10 Toxic Phrases That Are Red Flags In Any Relationship

If you've been in a toxic relationship, there's no doubt you've heard one or more of these toxic phrases. And in a relationship with a #narcissist, you may have even said some of them yourself. The phrases themselves don't mean you're a toxic person, but they definitely can signal relationship toxicity.

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[donnas.]

"You create drama", "you're reflexively hostile ", "you exaggerate and make things up", "you're intellectually lacking "

[barefootincactus]

Phrases: 1. You’re just like (whoever) 2. You’re too sensitive, overreacting etc. 3. Any ultimatum 4. I can’t live without you 5. You’re stupid and variations 6 and 7. You always or you never phrases 8. Oh you remind me of whoever 9. If you loved me you would do this 10. If you don’t know I’m not going to tell you

[terrielvwl]

"You're always so argumentative" when he is not getting his way.

[daughterofsekhmet]

Some different facets of calling you stupid that I have experienced;

*When they insist on doing simple things for you that they know you know how to do

*Googles everything you tell them

*Constantly explaining very simple concepts to you

[iamgoddessoflove]

Relationships often fail because one person gives and gives while the other one takes and takes! Never allow it to be one-sided.
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[jamescorcoran]

Add, number 11, , "After everything I have done for you"

BTW Christina, your video on narcissistic closure was beyond classic. I urge everyone to watch and leave far richer in the message.

[shanehendricksom]

One i heard allot was you will never find someone that will love you like me.

[bch]

Being called ‘naive.. ‘ she also on another occasion, muttered under her breath - ‘familiarity breeds contempt’ expecting me not to hear it..

[missteendlovu]

My favourite one ' I thought you'd be different"😂😂

[xbassackwardx]

"If this is how you communicate, I don't see any conversation being productive..."

[neondiosa]

Oooo the last one! My narc did that alot. The more I begged for him to tell me the more he got off on not telling me. Sometimes he didnt even have an answer and just used "if you dont know I am not gonna be the one to tell you" as a disguise for his lack of explanation even to himself.

[kevinjanghj]

During the discard, the ex narc actually used this "that's why I hate you, because you NEVER listen!" Actually, I was always forced to keep quiet in the relationship then. It seemed as if it was a form of projection bullying. Narcs really thrive on that.

[neilbedwell]

Silent treatment is an iffy one, you may be stuck to dependency on a toxic relationship and from previous experiences you may know full well that engaging with them to try to resolve the situation just gives them a gateway to your traumas and you may already be in a weak mental health. This can be dangerous because it can sap away at your energy to focus on becoming independent of them in order to leave them behind. The solution in this case, is to find ways to disparticipate with them as much as possible, at least until you can stabilise your mental health

[ChatMort]

I used to do the “you always” and “you never” one all the time. When I was called out on it, I initially didn’t understand the problem, because I thought it was obvious I was being hyperbolic. But being hyperbolic like that to exaggerate your point *does* cause harm. You’re choosing to ignore all of the instances of whatever you’re arguing about that don’t reinforce your side, and you’re also framing things in a black or white/all or nothing way, which is something that happens a lot with depression and anxiety if you kind of start to give in to the lies they tell you. If I catch myself starting to use one of those generalizations now, I stop and correct myself. That pause when I do also takes me out of the moment enough to give me some perspective and knock me out of saying something out of emotion. It’s super helpful at changing the course of an argument into more of a constructive conversation.

[taystorm]

I had someone tell me he can't live without me. That he needed me. I stayed way longer than I should have.

[TheCallToArms]

Oof... I can't even count how many times I've heard the "You always..." and "You never..." phrases.

[Cowface]

I would just hear the definitive declaration “you don’t love me” whenever she didn’t get her way. It’s both a guilt trip and a double bind rolled into one!

[AgendaInMind]

My mother has given my covert narc father ultimatums for 56 years. Never got here anywhere except stuck with a horrible person.

[AthenaVelecta]

I often heard Everyone knows or believes and No one else believes or thinks. Like when I would get punished for doing something or not doing something and would ask what did I do that was weird or wrong. And the response would be "It's obvious to everyone else what you did that was weird or wrong and the fact that you need me to tell you what you did that was weird or wrong just proves how sick and evil you are." My narc mother loved using this one it was her primary go to.

[neilbedwell]

Toxic relationships extend to any type of regular knowing between two people . Watch out for these things and other red flags from any type of relationship. It can be much harder to detach from toxic relationships that cant be 'broken up' without changing a persons whole life, for instance regular customers or regular staff. Or sharing public space that everyone is entitled to