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[juliadastra]

🙏"regulate, elevate, graduate" needs to become a mantra for me!! I still struggle with waiting before reacting but like you say sometimes you need to not make it about you. To just be like "okay, cool, I understand." This was a good reminder today as well that sometimes being myself is not the best option lol, sometimes I need to just sit with what I'm feeling instead of impulsively acting. There is definitely a way to be yourself and validate yourself while still sharing parts of you with the world but I've not quite got a handle on it yet. It is a balance. Great video🧡

[divinencounters]

I stopped oversharing and noticed I became more confident in making decisions because I’m not relying on other people’s opinions of me anymore

[therisashow]

“Don’t be yourself guys, lie a little bit.” This is gonna be my motto for the rest of this year.

[INTERESTEDINFORMEDINSPIRED]

Not only does overstating give me the ick because the person is trying so hard to bond and to seem vulnerable which not everyone deserves your vulnerability, over sharing is also dangerous. I don’t know what people can do with the info I just gave them. I get uncomfortable when people try to be over familiar with me, like I am legit a stranger to you and Vice versa. There is no forcing a bond, you either vibe with someone or you don’t

[soulspirationgoddess]

My issue in the past has been people being nosy as hell and trying to get information out of me and me feeling like I owe them a response. And then feeling exposed afterward. This happens to empathic people a lot. Now, I feel no need to share anything ESPECIALLY if they had no intentions on sharing their information. Boundaries are so important and when you have them, not only will you not share impulsively you won’t feel obligated to.

[sofia]

I won’t voluntarily share things about myself unless asked. The problem is I don’t know how to avoid answering certain questions. That’s when I overshare and regret it. Like “damn I said too much” lol

[gabrianabrown]

The title dragged me for filth but honestly I needed the reminder, thank you Professor Stamps♥️ you’re doing God’s work

[sarawawa]

I think you really hit it when you said that we need to learn how to self regulate. So many people over share expecting people to regulate for them, which is wild.

[-natmac]

I became more private by cutting out the people who would try to draw things out of me that I wouldn’t have voluntarily shared lol. Noticing how much of their other friends drama I knew made me realize they were just using me for gossip to share with other people, it was never about knowing what’s going on with me for the sake of being a friend.

[eiradenise]

This video hit home. I used to be an oversharer. I’m not that much of one anymore. And everytime I did I knew it came from a place of wanting validation. I began to ask myself, “What other person can validate you better than yourself?” You gotta live for you and not let everyone be in your business cuz the same people you over share with today out of insecurity and need for validation may be the same person that blocks your blessings tomorrow.

[sonyas]

I think this goes hand in hand with letting go of the feeling like you always need to explain yourself. Be confident in your actions and decisions and let them speak for themselves. Other people don’t need to give you permission!

[IrinaVanRonkel]

I appreciate every blogger, who over shared on YouTube, spoke about things we do not naturally speak on daily basis, it saved my emotional wellbeing.

[Alicialaucirica]

Recently came back to an old job after experiencing many hardships. I was expecting everyone to pry into my life and ask a million questions, but they didn't. And I'm so grateful they didn't because I was actually ready to overshare and expose myself. I'm just here to work.

[Jerrilynrene]

You should only share your story with people who've earned the right to hear it. That certainly isn't EVERYONE, but thinking this way made me feel so much better and less guilty about being so private.

[celanimaddr]

8:53 "You can't be fully 100% yourself to succeed in this life" Damn. Well I think I'll take that to heart.

[XiomaraThaGoddessMeow]

Was NOT expecting that example of oversharing, but… sigh… judging by how society is rolling, nowadays…. I’m not shocked it happened.

[ibbtcky]

Honesty is extremely important to me, so is vulnerability. I quite like strange and insecure people, they are human! and they teach me a lot about life. I will always, always, appreciate a warm, truthful weirdo over a cold, witholding person who thinks themselves superior to others. I also as a trauma survivor understand that regulating emotions is very difficult for some of us including people who are neurodivergent.
I used to overshare tons online, I try not to anymore but sometimes i share pieces of my innermost self in hopes i can find people who understand.
So no, Kelly Stamps. I cannot take this advice. Im happy with who i am, even if I'm embarassing.

[imdivyamenon]

there's a fine line between being authentic and sharing every single thought that comes straight out of the noggin. But what do I know - I'm fiercely private. I have the opposite problem

[thechrisverhoeven]

You're so right about making things way bigger than they actually are. I have a bit of a weird voice and I always thought that everybody noticed it and would think weird about it. And in reality, nobody really cares. Once I noticed that, it made it a lot easier for me.

[Emily-gpox]

You are on to something!! I think Brene Brown refers to oversharing as a smash and grab attempt at connection, or even a shield. Because it’s so sudden and unpredictable, oversharing does not have an actual foundation of trust and respect. It’s not true vulnerability, it’s a defense mechanism.