SELF CHECK: 6 Signs You're Becoming A Toxic Person

Toxic traits aren’t always obvious – they can go unchecked for a while. It can be challenging to look inward and consider whether you have these traits, but it can also give you the opportunity to become a better friend, family member, and significant other. In this video, we’ll be learning about 6 signs that you’re becoming a toxic person.

Disclaimer: If you notice you have some of these tendencies, there’s no need to feel down on yourself! The goal is to help you reflect and see if there are any areas for improvement in your communication style or behaviors that you could benefit from changing. Let’s jump into it!

Writer: Monique Zizzo (new writer)
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Production Assistant: Thomas Kang
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[katharineharrington]

the problem is that the seriously toxic people aren't gonna self-reflect while watching this video. and the victims to narcissistic people are gonna doubt themselves and think "maybe I am the one starting unnecessary arguments."

[gojiberry]

I always felt like I was a bad person, but it turned out I was hanging out with toxic people that were making me feel badly about myself. And then I myself started becoming toxic in some ways, though not to the extent of this. It's good to be self aware and cut out toxic people, seek counseling if you need it, and make a better life for yourself.

[endimyongms]

Everyone is a little toxic, don't forget to have some patience and grace for yourself. We're all learning and growing.

[CinnamonFudge]

I was pretty scared to click on this, because I was scared that I'd see myself in these traits. But I ended up educated instead. Thanks for the advice! This channel's a great outlet to have a little self check on every now and then

[𝔲🅂ₑ𝓻④𝟘🈁]

0:39 - 1. You're argumentative
1:08 - 2. You never own up to mistakes
1:50 - 3. You can't seem to avoid drama
2:29 - 4. You're jealous and possessive
3:01 - 5. You are overly competitive
3:40 - 6. You are extremely critical of others

[samchiu]

I think it’s important to remember that toxicity, like most things, exist on a spectrum. Just because you act toxic sometimes does not make you a toxic person.

[misosouuup]

the fact that you're even watching this video and acknowledging you may be toxic is already a huge step in improving yourself!

[rolf]

Damn. I think I'm being quite toxic lately. I think I've been feeling argumentative, enjoying when I enter a heated debate with someone, as well as how sad or displaced I've felt as I see some friends spending time without me. Great video, really opened my eyes.

[jessezass]

I suspect it's mostly good people who watch videos like this because we want to make sure we're not becoming abusive or toxic. Like how an intelligent person always questions their intellect and tries to grow but a stupid person is certain that they are an absolute genius and never questions it or works toward learning anything new. I have met some truly effed up people in my life but I am always shocked at how bad people can be. As always thank you Psych2Go for helping make the world better by educating the masses.

[kenrickbautista]

I've met a lot of toxic people my entire life: home, school, work, gym, etc., but I know I'm no saint. I can be toxic at times as well.

[yesmaam]

I have all the traits, especially the argumentative one and competitive one. Its not like I have a choice. My narcisstic parents have raised me to always be the topper in class, and they themselves tell me that I HAVE to beat this one girl in class. I was never able to, but I cant help always looking at her high scores and resenting her in my mind. As for being argumentative, I cant help it either when I have to silently stand there while my parents announce every single of my faults and tell me theyre "encouraging" me to do better. So I relieve myself at school by arguing with teachers, students, random kid in the hall etc. Infact Im an entp!
My parents have raised me to be a toxic human being? Im still 16 but I wonder how I'll survive in society in the future 😔

[gayaschako]

Thank you so much Pshych2Go, your channel helped me get rid of one of my toxic friends, after watching this video I realised my "friend" hit the criteria perfectly and watching this made me let go of them. I tried helping them and it sadly didn't work out but watching your videos makes me feel better about loosing a friend of many years. THANK YOU, for helping possibly millions of people. Carry on being amazing! <3

[BCSchmerker]

+Psych2Go *Thanks for the warning signs:*

0:37 (1) Argumentative tendencies
1:07 (2) Never owning up to errors
1:50 (3) Magnetism for drama
2:25 (4) Possessive nature
3:00 (5) Overly competitive nature
3:36 (6) Destructive criticism

[shooshoo_]

“Remember, just because a friend enjoys hanging out with someone else, doesn’t mean that your friendship is less importanint to them” Nah bro bc that changed my whole perspective 😭

[mx.menacing]

This was genuinely super important for me to hear. I thought I was toxic in different areas, and now I'm really learning where I'm actually being toxic. Mainly possessiveness and demeaning others accomplishment.

This is a super important video and I'm really interested to see where this revelation will put me.

[irenedejesus]

Thank you for enlightening me. I am aware I can be toxic, but I realized that I am a human who is unlearning and learning how to navigate my life. Your videos always show up right on time, and I couldn't be happier. Thank you to the team behind this channel for every thing you do, I always end up being educated without feeling judged after watching your videos.

[mysbhyv]

this episode is like my mirror reflection slapping me good and awake 😢 I was feeling crappy for a long time, thinking all kinds of negative thoughts about myself and others, never looking at the mirror. I've become what I hate the most. Thank you, Psych2Go team, for another eye-opening self-reflection topic❣

[franc_hayden]

Narcissistic people can also make you feel at fault and make you think you are toxic. So assess whether you feel toxic when you are around certain people or if you are that way around everyone.

[RR-hotd]

I have 2 out of 6. I'm trying to better understand those 2 traits so I can be a better version of myself. Thanks a lot for the information! 😊

[ps]

I'm currently healing from a trauma that I had to go through last year and I have to admit that alot of habits or strategies I developed last year and now getting in my way and are toxic to both me and others. But it's actually so hard to let them go when, back then, they were neccesary for me to stay sane. I was basically in survival mode and these behaviours made me feel under control and helped me to stay alive during that time. Now, slowly, I need to let them go, in order to 1) let the trauma go and finally move on and 2) be a better person for me and my loved ones. I'm trying, but it's very difficult for me still. I also work with a therapist.
For everyone about to change themselves to the better : I'm proud of you, hang on and keep up the good work <3
Thank you for the video btw :) <33