If a Narcissist can't love their kids WHY do they have them?

Don't let the title fool you because I (as a self aware narcissist) do believe that a lot of narcissists DO possess the ability to love their children. People may differ in opinion of course, but sometimes Narcissists ONLY love the kids. #narcissisticparents #narcissistabuserecovery

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[Jj-lozx]

The Narc left his kids to streets but play father to others kids

[curiouscomplex]

They have kids for status, control, and to feel important. For many people the first and only time they have any power over anyone is when they have children. This is the kind of absolute power a narcissist will pursue.

[meme]

Yep. He just wanted to have the "model family" & fit in. All his other family members had this, so he had to follow suit.😢

[Blackmyths]

They’re great with other people kids just not there own

[usernane]

In my experience, my narc mother loves kids when they are very little and they love the unconditional love that kids can give them back, but once the kids grow up and start having their own personality, that's when the sabotage starts. Basically kids cannot really see their parents as bad people, they are naive and easy to manipulate, and this is ideal to a narcissist.

[DulcesSweets]

Some narcassists become competitive with their kids as the kids get older. They start seeing them as strangers almost and act the fool when the kids no longer conform to what they believe in.

[jh]

Some narcissists have kids because their husband or wife wants them.

[ObservingStuff]

I AM EXTREMELY HAPPY I NEVER HAD KIDS WITH A NARCISSIST

[KPooo]

They only have them to control, the golden child is also a narc … scapegoat is the most hated … the others are just there to serve the narc n help abuse the scapegoat in my experience

[Icontrolmylifenotyou]

The narcissists in my family do everything that they can for show when it comes to their children in public and social media. But behind closed doors they have favorites. One favorite tactic they like to do is to play family members against each other and talk about them behind their backs. They can idolize one child and then treat the other one like they are invisible. If they can give their unwanted children away, they’d do it in a heartbeat. And it’s not because they are financially or physically unfit, they just don’t want to deal with caring for that child. What gets me is when they have more children soon after and act like as if nothing happened. Children are like toys to them and like Lee just said, they are seen as “Keys” to get what ever supply they want from others.

[cierrabennett]

I'm trapped... I love my kids, tho, but I definitely got trapped. He was seemingly excited when I got pregnant. It was obviously for the wrong reason. BUT three years no contact coparenting. My kids and I are happy and at peace.

[Cersei]

Well as the daughter of a narcissistic mother, I can testify that her love was conditional, if you follow her rules, once you missed, you're out, no more love for you! What is more important to them than anything, is the image of an ideal family, ideal according to their twisted brain. The image outside is of a perfect family, and inside the house is hell!

[angelagomez]

If I'm a daddy it makes me look like a good person...look, my kids love me.

[kinyaalexander]

My ex SA me when I was asleep and passed out 23 years ago. That’s how my oldest son came about, I believe he did it to possibly trap
me. At the time I was 20 and not ready to be a Mother 😢😢😢.

[Trammiliin_nr]

I think my mother got kids because she wanted to play a happy family… but unfortunately she has no idea how a happy family functions. She’s not able to form a close relationship with anyone, including her children. When I was little I thought she had us for house chores.

[proanimaluver]

They use children as a tether.
To them, you will always be a backup supply.
It doesn't matter if they get a little or a lot from you .
Kinda like when your changing batteries in a remote and you decide to keep the drained ones.
....just incase😅

[bridgettetraveler]

Some narcissist don't love other ppl's children either. They only love themselves. Some have children & even adopt children to make slaves of them.

[mikkeline]

I'm adopted. I always had said that they got me for image, to show others a family and yeah because it was normal to have kids. Especially in the 70'ties...
My father is a narcessist. He had groomed my mother and had the control in our lives until I became a teen and began to be aware of what was going on.
Today I have no contact with him.
My mother died in 2001

[chyannemattern]

Mr. Lee, having one healthy parent is so important. It help the child's mental health to have one parent they can go to.

[IsabellaPiesch]

That is sure one thing that haunts me the most. Children for narcissists are supplies too. They control them... And when the kids grow older they don´t want to have anything to do with the narcisstic parent. In fact no wonder. Sadly they also abuse their children. Those parents always have to get what they want - but never hear out their children (what THEY want). It´s just horrific and sad in fact. Narcisstic people just lack emotional empathy - they can´t never understand their children needs or other needs (or feelings). Narcissists have a big ego and are too selfish to step aside and let others, ,live" so to speak. They have them for their image to say hey that´s my son - my daughter...