Why Does A Narcissist Hate His Kids?

Does your partner say that he loves your kids but doesn't seem to match his actions?

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[maryannriddle]

My father had to be the most hateful man inside our home, but he worked hard to be a hero outside of it. I remember being 5 and having a friend in kindergarten tell me about her step-dad all the time. I longed for one even at 5. I kept hope into my teenage years my mom would get tired of the endless stress and hatefulness he exuded and ditch him. He never taught me anything except how to throw a tantrum when you don’t get what you want. It’s a miserable childhood for those trapped in a narc home. I left at 18 and never moved back. I got trapped in that endless cycle of dating narcs so I just stopped and focused on other things. Healing is hard but healthy boundaries and my faith helped me.

[minarose]

My father hated the “ responsibility “ that comes with having children. My
Mother was the only one who took care of us. My dad ignored and rejected us and treated my mom
Like shit. We tried to leave him but he always manipulated us to take him back

[confusedwhynot]

My husband figured all he had to do was work. To him that proved that he loved his family. He didn't respect the fact that i worked too. He also put down what I did as not as valuable as his work.

[SM_]

Holy man. This is the best video. My now ex narc best friend walked out on his wife and two boys. Said he never wanted them. He didn’t have a chance to live his life and is going ballistic over his child support payments. Oh. And he said his wife tricked him into having them. He’s a grandiose malignant narcissist.

[martinmajewski]

My narcissistic parents cared more about their friends and other family members than about me. My father envied everything, to the point where it became pathetic and abnormal. He even admitted to my face that he had hated me since my childhood, which is not surprising to me, as I was belittled by my parents even for getting a prescription for glasses at the age of 6 (I was punished for it). I will note that my parents weren't alcoholics; we belonged to the middle class.

On my part, there was never a lack of effort. I completed my studies and built a successful career as an engineer, something my father never achieved. Despite this, he never congratulated me and there was always a sense of insufficiency and negativity.

[MooncakePanda]

Your content is amazing!!
Please explain this exact issue to family court judges and lawyers! So many protective moms are losing custody and narcissistic fathers are gaining FULL custody because the court seems to think he can still be a good father even though he was abusive to the mother. They close their eyes to how the narcissist continues to actively abuse his ex-wife through the kids as well. Kids are being killed by the abusive parent all the time! It's absolutely evil and disgusting!

[the.toxic.phoenix]

This is sadly so true.
When eldest started asserting her autonomy, nex started emotionally abusing her, she ended up medicated for anxiety, self harming and even threatened to kill herself couple weeks before he left.
The change in her and the other children since he's been gone is incredible!!!
He was always distant, shouting, made them feel not enough etc

[theresac.]

Thank you so so much …I knew this in my mind but you just confirmed it for me. I was gonna put my kids father on child support which would give him 50/50 custody but oh no not anymore.all money ain’t good money he didn’t sign their birth certificate so he doesn’t have any rights to them and I’m gonna leave it just that way. The protection of my children means so much more to me than money. Thank you

[bettycarmella]

Oh goodness this💔… my dad hated me. I knew it my whole childhood up until the day he died.
The last narc I dated had 2 daughters he swore he loved more than his own life, then verbally and emotionally abused their mother in front of them. I saw him slam the door in his daughters face one day because she asked him a simple question 🫣 horrible stuff…

[sylhomeo]

Wow, you are spot on with your description, better than anyone else. I’m married to a narc and it took me a very klong time to finally stand up to him, and now I don’t let him get away with anything. He has no feelings in him for anyone, especially me and the kids. He makes a great impression on anyone outside the family so that they can validate him. He’s totally self-absorbed, nothing affects him. I’ve even thought many times that he was evil. Thanks for this video, it makes me feel supported.

[emmarciana_]

I needed to hear this. My heart breaks for my boys.

[calenecole]

My ex husband never was involved with the kids while married and now he wants to have the kids in his presence. He even said as long as they are in the house with him not engage them but see them. Our older kids see through him and he has discarded the oldest and our middle child he has targeted as she is very strong willed. Sadly he has raged out on them and myself. Took a long time but had to go. True if it's happening to you, then who is next? Don't tag your kids to play the next round.

[rebekahjette]

My narcissist during dating said that he wished that he could just be a grandparent...😱 Makes total sense all these years later!!! There were sooo many 🚩 it is crazy! I wish I had realized what NPD was back then. I knew what he said was strange but now I know why.

[dorlistorres]

My ex would actually say that he's over the family and being a father. He said he was screwed for the rest of his life 🙄

[mikesmith]

This video resinates thanks my father says one thing and means the complete opposite. It's like he speaks with double meaning pretty much gaslighting! Especially when he says he loves and cares about me but his actions say otherwise. Feel like I'm in a trauma bond with him it's not a real relationship because at the end of the day he doesn't give a damn about me. Plus he's neglectful, hypocritical, malicious, backstabbing, holier than thou, love instigating fights, invading my privacy, making me question everything, I have to walk on eggshells around him, he acts like he owns me.

[hashh]

Hey Ben,
you are the most clear, articulate n sophisticated self-aware narcissist i have seen. Infact you seem like a nice human. Wish the best to you and I really hope you get more views n followers - you really seem to work hard n your manners are very academic/thorough n professional. Perhaps slowing down /timing on releasing videos may give people time building excitement or i fear they would see one for tge day n leave the other ones you put out.
Also noticed since many people may not be very professional, women in general are attracted to “gossippy” or just “entertainment/performance “ kind of videos even if it doesn’t have too much substance - they relate to conversational style, fun, modulated speaking style even for serious topics (i guess thats why lee hammock gets more views even if he uses some weird language sometimes- just pointers that may be of some value to you). i personally like your style n content.
Many blessings!

[beaglerescue]

What can a grandparent do to help? One parent is definitely a covert narcissist. The other is very selfish and shows little interest in his 15 month old daughter. She’s already rejecting him.

[Private_Pookie]

My narc hates fact that my child is my twin lol looks exactly lol i love it ❤️❤️❤️

[Jesusgivesnewlife]

Parenting is so hard and wanting control is so natural make life easier and when angry ppl often act messed up.... I think bc i my best ro love them... And i get help ro improve... I love them deeply... I hope they know that with the mistakes ive made. Their dad was very mean to me. There are alot of parameters around his time with the kids. I need to protect them more tho if i can

[edw]

Daddy loved them full force till around 5 After that not so much. Only interested in their stuff if he could try for some reflected glory Which was very very very rare