What Happens To Your Ex During No Contact?

Coach Lee explains what happens in your ex's heart when you use the no contact rule after they broke up with you. An ex can go through several steps that can result in them doubting the breakup and considering trying to get back together with you. The key is to know what they are going through and why because if you interrupt their progression through the steps, you could prevent or delay them coming back to you.

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[scottallan]

Hey guys. Followed Coach Lee to a tee. 12 months of no contact. Never initiated once. She breadcrummed once in a while. I did me and worked on myself and when she did reach out kept it light, flirty and non committal.

We have now been back together for a month. Talked through our issues and are back together. Everything the Coach Lee says your ex thinks of during this period is exactly what she experienced.

Trust the process...

[James-ycfc]

To the non-believers.... no contact works 100% of the time. You either reconcile and evolve with your former parner (win) AND/OR your self improvement during this process creates so much confidence in how you feel about yourself that you are overall a better partner for whoever you end up with. Focus on you. What your ex does IS NOT a reflection of who YOU are, it's a reflection of who THEY are. Stay strong.

[BB-odyd]

Stage -1 Relief
Stage2- curiosity
Stage 3- concern and good memories coming back
Stage 4- Fear that they made the wrong decision.

[epaliotisglx]

I know there are many people who watch these videos saying "this will not work in my case" or "my ex is not like that". I was in the same position too and no contact method worked for me perfectly. It is all about the psychology behind it. Be patient the time will come when they contact you back, so better be prepared for that moment. Keep your head up and focus on your goals during this no contact period❤️

[fordhamdigi]

I just did 6 weeks of no contact. My ex wound up calling me out of the blue. We talked for an hour and 15 minutes, then I wound up grabbing carry out and going to her house. We stayed up til 5 am talking and catching up. We wound up hanging out the next day and the next night too. Taking it slow now, but I honestly never thought that she would reach back out. No contact was super hard, but I am glad that I stuck with it. Even during the Christmas holiday. It wouldn't have been good if we broke no contact around the holidays, it was too soon. Thanks for your videos! They honestly got me through it!!!

[waynesalisbury]

Eventually you will be 10 times stronger mentally and emotionally than your Ex. Listen to Coach Lee and you will

[jonathanb]

Take a walk, read a book, connect with family and friends, play some games, enroll in something productive, just stay in No Contact. Coach Lee knows what it's about.

[GoldLeafPress]

I really love how people put breakup term: “they don’t actually know if they want the breakup…they have to actually go through it to know if it’s the right thing”. Let them experience the breakup and go through life without you to see if their predictions were false or correct: is life actually better without them and was I being to hasty or did I turn things into a bigger deal than they really were?!”

[Heart]

I'm getting better and better without my ex. I always switch Coach Lee's phrases on whenever I am tempted to break the NC, it goes something like "Time is on your side... the longer you are staying on NC, the bigger chances you can get your ex back"... " pressure cooker"- cooking their stubborn buttheads by NC "Oven"-do you want half-baked goods or fully baked?".😁😁 The more weeks pass through, the chances of winning. Thank you, Coach Lee.

[enriquewatson]

6 months no contact. It's gotten much easier with time and I've come to the realization that I'm much better off without her and don't want her back

[ZajcAnja]

It’s funny how going into “no contact” straight away is so immensely strong, that makes the dumped one feel and think that they are the dumper. Insane!

[mdlezama]

Stay strong! You’re not alone. Focus this time to yourself and become an improved version of yourself

[horchata]

To anyone needing motivation, I went a grueling month with no contact to a man who left me and he texted me at the end of that month. I made it a bit difficult for him as I pretended I was mostly moved on, but 6 months later we're stronger than ever bc he realized how much he loved me and respected me for not putting him at the center of my world. It's crazy attractive. I let him know I saw other people, too, so that he understood what the repercussions of his actions were. Just some motivation for you guys going through it that people are more attracted to people who respect themselves enough to not come off desperate and if you get back together they'll have a whole new respect for you. (You also have to fix the problems that led to the break-up)

[livbeyond]

Can we also talk about what happens to US, the broken-hearted ones, during No Contact? A positive approach. For people who are at the beginning of NC, or during a longer period of NC and need some reassurance? I am personally at the stage where I am less and less interested in what they think, as I am too busy rebuilding myself, stronger than ever, and that is thanks to you, Coach Lee! 🙏 Thank you!

[SaltySeaCaptain]

We need to work on ourselves during these hard times. Go to the gym, eat healthier, focus on work and your friends. You'll be a better person whether they come back or not and I'm sure it gives us a higher chance of them coming back if they see we're a better version of ourselves than when they left us. Thanks Coach Lee I thought I was going to go insane but your videos help a lot.

[freakynikki]

Happy we're getting a lot of videos from you lately, Coach Lee! It's been 4 months since our breakup, and I'm just trying to heal and focus on myself (no longer holding out hope we'll get back together). But I still watch your videos because it's so comforting to have someone in our corner giving us encouragement and wisdom during a hard time when we have no one to turn to.

[Nooshimii]

Success for me has been the transition from pining for my ex so badly and wanting nothing else but to get back together to not really caring if they do come back or not. Nevertheless coach Lee has brought me a lot of comfort throughout this journey and I will continue watching lol

[mick]

I just want to thank coach lee for posting cause his videos and advice gave me the strength to push through my break up. No contact worked and after 2months almost 3 my ex came back. We were together for almost six year.

We talking again and trying to figure out where we move forward for the break up.

I was there where you are crying and upset but I took the time and did no contact and focused on myself and that really worked wonders for me.

Stay strong 💪🏼

[jannlewandowski]

Hello Lee, this is an interesting subject. I finally realized that I was actually engaged to a Narcissist. I've been trying to figure out WHY he gave me an engagement ring, but never wanted to plan a venue or go house hunting with me after all those years. Why he rebounded after I left him and married a RICH woman 2 weeks later. It all makes sense. Even his verbiage was spot on of that of a narc. It's been years, but I still listen to you, even though I am doing fine. I have dated, but nothing serious yet. I'm protecting my heart. Don't want to jump into something and have a "Here we go again." Thank you for your videos, and I also have been reading up on the narcissist. You're still the best. ❤

[raxpanda]

Thanks coach Lee day 45 NC you help me alot your videos saved my life 😁 some days are good someday are bad but your videos lift me up and I m doing my best to become my best version mentally and physically