Codependency - Loss of Identity

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[aprilmg]

That moment in my 20's when I realized that all of my interests were just whatever my dad liked, in a futile attempt to get him to take interest in me

[misskaistar]

So far having researched since 2016, on psychology and spirituality. You explained it, connect the dots, and have pointed out things I've never heard of but know to be true.

You are by far one of the greatest teachers in our time.
Thank you

[paulalane]

Even though I believe and know the Lord loves me, I still struggle with this at 67! Praise God for Tim's teachings!

[stephbyerly]

I had complex trauma from being abandoned at birth by my birth mother (adopted as an infant). I was determined to be the best mother in the world to my son, so that he would never feel that, and always feel loved. But then my husband (his father) abandoned both of us, so he has complex trauma too. 😓

[FreyaRagnild]

My identity has literally destroyed my life. I've hit rock bottom so many times. I'm 34 now and just starting to learn to battle the shame.

[jenellejessop]

I died inside, emotionally before I was even 2 years old. I told someone when I was 14 that I felt like I didn't have a personality, I was right. Wow.

[jakeworldwide]

i remember deciding it was good and cool to be insanely short tempered and oppressive to others who disagreed me (felt like attacking me), when i woke up from it i couldnt necessarily stop right away but everytime i knee jerk react with bad behavior i realize its just me impersonating my dad, its not me, its weird how clear it is now, every outburst ive had feels like it could be an oscar award winning performance of my father.

[Bishop]

Shame really triggers Anger in me so fast & I’ve been trying to work on it for years never understanding I had CPTSD. My anger has gotten me arrested, when I really disassociate go numb, it’s like blacking out 😢 When someone Abandoneds me, it’s like my biggest trigger for Shame. Then I feel rageful at that person for leaving me. It’s just like Holly Fu*kin’ Hell ❗️💯How do I stop the triggers❗️❗️❗️❗️💯💯💯💯

[kayleemic]

spiritual abuse (aka narcissistic abuse) is by far the most damaging. makes common abuse look fun! ask someone who has had both like i am so exhausted

[TheKrispyfort]

I only thought it because that's what they told me.
And why would the people who loved me despite my existence causing the ruination of their lives ever lie to me 😶

[amygerstle]

Abandonment definitely causes the feeling of not being good enough and not feeling loveable which leads to shame. Thank you for this talk about complex trauma 💔💔💔

[loli]

So glad to hear this. How many generations endured shame because of surviving constant trauma.❤

[tinam]

Yes SHAME … somehow I thought it my fault that my step mother locked me and my younger siblings in a hot garage every day my dad went to work and we had to put our faces down to the crack at the bottom to get air … it was hard to breathe.

[susansilvey]

This man knows it all regarding these issues-amazing!

[engelameyer]

Now I know exactly what happened to me.

[Sophia-vxgj]

For myself, I don’t feel that I ever thought there must be something wrong with me..more like “my parents have their own horrible issues with themselves and each other, I gotta take care of myself/younger sisters and be the adult since they’re too wrapped in their own problems and we’re going to get picked up by CPS if I don’t clean up after their drunken fights.” My problem was I had WAY too many adult responsibilities I took on at an early age, rather than just be a child.

[nyc]

That’s because adults are idiots insulting kids and telling them they weren’t wanted or some other shit.

[rhondan]

Yesterday was Fathers Day, and I do not feel bad about not celebrating it. He is gone, been almost 3 years. When he passed, a whole new set of memories and reality set in. It is so very hard to forgive someone who would not care if I did or not.

[quentindaniels]

Shame, every day. Every time a trigger gets tapped, it feels like I’m getting hit with a red hot iron being pressed on the side of my head.

[karimayer]

I've been searching your channel...is there videos on complex trauma relating to childhood sexual assault (not from my dad btw given the video content)