Stay Positive While Grieving??

Staying positive is a BIG ask while grieving. Usually it means substituting fake positive thoughts for negative thoughts. BUT.... I offer up reasons why both negative and positive thoughts need to play a role in our Grief. Have a watch and let me know your thoughts!!

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[grieftherapist]

Grief and positivity are a wild word combination....BUT I have found value in in some efforts to invite in positives while feeling deep Grief. Have a watch and share your thoughts, aha moments, and challenges! 🙏🏻❤

[sharonlujan]

I am grieving 5 or six people right now
I feel guilty when I get bursts of happiness which happen rarely. I turned completely to god as my source to deal with my losses

[Lindawhitelaw-rmbq]

Jo thank you very much for this wonderful guidance that you share with people who are greeting

[speaktheresafox]

2 years 61 days. That self compassion thing is hard to come by. Thank you for reminding me that I am only human.

[Toinette]

I was always such a pessimist and when I met my husband I was amazed at how positive and happy he always was. I decided I was going to focus on being grateful and finding all the blessings around me. The day I learned to do this my quality of life changed. I was amazed at how blessed I was and living with a grateful heart made me so much happier. Now that I have lost my husband it has been so hard to do this but when I can focus on the blessings in my life it really does help. I know many will say how can you be blessed when you just lost the love of your life? It is hard but it can be as simple as being grateful that the sun was out today or the beautiful flowers whatever the case may be. When you start looking for the blessings you will be amazed at what you find!

[thyrarutter]

I lost my husband 6 weeks ago. I am getting a lot of out of these videos. Thank you so much.

[VictoriasRoses]

It has been six months for me. At first I tried to be positive to get through the day. Then I realized I was just tricking myself. I let myself grieve. I am still grieving. I really look up to my Grandmother who was born in 1910. She lost two husbands and her mother at a young age. I look at her strength to keep going. She was not positive all of the time but she kept going every day. She said I am going to try to enjoy every day because life is too short. I have to agree with her. For me, it really is to keep going even if I am negative. I try to do something when I am negative to positively honor the person I lost because my love still goes on.

[Breese]

I am trying to remember to be grateful for the love he brought to my life❤

[sherrijones]

It is difficult to remain positive while grieving, and this helps so much

[joanburga]

I am filling a small scrapbook with precious memories. I want to preserve these memories, to allow me to remind
myself of beautiful or humorous times. The pages have illustrations and pictures. My husband was a musician who loved to have me accompany him, and believe me, there were some awkward and funny situations.
I find the act of creating my book of memories helps ease the pain of loss.

[kamariandroskamariandros]

Yes negative thoughts trying to see hope through this

[shannonwilson]

Thank you- your videos are helping me so much. My dad’s been gone two months today. Those dates suck.
I lost my mom 17 months ago Care Giver for my dad 24 seven last 3 years- I watched them both take their last breath & caregiver to final moments.
I haven’t had time to grieve for my mom because my dad’s caretaking became overwhelming and now they’re both gone.
It seems grief is overwhelming and I’m taking one step one little step each day

Your videos are helping me so much thank you. This one did help.❤

[Sishbadack]

As I approach one yr this week, I am so sad and anxious. 1 yr of not hearing his voice, his laughter and just so missing him. But through these videos I have felt so supportive. I am able to laugh at some memories and share them with my small support group.
I still feel hurt that those who are physically around me, can’t validate my loss nor acknowledge I am grieving. Even in that hurt, I am so grateful to my small support group . I have grown in understanding ppl are very uncomfortable with grief . I don’t like that they are but I will push paste their uncomfortableness and do what I need to do for me .
I thank Jo McRogers for these videos, and have recommended to friends who are doing their grief journey.

[petradixon]

I lost my 17 year old son to brain cancer last year. Your videos help me so much. I have never been so devastated In my life.

[dredwardchisnall]

Your wonderful insights always seem to come at the right time for me. In the loss of my wife your coping mechanisms need me to learn how to adapt to them but help wonderfully. You are such a kind and genuinely caring person that you inspire me to try to create that balance between positivity and negative bias which has poisoned my most difficult times. Thank you for sharing your gentle wisdom with a grieving man who cared for his lady wife in her dementia and decline at home. Thank you so much. Your words and advice are the only ones that have truly helped me at this time and I feel you open your souls to my grief and unhappiness and shine. Light on things. ❤ Thanks, kind lady.

[aprilerains]

i cant remember our memories, i try, i cant recall, why is this we were married 36 yrs did everything togeth, best friends, lovers, partners everything to eachother.

[lauriemtz]

Yes I feel judged and go into negativity often. I feel very sensitive and can barely eat. I’ve never had to force feed in my life. I wish I could call my mom and stop having panic attacks.

[lindahobbs]

Another helpful video for those of us on the long journey of supporting a loved one with a chronic (and in my case, degenerative) illness. When people ask about my hubs with Parkinson's, I've begun to say we know it's not a condition from which he'll become "better". That we take it day by day. But sometimes, I don't know how to do that. This gave me some tools and a perspective. Thank you.

[noremac]

Really appreciate the point about cultivating positivity while still having natural negativity bias

[sherrijones]

The negative thoughts can be overwhelming, working to flip the script is at times hard