Trauma bonds us to something that's not self.

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[everymomentisagift]

So true, thank you for the reminder to be mindful and help us recognize how trauma affects us in relationships.

[MalkaHavah]

Beautiful way of putting it. I think when you’re experiencing it, it hits harder

[iswhatsup]

Too many of my interpersonal relationships are trauma-based. Thanks again sir.

[lzwjxsj]

I definitely need to read more about this. It’s a full time job cleaning the shadows out of my closet. worth it though 🌷

[goodenoughgirl]

I’m noticing more and more how any contact or interactions with them becomes constantly like life interrupted. Even if you successfully work through each current incident…they still have robbed you of all that time and energy. Truly they now seem to be more of a perpetual nuisance that I wish to be rid of once and for all. Such as well, I was gonna do this, that and the other….but here comes drama llama again. It’s like trying to go about your ordinary life with some deranged monkey banging cymbals in your ears all the time.

[sarahpinho]

I wish I didn't feel my trauma anymore. Speaking of which, I had a dream last night where I couldn't get to my children. They were little again, and my ex had taken them to a fair for the day, agreeing to let me drive right behind them, but I was moving through the day like molasses and everything stopped me from getting ready.

[well_weathered]

I am going to start buying fruits and vegetables so I can have a balanced meal. It feels so unbelievably strange to have to admit that this is against current spousal acceptance.
It is something that needs to happen so I feel well and don't react out of hunger or poor diet.

[amberfuchs]

We have to learn it's safe to be our Self now.

[noePDX]

Interestingly, this is the same thing you learn in human design. TruSelf & NotSelf. The not self accompanies a feeling of overall frustration (generators) and comes from letting our minds or our open energy centers influence or make our decisions. Living guided by your "authority" center (sacral for generators) will increase overall feelings of satisfaction (generator).

Trauma interrupts selfhood and being a (Tru)Self. It bonds us to something that is not-self."

So.... trauma decreases the influence of your authority energy center and increases the influence of the mind and conditionable(undefined) energy centers binding us to incorrect action and to our not self "theme" which is unique to our design.

[sonlya]

Why do they bond to the one that is hurting them?

[Denise-yc]

I don't really understand the words, being bonded to the person who tromitized us.