The First Sign That You Have Won Against Narcissist #narcissist

[prostyle]

If their absence brings you peace, you did not lose them, you have won yourself again.

[WeRbodyNChrist]

You know you have won when you can laugh at the narcissist’s attempt to manipulate you rather than fall for their shenanigans. Keep moving forward. No contact. 💯🎯

[TNothingFree]

"They couldn't show genuine affection and it wasn't your fault"
I shed a tear :<

[dwlsn]

The trick isn’t to quit the argument - but to not take the bait in the first place ❤

[tamifox]

Took me 65 years but I finally did it two weeks ago. I can't tell you how free I feel.

[gracea]

My biggest mistake was loving him more than I loved myself.

[sohinisen]

So true. Practising 'DEEP' (do not Defend, Engage, Explain, Personalise) with them is the best way! And the realisation that one can never receive genuine affection from them is a big step towards winning against these insidious souls.

[VikingSpirit]

When I had sudden, severe abdominal pain, nausea and pains in the chest, he kept on making a curry for dinner. Called my own ambulance. When they came, he spent the entire time telling them how he had been in a motorbike accident and had been in an ambulance- even showed them the scar- while they were treating me. I was invisible. They asked me on the way to hospital what the hell that was all about and I said “I need him out of my life”.

[crystalcole]

One of the best things that I realized, that helped me keep my emotional detachment to the situation, was that chaos was their goal. Chaos, and the fight, were their goal. Narcissists need chaos to distract themselves from their rotten inner core. I mean this literally. They are obsessed with the fight, with conflict, so that they don't have to sit and be with themselves. So there is no winning. As long as you are emotionally engaged in the conflict, they are getting what they want. The only winning is leaving. And refusing to give them any emotional energy whatsoever.

[TheCyberMantis]

Yes, when you go "no contact" and never see or hear from the narcissist again, you have won. When you never think about them again, you have won.

[juliaarambula]

Exactly! When you are happier with them gone, you won!

[joannefernie]

You can never expect a change in a narcissist but you can change YOU! ❤❤❤

[ladyg]

Almost 5 years later and so much of me lost, but I'm finally taking off the rose colored glasses. It's been very difficult allowing myself to see that so much evil can exist in one person. 🥺 Thank you so much for your videos. They have been of immense help. It's been a true blessing coming across your content. 🙏

[babyrenee]

The only way to win with the narcissist is to simply STOP PLAYING THE GAME. Cut your losses let go.. then inhale your newfound PEACE and FREEDOM<3

[rw]

My narcissist is cold as ice. They will turn their back on you when you need them the most, therefore I no longer wish to be in a relationship with them

[lhyllianamarseilles]

The narc is scraping for an emotional response from you.. even when you aren't reacting, they will create your reaction in their head.

[leticiavaldiviez]

Even if it is family and you love them, you realize after you’ve walked away that you don’t miss them.

I am so there!!!! I just don’t have the energy anymore to give him all my love and be submissive to him anymore. He is gaslighting me trying to make me believe that I don’t treat him great when I know I do!!! No matter what I do and sacrifice for him HE IS NEVER HAPPY!

[cerin]

It took years but it took one fateful interaction that slapped me awake. In that moment I just suddenly saw every transgression pass by in my mind in minutes. So I sighed, closed my eyes, said “ok” and never spoke to him again. I cannot believe how fast my detachment came, when it finally did, because I went back so many times. But now when I think of him I feel nothing. No hate, no ill will, just complete indifference. It was/is the most liberating feeling, and I never thought I would be able to walk away.

[janeroberts]

They dont even deserve the acknowledgement of from the old
Beautiful