Why Does The Narcissist HATE ME? - 10 Reasons

#narcissist #narcissism #narc con

After all you’ve done for the narcissist, all the love you’ve shown the narcissist, financial support and services provided to the covert narcissist, why do they now hate and devalue you? The narcissist is very emotionally immature and that level of emotional maturity coupled with their narcissistic personality disorder leads to a very black and white decision making process. Notwithstanding additionally having a huge sense of entitlement, omnipotent disposition and over sensitivity to perceived threats to control, a narcissists perspective is anything but normal. Through the narcissistic lens’s we have a better understanding of why they think as they do as outlined in this educational podcast. Understanding is the first step to healing from a relationship with a narcissist or npd individual.

[NarcDecoded]

They hate you because they are envious of you and your qualities and virtues. They hate you because they want to be you and they hate themselves.

[MegaRockstar]

They hate you if you are not doing what they want you to do, they hate you if you pull their mask off

[kristibass]

You are right on! Thank you for what you do!
He hates me for:
1. Holding him accountable
2. Questioning his motives
3. Having something else to do, other than giving him attention
4. Calling him out on his bad behavior.
5. Being an individual that is not codependent on him.
6. Being sick or not feeling well.
7. Telling him "no" for anything. I'm expected to comply, or I'm labeled as "difficult".
8. Wanting to have an adult conversation about issues in the relationship.
9. Breaking my silence about the abuse after 19 years. (Que the smear campaign)
10. Having dignity & standing up for myself.
11. Implementation of boundaries.
12. No longer allowing him to control me. (Que the fits of rage, shaming, guilting, & emotional lashings)
13. & most of all he hates me for being everything he's NOT: having self-worth, confidence, caring, empathy, a moral backbone, dreams, positivity, hope & value that comes from a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ not from him, & finally, I know who I am (they don't have a 'self'), & I do not change like a chameleon wherever I go!

[frankywatte]

The more they hate me, the happier I am. They can get their supplies somewhere else, but not from me, period. Remember, you are not dealing with a human here, but a demon, sent by the devil himself, to destroy you.🤓

[miketexas]

They hate you because you're funny. You have passions. People are drawn to you. You naturally smile. You're witty. You have positive energy. YOU HAVE ALL OF THE THINGS THAT THEY WILL NEVER HAVE, and they know it. That's why they draw you in, so they can snare you and slowly destroy it.

[raanfo]

If you're in it, GET OUT. If you're out of it, STAY OUT. If you're discarded, thank your lucky stars and STAY DISCARDED. 52 years in this life and I've lived and learnt this hard lesson a number of times 🍀🍀🍀

[Ptowngirl]

WHEN A NARCISSIST HATES YOU. That’s a really good sign. Let that sink in people. I can think of quite a few in my life in the last two years. Paula that was so VALIDATING to me. God bless you.

[JH-tdmn]

This was one of the hardest conundrums to fathom after being discarded like dog **** by a malignant Narcissist. After treating them with honesty, integrity respect, kindness and love. Why did they appear to hate me to my bones? But slowly it dawns on you, you rumbled them and their mask fell off. They know you know what a toxic demon they are. Game over. Their hatred is your badge of honour.

[tinnypops]

I have been married to a Narcissist for 51 years .Its a pitiful existence I could fill a book with unbelievable stories .I have lost everything by standing by this man that fate made me fall in love with as a teenager. I am now 70 years of age 'If only I could tell the younger me what I have learnt from my life things may have been different but I had no knowledge of Narcissism and no family or friends that could council .He now claims to be ill but does not seek any medical attention .I pray for him for an early peace end and that I may be left with some strength to live out my final years in peaceful retirement.

[nz]

I have been married to a covert narcissist for over 30 years and after learning about this personality disorder, I am planning on exiting. My husband was not the raging or abusive type but managed to completely ruin my life . He was always mellow, polite and apparently loving but he was a liar, cheater, manipulator, gaslighted me all the time, a disaster financially, etc . He discarded me for another woman and then came back I know I am a codependent because of my upbringing, and I was also trauma bonded, I am spiritual and believed I had to preserve my marriage but God also wants us to take care of ourselves and not give our precious lives to these demons. My advice: don't stay with a narcissist, it doesn't get better. You do not want to look back a few years later and realize you wasted your whole life.

[foxygayla]

They are the most immature people who lived. Also, the biggest liars. I could never trust him again.

[thebigh]

They are jealous of your LIGHT ! Empaths have a GENUINE ability to enjoy life, whereas narcs only tend to get pleasure when they are feeling superior, or putting someone else down !! They are also very ANGRY that you found them out, exposed their mask and are no longer under their control, in their insecure and competitive benial mind you have got one over in them ! It's all so very sad and infantile !!

[slickperspective]

Why do narcissist hates you?
It's the demon within them that hates you. But they are too weak to fight it, therefore they allow the demon to take over their vessel.

[Glyn-r]

The narcissist hates your good qualities out of envy. They also hate you if you figured them out. Once you understand that you are with a narcissist, its best to quietly plan your escape. One minute in a narcissist relationship is one minute to long once you discover who they really are.

[monikatoth]

Narcissist hate it if you are more successful in your career/ job than they are, the jealousy eats them alive but they are happy to reap in the financial rewards take take take

[kated]

I asked him “why do you Love me” - he gave no answer. Just looked away. That was eye opening - I began the separation process then …

[demigaines]

Thank You So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This. My Life Was Destroyed By A Malignant Narcissit
1/ He Punished Me When I Didn't Comply With His Demands
2/ I.Was Punished For Not Giving Him Money.
3/ I Was Punished For Not Doing A Threesome.
4/ I Was Punished Simply For Wanting Empathy And Having Panic Attacks.
5/ I Was Punished For Not tComplying Quickly To His Demands
6/ I Was Punished For Loving Him
7/ I Was Punished For Calling Out The Narcissit
8/ I Was Punished For Being Sick.
9 I Was Punished For Not Responding Immediately To His Texts.
10 / Jus Being Loving And Caring He Hated Me For This.
Narcissitic Abuse Is Brutal.
.

[suzannechurcher]

My ex narc partner said to me why do I try so hard to make him hate me when I dared to hold him accountable for his behaviour. They are very disordered, abnormal, toxic people.

[jrocha]

Narcs are sick souls!

Bless you Paula and Mr. Remy!

[AndreaDawnBrewer]

Ooh! I know!! Because demons hate the light! 🤣