Alexithymia: What it looks like in a relationship.

Im Ambivalent Alexithymic. I have Alexithymia. This Channel will be about that topic. I will be giving my insights as an Alexithymic person. The Good Doctor video clip is used under the Fair use law for educational purposes. I do NOT own this video nor receive monies for it. All rights go to Sony Pictures, ABC Channel & David Shore

[beepbop]

This is one example of it. It can be complete opposite where you rationalize everything instead of allowing yourself to feel the emotions bc you don’t know what emotion you’re feeling or had a hard time putting a label on it.

[clyk]

I have to write a paper about alexithymia but had no clue what it looks like. So I was happy to see this clip to help me understand it better. Thank you!

[DenkyManner]

I'm nowhere near as severe as this character but i recognise parts of how he acts. The hesitation before intimacy (or any activity that requires emotion to make a decision) and his "I don't know". I say that a lot in my relationship when my partner asks how I feel. It became a bit of an issue and we delved more into do I really not know or can I find out but digging more. Turns out if I examine the details I can identify how i feel, but it really is like climbing down into a complex cave system with the answer at the bottom

[mmmmmm...k]

You're putting a lot of the burden on the other character. And I think that sucks. He should have been the one reading all the books and not making the mistake. Not her. External locus of control. Take responsibility should come first.

[vtbhoward]

It seems that to date these days, people have to be pseudo therapists, and aware of too much psych stuff. At least that is what my most difficult experiences point to.

Trying to be so aware may possibly lead to dating disillusionment or dating fatigue.

[AmbivalentAlexthymic]

Wow I have 1K views. I didn't think I would. Thanks All!

[ominous-lmcq]

This is scarily accurate. Except you can also internalize everything like I do!
It doesn’t help when you’re asexual and everything is already more confusing due to that. It’s all really complicated and knowing why quality time sometimes feels. Wrong? It’s beyond me, and makes it really hard to enjoy my relationship without constantly overthinking everything.

[andgate]

I have alexithymia. Best description. If a dog cant wag its tail...how does it know its happy?

[cara]

im an intp. Does alexithimia have any correlation to this personality type?

[edgreen]

Seen it in bpd and npd but didn"t know about autism. I've never worked w people who have autism.

[frankfarmer]

To be perfectly honest Shawn deep down didn't really care for Carly, because every time Layla came in the picture, he felt pretty calm and more attached to her, so his condition had nothing to do with this video in particular, it's just due to the fact that he really didn't have any deep affection for Carly to begin with.

[thesjwkillerdanielle]

Can’t wait to see what you do next. You have done an amazing job on both the videos.

[kanivakil]

The the way she turns around and lays down, so sensual.

[LathropLdST]

Pfft. Nice try. All I feel when I am close to someone is I AM GOING TO BE SICK TO MY STOMACH, except it's just my every fiber, BODY AND SOUL TOGETHER, SCREAMING for a barf bag 😂😂😂😂

[BNRVEW]

I don't have the same difficulty as Shaun, but I do find it difficult to know what I want, how I'm feeling... to tell others. Does that mean I have Alexithymia?

[tracik]

I wish I could have figured it out in 8 seconds, it took me 30 years!

[jasonrichard]

Is she dressed like Snowwhite... Is he feeling her through vicarious empathy and her doubts and hers cause undo stresses, She only has to experience her own self doubt... So much to be said

[DMHR]

It's good and all but no way a woman would out so much effort in real life about this condition.

[jalejablonsky]

I'm just trying to learn this because I've never heard of it

[gheata_playz]

Wait i thought alexithymia was when a person had no emotions