Why Do You Feel Guilty?

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[KhaoticDeterminism]

guilt is what we feel when we don’t live up to our values

[ChaoticNeutralMatt]

This feels like it needs the broader context this is nested in.

[eejyool]

The topic is so broad that each comment is talking about a different idea of guilt lol

[Firefly]

Guilt -> fear -> avoidance -> loneliness despite having a desire for companionship

[hamsteratemyhomework]

Guilt is a blind signal. The information inside that signal can be true, false, or a combination of both.

[thebelmont]

Guilt is not always good or rooted in good use of rationality. Sometimes guilt is planted into you by bad values and bad morals based on someone else's morals and rationality that isnt nessarily good. Or peer pressure.

[FlubberGamer]

Negative emotions are not to be avoided or ignored, nor to be blindly followed and accepted, but advisors to the direction you should be headed and what you should be focusing on. Take the middle path, not pure happiness nor pure indifference, but a happy medium(this goes for all aspects of life, take the middle way).

[michellemcmahon]

When my late husband came across videos like this one, and to be honest many other videos from you, he had a specific name for them. He called them "nuggets". As in nuggets of wisdom or nuggets of truth, and so on. No matter what the message imparted, it was always a good thing. And something we would both appreciate and do our best to implement into our lives. So I want to thank you for taking the time from what I'm assuming is your very busy life, to share with us these beautiful "nuggets". There isn't a doubt in my mind he would have enjoyed your quality content just as I do. You are a true teacher of life and how it should be lived. Much Peace and Love to you and yours 💯🔥👏🤌🙌💕😁✌️

[BadPotat]

My Guilt: Give up on your life so that others around you can live life the way they want.

[pac.]

True. This is personal but 2 months back i apologised to my ex because i always felt guilty the way i treated her. We've been seperated for 4 years and she was kind enough to listen to me. It felt like a lot of weight that i didn't even know i was carrying just shed off. She blocked me after talking to me and i understand. I've been seeing a lot of personal growth lately since i apologised to her. Guilt is holding you back bros. Don't be attached to the outcome of shedding your guilt, just to it for the goodness of your heart. I would've felt relief even if she didn't reply and just straight up blocked me because I know i did what was right. May god keep her safe. She still wants good for me.

[FeatherWait]

Sometimes the source of the guilt can be hard to place because of how we've adapted to life.
I once felt really guilty about a co-worker who I also dormed with was quitting her job.
I thought it was because it meant I would get her dorm which was better. Or because she was technically better at the job and deserved it more than me. But neither of those things were quite right.
It took months of personal work on myself (for a variety of reasons) to figure it out - it was because I'd lived in the same building as her for almost 2 years and barely got to know her enough to call her more than an aquaintance, even though she was a good person with qualities similar to me. I had grown so used to repressing my own sociability since my secondary school years that I could not recognise the source of the guilt.

[VanessaLatte]

Rationally I think that sounds like a great idea. Am I able to do that, I'm not so sure, at least not yet. Personally I don't want your time money energy unless we can discuss it first. I feel like I've been burned to many times and it's the guilt that sears in that pain. Omg that sounds so dramatic lmao.

[gatorssbm]

My old problem is I was conditioned with way too much guilt where I used to just try and please everyone and a lot of people would use it against me including my old employer and especially my parents who would blame me for everything even though it wasnt my fault. Yes its not bad but also dont forget to consider yourself if you fall into this, Ive been guilt tripped far too much doing things that I didnt want to truly do or would accept normally but at the very least its guided me to never do something that was unforgiable.

[prettyrellos]

Only issue i have with this is that some people can experience guilt due to things they are taught that is not something they should feel guilt for.

[ecospider]

We made over 800 Christmas cookies for the family for 2 decades after my Wife’s mom died who used to make them. We decided it was too much for us to continue doing but couldn’t stop because of the guilt. When we finally did stop people tried to give us a guilt trip for almost 10 years.

Guilt is a powerful thing.

[oOVanillaMelOo]

I feel like guilt to a certain point is important and could be called your conscience. But the problem comes when guilt is used as a fear tactic to make you do what other people want you to do... like parents or abusive partners/friends. Guilt can be weaponized and become so overwhelming and go well beyond its purpose.

[someonesomeone]

I abandoned guilt as useless some time ago. Good choice.

[ElNumro]

I'm curious what Dr.K has to say about not being manipulated by shame/guilt tripping. I try to resist being motivated by guilt after a childhood being taught to be motivated by guilt to the point of anxiety. As an adult, my anxiety is more manageable when I choose to resist being motivated by guilt.

[joshuathomason]

Can you elaborate on this topic and talk about guilt that is instilled into a person from faulty morals

[piotrgraniszewski]

Religious guilt is an exception to this IMO. This is why you have people recovering from religion.