can impact your chances of reconciliation, and the steps you should take to heal and grow from the experience.

Whether you're looking to win back your ex or simply move forward in a healthier way, this video will provide you with valuable insights and actionable advice if you are wondering if you should use no contact if you caused the breakup.

It's important to remember that your ex is a human being and has free will to make up their own mind.

Don't blame yourself for their actions or think that if you had the right words that everything would be back to how it was before the breakup.

Often it's not your fault at all but is a character flaw within your ex themselves.

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[DaveSustain]

A 100 good things you did are forgotten and that one bad reaction costs you the relationship that was full of love and respect. Love is strange.

[zackedward]

There could be many reasons, and I was blaming myself for the reason of the Breakup, but the main thing is if they do not love you, it's done. simple as that

[jakecornwall]

I don’t even care anymore, I just love Coach Lee.

[MDDR-ionh]

hi coach, 2 yrs of no contact after 22 yr relationship & I'm okay. He said at the time of the breakup that there was not anyone else, but that wasn't true & they're still together. I'm done, but you got me through the worst time of my life. I'm forever grateful! people PLEASE listen to this man!!

[nicolechemla]

Every word Coach Lee is saying in this video is a brick in the wall of mutual understanding, respect and knowing one's place in a relationship that had come to a point where you realize you were wrong and his breaing up was his decision.

In fact, I had followed CoachLee's advice and decided to apply the no contact rule and all the while, listening to his numerous most interesting and reassuring video's. In fact, I am feeling confident and stronger after six months of separation, and was surprise when he sent me a Holiday Card. Nevertheless, I'm still casual with my answers, never ever forgetting that he had broken up with me, and that we both have a long way to go, if at all, to break that long, odd and painful silence he had imposed on me/us.
Thank You Coach Lee for I couldn't have done it all by myself!

[spidercat]

If you've wronged them and you want them back send this message - "Hey, I know I hurt you and for that I'm truly sorry. You didn't deserve that and I hope one day you can forgive me and we can try again because I love you and have been working to improve myself in the following ways ---- but I completely understand if you can't forgive me."

[supernova]

My 14 year relationship ended in February and i have been in no contact sinch March. Was i counting days yes i was tbh. Only to realise my ex got married in the end of April. Who is more sick

No contact is not to get your ex understand that it is for you to heal and prepare yourself for the future

[kayluv]

My break up was mainly my fault. I apologized and took accountability. We talk and text occasionally. But I am in NC mode. Giving him space to process and take accountability for his part. I am not doing anything for him because then he will expect it.

[CathyDonnal]

Love Dave's coaching. I have noticed something with all the dating coaches, the no contact is tricky. They have you to do this no contact as if you were or are trying to get your ex back well all along you're the one who's healing & moving on. What a smart idea 😊

[WeaponUpgrade]

Right on time .. i treated my ex like crap for years and i honestly regret it when she told me over and over about the same problem and whats funny all i had to do was put my pride to the side it hurts not being around her but me treating her like that was hurting her more.. i just have to accept she’s moving on but she still texts me

[zacharydixon]

If your ex is toxic in the family is toxic, while the man is not abusive or toxic with a great work ethic, it’s not the man’s fault. I wish more people understood that. Strong men will not apologize in the situation. It’s not arrogance. It’s self-respect and knowing them real selves.

[roachofdoom]

The fault of the break up is on the person doing the breaking. If that’s you yes it’s your fault. Some people are able to work through their issues and forgive past mistakes instead of punishing the other person with loneliness.

[leenmurad]

Hey Coach! This video have been really helpful!
My ex broke up with me for the 3rd time around 7 months ago.
Prior to the breakup, we decided to go to couples therapy, whenever we had disagreements he would breakup with me, and I wanted us to break that pattern.
I don’t know if the breakup was my fault, but he went with it anyways.

About a month ago, we met and exchanged our stuff, it was really a friendly meeting, and he mentioned that he was battling with his heart and mind about us.

I texted him and told him how I felt, and that I feel what he is going through and if he wanted to meet and talk about it.
He said that he didn’t mean to mislead me and wanna continue with the breakup.
Now I am lost and I don’t know if we have a chance to work on our relationship, or if it’s really over.

[SuperDagod]

I’m
No contact but fully expect to start dating someone else at some point in the next six months. I’m not waiting forever. I’m gonna move on with my life and find someone even better and I’m on day six with no contact no more crying.

[markcool]

I lied and emotionally cheated on my ex. We both sat down and discussed what happened and why I did what I did, I owned it. I owed her that much. She said our relationship was over and she needed her space to process and heal, she didn't want me involved in her healing process or there as support as it only reminded her of what happened. I've respected her wishes and haven't made contact, it's been just over 3 weeks. Her birthday is coming up very soon, but I'm staying no contact. I chose to block her on social media. Seeing her all the time reminded me of the pain I put her through, the guilt I felt was very deep, I was ashamed of what I did. I need to heal and rebuild myself.
I will respect her wishes and stay no contact. But deep down inside I want her to contact me when she's had time to heal, and say we can try again.
Am I holding onto an impossible chance again, or should I just move on?
Thank you coach.
Everything you said in your video was spot on and made absolutely 💯 sense.
Thank you for your messages of guidance 🙏

[MarisolDiaz-ilcf]

That’s his attitude I just needed to know if he really cared! But no real communication avoid it at all cost 😢 I don’t regret cutting him off. Even if it hurts need to heal ❤

[Wellsjeremy]

My ex told me three weeks ago that I’m a good guy but she doesn’t feel we can recover from disrespecting each other. Fast forward three weeks later and she’s saying she wants to start back talking and miss goofing around with me. Is this a sign of breadcrumbing?

[Korra]

My ex actually wrote me after 5wks of No contact but was still pissed by how he left & decided not to respond back even when I actually still love him.

[fitforchrist]

Apologizing can be quite powerful as long as it's done from the heart, with full accountability and no buts. Im currently writing my ex a letter after giving her some space and time for myself to reflect and heal.

[doublelayerofcheckout]

My ex broke up with me and said he lost feelings with each fight we had. I was very insecure, we were LDR, and I always wanted to know how he was because he had a medical issue. So whenever he won't send a message when he wakes up, the worst case scenario pops up in my head. He said him chatting me in the morning and evening felt like a chore and me loving him too much was suffocating him. He was so used to being used and not being taken care of that he said he was just wired that way. He was a good man but he was a bad boyfriend. He ghosted me after offering friendship when he dumped me but I didn't reach out after a day. The only time I sent him a message was to tell him that I was finally letting him go and hoped him the best.