10 Toxic Behaviors of Female Covert Narcissists

In this video, I will explain 10 toxic behaviours of a female covert narcissist that are not often talked about. These narcissistic behaviours are suffocating and aimed at shutting you down and gaining power and control The 10 things I am describing in this video are not “symptoms” of narcissistic personality disorder, however they can help you identify toxic patterns associated with covert narcissism.

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Introduction (0:00)
1: Big Arguments Over Nothing (0:58)
2: Turn on the Tears (1:52)
3: Complain of Health Issues (2:46)
4: Avoiding Guilt & Shame (3:31)
5: Extreme Chore Wars (5:07)
6: Emotional Reasoning (6:35)
7: Emotional Blackmail (7:08)
8: Refusing to Talk (7:37)
9: Highly Critical (7:59)
10: Isolating You (8:50)

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[tothemoon]

It's about disrespect. When she test the relationship/your boundaries and looses respect for you, the relationship falls apart. No sex, just pure hell. Don't accept it, let her go.

[CarlosI]

They criticize the very same things that they do, but in their case will always be 'different' in some way.

[johnbraun]

They are slippery. you can never just reason with them and they will always find a way to make you the wrongdoer or cause.

[carparthero]

10 toxic behaviors of female covert narcissists
#1-big arguments over nothing
#2-turns on the tears
#3-chronic physical ailments
#4-avoiding shame or guilt at all cost
#5-extreme chore wars
#6-emotional reasoning (conflicts never get resolved)
#7-emotional blackmail
#8-refusing to talk and work thru issues
#9-highly critical of others
#10-isolating you from friends and loved ones

cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁

[Keith_Mikell]

Absolute hell to deal with. It takes years to turn off the effects. Constant eggshells. Thank god it wasn’t a a gf or marriage. I’m healing.

[LeeEverett]

The stonewalling is the worst. Covert narcs are the types who will block you as a form of punishment from an argument. My ex did this one time and I immediately put my foot down and ended it by blocking her back and leaving her blocked. She was used to all her exes pleading and begging to work things out for things they didn't even do wrong, not me though I saw right through it. Once you've been with a narc one time you know what to look out for.

[grisch]

I’m blown away by how perfectly they all seem to follow the same pattern. I experienced every single one of these exactly as described. I stuck out 10 years and learned pretty much all of this the hard way. I really wish I’d had this knowledge earlier so I could have started fixing my life sooner.

[MrFreeze]

I think I was in a relationship with someone like this. This woman used to infuriate me with senseless arguments and even went as far a conjuring up an issues to put distance between me and family. I got the hell out as soon I began to realize what was happening. This person would have me in a state of confusion literally every day.

[seahawksfan]

My wife is all of them, took me 24 years to finally understand what the heck going on, thank you for helping me more to see what happening.

[sonofagunn]

She did literally all of these consistently for over 10 years. My family and friends recognized it and tried to tell me she was using and manipulating me, but she had me so blinded I couldn’t see it. Thank God I finally woke up one day. It took her saying something very derogatory about my daughter to finally see it. I had already said I was leaving, but she still had me sucked in at that point. And when she said it, I walked out, walked away and didn’t look back. She drained me so dry emotionally, mentally and financially. She just about ruined me completely. Thank God I met and married a wonderful woman who had also come out of an abusive marriage. We have helped each other to heal with God’s help in many ways. But we are still in the process of healing. I’m still looking at the things that happened to me and trying to learn. I’m in therapy to make sure I’m healthy for my wife.

[bxstbxh]

It's the first time I'm gonna comment on this as I have been watching videos of female covert narcissist traits for 2 straight weeks and it's painful to realize the woman that you used to believe she's the one for life, yea she's the one that made me emotionally and mentally destroyed as a man and as a human being. Run! Never look back! I know one of these days she would come back but I won't ever accept her again.

[mochachaiguy]

Lise, I have a sinking feeling watching this one. All of the things you mentioned happen on a regular basis. I reach out to family and friends mostly when I’m walking the dog because I notice she bristles (and listens) when I’m on the phone with friends and family. If I get more than two calls in a day “oh you’re popular”. She’s constantly relating all her woes and health struggles to anyone who gives a moment, feeding off of their sympathy & refining the story for better effect on each retelling, never mentioning the 24/7 support I give her. It’s exhausting.

[EnFyr]

They do the opposite of what they promised, always plays the victim but at the same time be the abuser. Jealous but cheats, using people just for their own dopamine boost.

[gqmfyji]

Nice job been married 43 years described my wife perfectly from tears to treat me like I'm 12 years old to criticism about jobs I've done that weren't mine. Keep encouraging us.

[Ratnest]

8:25 this part gave me chills cuz of how accurate it is and it’s exactly what I experienced for so long.
if only I knew then what was happening and what she is.
better to know later than never though.
it’s wild to me that all of these, especially #9 apply to her and she will go her whole life never knowing who and what she is. that’s insane to me.

[stacielivinthedream]

Wow, my mom did this to my dad!!! It was Neverending!

[miriamful]

this narc definitely has plenty of health issues, you never actually know if the symptoms are real or imagined, so after a time find it hard to believe. But always the victim, this list is just so spot on.

[paulkrenz]

Great video, absolutely spot on, I lived with this hell for 8 years and it still hurts after many years have passed, when you are an empath you can dedicate so much time to making them happy but you will never get there, the difficult concept I have finally come to grips with is that they are not interested in your happiness, they just have to win, control, manipulate, beat you

[jamesakery]

This video was incredible and describes exactly the person I was married to. Wow! I could not believe how accurate you described my X wife of 13 years. I made a huge mistake marrying the FCN and never would have imagined what I was in for. After leaving and divorcing her, later finding and watching your videos, it has changed my life. Thank you Lise!!!

[PinkiePi]

10/10 with my ex-wife. It has been confirmed about 1000 times at this point that she is a severe covert malignant narcissist. But after 10 years of manipulating, gaslighting, belittling, and abusing me, I still question it every time.
Thanks for all you do!