Signs You’re in an Abusive Relationship

Signs You’re in an Abusive Relationship

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[imma]

Abuse = “a pattern of behavior used by one person to gain and maintain power and control over another.”

[solarwolf]

Respect is key. At the point where you feel that your husband or wife or spouse no longer respects you, appreciates you, or crosses the boundaries of respect, or feels okay to humiliate you, that's abuse.

[annettecoombs]

I was abused for 36 years, and I didn't even realize it. He did all the things you mentioned in this video to me except hitting me. No one believed me. I left almost 5 years ago, and I am still healing. A broken bone heals quicker than a broke spirit 😢

[andstillkicking]

I didn’t realize that I was abused by my mom until I had my first child and I heard my mom say the things she used to say to me. Then I told my mother that unless she changed her behavior she would not be seeing my daughter.

[stephm]

Abuse is a manipulative pattern where one person has been told how they harm the other person and they choose to keep doing it anyway. If someone knows something deeply hurts you and they do it again, it is abuse and it is definitely intentional no matter what they say.

[arthuritis]

When i was 10 months married I prepared as usual a lovely dinner for my husband, made a big fuss over him. I put my arms around his neck from behind. He pushed me away from him so hard that I ended up across the room hitting a sideboard and was in shock. I asked him what I had done wrong...he said I was smothering him with affection. That abuse changed everything for me. I had a horrible marriage with this prick and finally left the house with all my children. Needless to say he continued to make my life very difficult. I finally divorced him and I can now breathe 😢😢

[perfectpeace]

My husband is neglectful, verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive to me at various points in our relationship. I am getting to the point where I no longer want to be with him. He just doesn’t get it. He is delusional when it comes to his behavior. He takes no accountability and blames everything on me. He can’t even apologize.

[engagedanddivorcedpodcast]

“Call somebody” is the best advice ever. Once I told people, it gave me the strength I needed to leave

[instagamrr]

Listening to when your body feels like it needs to protect itself is so key. My body is often correct and recognizes the gravity of the situation before my brain does

[sunnysideup]

I really don’t like bullies. I was on a job site where the boss was yelling and cussing at his employees. It was over 15 guys on the site. I listened to him yell for about 2 hrs. After two hours of listening to him. I took the water hose and sprayed this guy down with water. He came up to me and said what are you doing? I told him in front of the other guys that I would do harm to him if he didn’t stop abusing his guys. Long story short, the guys came up to me and thanked me for standing up for them. He stopped and was good for the remainder of the job.

[solarwolf]

Humiliation might be abuse, whether in a private or public setting.

[tagaway]

Is not good to stay expecting the person to change...
Is not good to stay because you don't want people to know what happened.
I stayed too long.

[oncetwice]

I dealt with both emotional abuse and gaslighting. It’s crazy because I never saw that coming nor did I ever think I would be in a situation like that. Now I know what to look for to avoid a situation like that again.

[Heavens-Humanaterian-Army]

Sometimes people can't reach out because they can't afford to set up a new life.. and its worse in situations where the abuse is more subtle so there's less emotional motivation as well...talk about being stuck between a rock and a hard place.

[jennifert]

First and second marriage was abusive. No more . I don’t trust myself anymore. I’m staying single.

[sasharemez]

Abuse is intentionally harming through an action but also when a person is withholding something that is vital for the wellbeing of others. Sitting and eating chips not caring about what your kid is feeling is withholding love and care.
So it involves both, doing something and not doing something.

[yosoyroman]

I left a long time emotionally abusive relationship last month. Still the best thing I’ve ever done. This just makes me think about how he refused to see himself as abusive. Even in the end, he couldn’t see it, and had to make sure that I took responsibility in abuse too. Of course it all goes both ways. I can be passive aggressive, I wouldn’t consider that abuse, but it makes the emotional abuse list. Anyway, all this to say. Thank god I left, and I’m trying to be vigilant. I’m also trying to be stronger around my triggers. Someone in my hotel who slams a door to their room shouldn’t have me in tears in my room. But it affects me still.

[RoseNZieg]

recognizing red flags in your partners is one thing. recognizing red flags in yourself is another. people need to be kind to themselves and others.

[ashleysalazar]

Relationships can be so beautiful. Being loved and loving someone is easy. Life circumstances can be difficult, but loving the right man is wonderful.

[gabyponte]

I am literally in the process of leaving a horrifically abusive relationship. I have lost everything and im starting completely over. Ive never been so terrified in my life.panic attacks grip me at night. I shake and sweat from fear. I no longer trust myself. There are no words to acurately describe how this really feels. I wouldnt wish it on the worst person. Noone should ever feel this way.