10 Toxic Narcissistic Tactics to Watch Out For

Are you dealing with a partner who displays several narcissistic traits? Are you seeing a lot of red flags? In this video, I am talking about 10 toxic behaviors that can destroy your life, plus the biggest dealbreaker that everyone who values their sanity and wellbeing needs to know about.

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00:00 Start
00:25 1) Is Your Love Too Good to Be True?
00:55 2) Lies That Shatter Your Trust
02:09 3) Blaming You for Everything
02:54 4) Making You Question Your Reality
03:39 5) Feeling Like a Puppet?
04:43 6) You're Never Good Enough for a Narcissist
05:24 7) Are You Being Used?
06:16 8) Cutting You Off from Your Loved Ones
07:43 9) Multiple Threats to End the Relationship: Walking on Eggshells?
08:48 10) No Privacy, No Peace

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[Bat_Boy]

Betrayal of trust. Lying by omission. The ability to lie to themselves.

[lesilluminations]

One trait that isn't emphasized enough is the constant opposition. It's exhausting.

[tomdebevoise]

Also exploding, or throwing fits over minor events. Refusing to repair or move on from some wrong. Bringing these up over and over in order to manipulate your feelings.

[ChristinaChristiansen-ffho]

1. Idealization and love bombing.
2. Deception.
3. A lack of accountability.
4. Gaslighting.
5. Manipulation and control.
6. Negative comparisons.
7. Explanation.
8. Isolating you from your loved ones.
9. Repeated threats to the relationship.
10. Disrespecting boundaries.

[davidsutliff]

The inability to repair problems that cause ruptures in the relationship... You literally just described the biggest problem with my narc ex-wife. That was literally it. We could never resolve anything, we could never grow and move on, we never learned from anything we'd always have the same fights over and over without resolution. It always felt like it was intentional. And now that I know about narcissism, I know that it in fact was. Thank you so much for your videos and information, they are a tremendous help to us

[EdfromCanada]

It started with incredible love bombing. Then it all changed as the controlling, manipulative toxicity emerged: I am not worthy, I am not acceptable, I am not deserving of her. What did I do? I dumped her and ghosted her without any further discussion because my time is too precious. I have established a BAD principle (to protect my sanity): my Benevolence for Accommodating BAD behaviour is Done. It was hard at first but I am now happy I did what I did.

[jennyhewitt]

I completely agree with your "deal breaker". Because at the end of the day, if they cannot or will not help to resolve an issue, then there's no hope at all. that's what did it for me & that's why I'm done. And so glad of it!!
Live your life on your terms, not theirs 💚

[stingylizard]

This should be mandatory learnin' in grades 8-9, if not earlier. Girls and boys, both.

[zasmanis]

This is literally every single woman I've ever been with....ever....

[blueskies]

I’ve learned that even ONE extreme reaction to something innocuous is enough to cut ties. Emotionally healthy people have enough self awareness to not go there, and that first reaction is a test. If you continue, the reactions will, too.

[Champ_Toby]

I dated someone for a year and he did almost all of these. Criticized my mom to me and to her face about her parenting. He would manipulate me to get his way. Its been months since I blocked him and he has no use for me once I found out he had someone else that he was using too. I found out she lived few blocks away from me and we both bonded out of this toxic relationship. We both dumped him and stayed friends. He is the worst person I have dated and I saw the red flags but did not know this man was a criminal with a history of theft, as he tried to steal my car by not giving it back to me and he stole her father's watch which was very sentimental because he past away. I am scared of what kind of man I will meet again. Boundaries are so important in relationships. Thank you for making this video.

[hardywatkins]

My ex' and this is now many many years ago, told me "I can't be on my own", ... one of her more truthful moments, and she was right, she really can't. Every relationship of hers that ever ended, ended with her simply replacing the last so called 'partner', with no gaps whatsoever. She literally cheated on every partner she ever had. So when after all the lovebombing and sexbombing and idealisation, she sais to me "we need some time apart", alarm bells began to ring. - If she needs time apart from me ... then who is she with?

[heyoldman]

spot on again Lise . if you have any of these symptoms take a good look at your relationship..i didn’t and it cost me 40 years of pain 😞

[wildwil]

But why was I so stupid and ignored these signs!!

[diannetrotter]

WOW so many things that are happening in our marriage. My husband is a narcissist with psychopathic tendencies. My problem is I'm stuck as I don't have the money to leave. He keeps close tabs on my spending etc. I just live day to day. Im not even close to the person I was when we married. We just celebrated 15 yrs. Everyone says I need to leave...but without money I can do nothing until someone can help with moving my things, as he only brought debt into marriage. All furnishings were mine. My life style went down n his went up. I'm a trusting person n I trusted he was being truthful. Well I found out different. I'm 71 n my psyche is not even close to what it was. I'm a shell of my younger self. Oh well, I'm working on it. Thanks for the video!

[proxel]

Defintely, I feel that lack of ability to maturely communicate is the biggest deal breaker. My ex said she liked communication, but then punished me when I tried. And more recently discarded me for trying to have a conversation after a hoover and the subsequent hurtful behaviour. I see now this harmful behaviour wouldn't change.

[mariafemarquezdeguia]

Well explained and truthful, Ma'am! The hardest and painful part is my inability to leave the relationship & let go.

[tjkashatus]

Inability to communicate in an adult manner...so true Lise. 1-1/2 years of being gaslit...not sure what happened to her....I have my list of reasons... but it is very sad that she was a covert narcissist and skilled manipulator...the toxicity was unreal.

[decadeyt]

Thank you for this video. Whenever I find myself getting emotional over the people I had to remove from my life, I watch a video like this and I instantly realize I did what was right. Thank you

[ericholder-coqr]

It's funny how i can come up with an example from my last relationship to almost each of the 10 points immediately.

After having completed therapy, I am now in a new relationship and feel like i've found peace. It feels more normal and healthy but it also feels less exciting.

I'm writing this to let all the people out there who are currently in the midst of the storm or its aftermath know that things will get better eventually. You will find peace again and and you will forgive yourself and the people who hurt you and you will move on.

You will, however, have to make an effort now and change yourself (you can't change someone whom you believe to be a narcissist or bpd-person, you're also not a psychiatrist and can't diagnose others - but you can set boundaries when something feels unhealthy).

Good luck, hang in there and do not give up. There is a future and happiness for you out there. (: