How To Change A Narcissist - Your Love Can't Do It, But This Can!

Have you ever been told that ‘“All you need is love”? While these make for great song lyrics, they also make for great gaslighting weapons designed to shame you into believing that it’s your biblical responsibility transform the narcissist through your love. In today's video we talk about how your love can't change a narcissist, but there is something that can.

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[angelamd]

Only Jesus can change a narcissist. I was one but God changed me and yes he had to whip me to do it because now I have a blood disease. God loved me enough to get my attention so I wouldn't go to hell.He takes care of me as I follow Jesus. All glory to God!

[peggybreaux]

Love means to pray for their conversion. Not to put us with evil.

[JennyLynnMinistries]

They won't change until they receive deliverance from the demonic spirits! Pray for their deliverance ❤

[Mira-guwe]

I was like the lady in the message. I was non judgemental, did not label and was open hearted. Ended up with a narc who derailed me spiritually. Only God can save the narcs. We cant. Problem is narcs dont think there is anything wrong with themselves.

[letmebeyourocd]

God’s love is unconditional. His presence is not. We can love someone and keep our distance until things change in a positive manner.

[MPA]

Love doesn't lead to destruction. We don't love at the expense of our own well-being. It's easy to advice about love when we haven't experienced the destructive ways narcissists deal and relate with people. God has boundaries while creating the earth and humanity. What makes us think that we can't have boundaries? We were commanded to be gentle as doves but be wise as serpents. We won't finish the race that we have to run if we allow a demonically infiltrated narcissist to take us out ahead of our time. This is intense spiritual warfare and many people don't know what they're talking about until the time they encounter the narcissist.

[comendador]

I agree with you, sister Kris! The Bible does not teach love and tolerance. The Bible teaches love and repentance. We need to understand discernment in relationships because, let's face it, the devil often uses those closest to us to derail us from our God ordained path (Matthew 7:15-20). We need to be mindful of the company we keep because relationships have a way of affecting us, whether we realize it or not (1 Corinthians 15:33). Discernment is about being wise. It's about knowing who to let into your inner circle and who to keep at arm's length. Great examples of this are Samson and Delilah.

[beloved]

Thank you for this! People who haven't dealt with narcissistic abuse can be foolish in giving "biblical advice".
I appreciate you!!!

[ChiefCedricJohnson]

Proverbs 29:9
If a wise man contendeth with a foolish man, whether he rage or laugh, there is no rest.

[sunshine-dbzm]

Omg the timing... my mother in law just called me and told to let my narcissistic mother to have relationship with my children no matter what because she keeps crying to everyone about my children and how she wants to be with them...i stood my ground that no narcissist will come near my children...

[MichelleAlbertson]

A true narc Will just go find someone else. That’s what my husband did. He said “God forgives adultery, so he is ok”.

[jewishbride]

I am gone, no narcissists in my life, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah ❤!

[changeme]

I was married for twenty years before I realized all of this that you are saying. This is all true.

[leticiaaguilar]

Thank you for your freeing message! I have had a narcissist or two in my life and for years I thought I could help them change. The only one that changed was me and allowed them to belittle me over and over. I finally came to a realization that God loved me and would not want anyone to abuse me. As I get closer to God, I feel strength to say “no more!”. We only have one life to live and deserve to be treated with love and respect. 🙏

[pruddyk]

In my opinion, God's love is unconditional; however God has boundaries, and rightfully so. We can still love someone, yet still set boundaries in place.

[jessicagillespie]

Sometimes loving a narcissist means walking away from the narcissist for a time or even forever and trusting God to do the work He never intended for you to do. I am utterly amazed at how well this has been working in my life. Narcissists can change but it is God who changes them in His timing and by His means…so love God, yourself and the narcissist in your life by giving all control over to God. Trust God! I have been doing that and now I am seeing what most people thought was completely impossible.

[texaslovelylady]

Everything she said is correct, you can't change a Narcissist, and some Narcissist are borderline psychopath why because of the demons they entertain.

[infantkumarg]

Thank you Sister... You're really giving good advice.. May our God bless you to rescue more people like me ❤❤❤

[Tucker]

I agree Kris. I think what you were saying is, "What is the definition of love?" Love often says "No" to the toddler who wants to run into the street. Love also will leave the drunk to wake up on the morning grass in the front lawn, in hope they "will come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil..." 2Tim. 2:26.