What happens when a Narcissist falls out of love with you? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 525

What happens when a Narcissist falls out of love with you? Narcissistic people could wake up one day and look at you completely different and start to devalue you and treat you badly as a result.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[yogib]

Narcs DO NOT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS!!!! They LUST! They can feel great about you at 1:00pm then feel very differently at 1:02pm…. They are like little children, their communication skills are -0. I am happy to be free of him and out of a 14year (non) marriage… it was the absolute worst…now when I go to bed at night it feels great that I don’t have to worry or think about that dreadful man & what is on his mind’s agenda, wondering what is he going to do next to cause me hurt/trauma, I will no longer have to adjust and readjust my feelings of being with such a person ever again, it feels wonderful, there are days that I chuckle at myself. & whisper quietly that I’m FREE!!! & I can see life BEAUTIFUL AGAIN 🌺Thank you, Jesus 💕

[elainnajones]

Narcissists do not love you. Therefore they cannot fall out of love with you. The end.

[jjmack]

Narcissists will always end up alone as they aren't capable of love or empathy.

[MrsTruthTeller]

The craziest part is trying to figure out what you did wrong to deserve this. It’s taking me so long to realize that his idea of love is warped and twisted. He needs me to be perfect and to fawn over him constantly and to never respond negatively to anything ever. He could be cold, angry and terrible to me but I can’t ever respond to it. His expectations are unrealistic and there was nothing I could do about it.

[marvinjohnson]

They don't love you they love what you do for them and love how you make them feel. They only miss what you do for them not you.

[luluhen]

LETS NOT FORGET THE BIPOLAR Issues, THE CONTROL, AND THE JEALOUSY.

[Followmybliss]

They don’t love anyone - not even themselves. They are just a black hole of wants and needs.

[jilll]

There is nothing better than being over the narc!!!

[OolongG]

I’m my experience with a narcissist, they literally do NOT know what love is. They’re incapable of it, almost like a sociopath!

[bluecoral]

What's really sad is that narcissistic parents will do this to their children, too --- suddenly, they don't feel "into them" anymore, and something or someone else (like a sibling, new baby, or if single, new bf/gf) has all their love bombing attention. DEVASTATING for a small kid who doesn't understand why mommy or daddy isn't focused on them anymore.

[maha_sage]

The love bombing stage was really cool but it's charm fades when you realise you will not be accepted for who you are.

[IndySunflower]

My ex feelings just cut off like a light switch and I felt it, I wouldn't even want to come home. It just seemed like he was always disgusted with me. I couldn't take it anymore after being pushed away and gaslighted. I learned to love myself more and heal. I learned so much from that experience, it was rough and there are times where I worry about him but I have to put myself first.

The breakup was August and I'm doing much better.

[cloyewoods]

The narcissist was never in love with me. I realized that as soon as I started researching his behaviors and discovered he checked ALL the boxes for narcissistic and toxic behaviors. That's why the discard was the BEST thing he did for me. These videos are so accurate and helpful. The comments help confirm I'm not the only one.
Thank you, Lee.

[susiemena]

I just walked away from a narcissistic person. What drew the line was him calling me a fat. It really hurt. He tried to apologize but not the first time. It's just clear how he really feels plus he's an alcoholic. I left and he texted that he was done with my crazy ass. This cut deep he knows it was an insecurity since the first time he told called me fat. But why do.i keep dreaming of him? I'm depressed and still love him but this hurts so much. He said I was makin a big deal out of nothing. I cried and he mimicked me cryin sayin I'm to old to react like that. Idk what to do. I also deal with anxiety and this definitely has me feeling lost, hurt, confused and angry

[ShaisTime]

Yo… I LOST IT when he said, “We don’t like you, we kinda hate you, but we also wanna keep you around cause we did care” Omg cracking tf up !! 😭🤣🤣😂 FACTS ‼️💯 That’s exactly how it goes. Energy don’t lie 💯 On spot again Lee always 💥💯

[jlongino]

“I’ll always love you” but I exposed you so you abused, destroyed and punished me. They don’t love anyone or themselves. Nobody cripples another person in every way imaginable and loves you.

[terrimartinez]

ALL relationships with a Narcissist, EXPIRES!

[sjs]

2022 it all changed. I started standing up to him. He no longer cared for me. It was so obvious. I left. Now, life is so peaceful.

[jonathanomahony]

I want to thank you for explaining this narcissists illness.
I was with my narcissists husband for 35 years and I have walked away
For my own well-being.
I knew for the last 2 years that something was not right here.
I was making excuses for his behaviour , but than I began to look deeper.
And sure enough I saw it he was a narcissist.
I had to finish it and walk away for good.
It broke my heart to do this, but once I understood that he never loved me the way I love him.
This was only a game to him.
With time I began to heal and found someone who loved me for who I am.
DO YOU WANT TO KNOW WHO I FOUND.
I FOUND NEW ME.
I GAVE MYSELF ALL THE LOVE THAT I WAS GIVEN TO MY NARCISSISTS HUSBAND.
I FEEL ALOT BETTER THAN I HAVE EVER BEEN IN MY MARRIAGE.
LIFE IS GOOD TO ME NOW NO MORE DRAMA FROM HIM.
PEOPLE HAVE SAID THAT I LOOK ALOT BETTER AND THAT YEARS HAVE BE TAKEN OF MY AGE.
I FEEL LIKE A NEW WOMAN, LIKE I HAVE BEEN BORN AGAIN.
I HOPE MY HUSBAND FINDS PEACE WITHIN HIM SELF AS HE WAS ALWAYS ANGERY.
I AM ON TOP OF THE WORLD NOW SINCE I WALKED AWAY AND I WOULDN'T GO BACK FOR
ANYTHING.

[lisalandry]

Unfortunately my first “real” boyfriend was a narc. Dealt with him on and off from age 14 to 22 and felt the light switch moment multiple times. Each time I dealt with him, his feelings for me turned off quicker and quicker but he always came back. I finally shut the door on him but I’m still bothered by the fact that this is my first experience with “love”.