I’m Sick of My Miserable Husband!

I’m Sick of My Miserable Husband!

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[JRV]

This was me 8 years ago. My wife sat me down and explained that she is miserable because of my miserable attitude because of my job. Basically, you find a new job or a new wife. That lit the fire, I found a different job for the same pay with in 2 years. Flash forward 6 years and I am making way more than I would be in the previous job and our relationship is way better. I am always in a good mood when I come home.

[karleehicks]

Teach women they aren’t responsible for every one’s emotions, even their husband’s.

[michellealjunaidi]

My ex-husband used to tell me when he got home from work that he needed some peace. So after I greeted him I let him be. I've already been to work and now get dinner ready. He would still be in his need peace mode by the time dinner was ready. I would start to tell him about my day and he would shut it down. So I wouldn't say anything else. By the time I get ready to go to bed he'd have the audacity to ask me why I don't talk to him.

[hiddenhand]

I grew up with a father like this. He would argue with all of us and my mom would just let it happen. If it wasn’t a grumpy attitude, it was rage. Now I distance myself intuitively from adults like this.

[TwoOnTheTar]

I prioritise calling my boyfriend when he finishes work because in the 25mins it takes for him to drive home, he is able to vent about his day and get all the negative stuff off his chest. By the time he walks in the door, he feels heard, supported and validated. He vents, I listen. When he arrives home, he is greeted with a smile, a hug and a kiss. If he can slog it out at a job he detests, that’s the very least I can do ❤ This is one of the ways we protect the peace and calm in our home.

[kimdramas]

I had a job and behaved very negative to people. My friend told me "i don't have room in my life for such a negative person right now. No one wants to be friends with an angry person"".

[KidCity]

That was my ex, no one should have to live with someone who's angry all the time.

[perfectpeace]

I notice that some men rage because they can’t communicate.

[azimuthbusinesscenter]

"you can sleep better at night blaming his boss" BAM, nailed it. Everyone needs someone to blame...

[Belluser-weuccbl]

My late husband was always in a bad mood. I thought it was his job because he would complain. Later we found out he was bipolar and had a drinking problem. Rough journey.

[sanjmalik]

My ex husband blamed me, our children, his work, everything else but himself.

[ayeshanasir]

Yeah I used to be all smiles and happy when my husband would come home, till his cheating became PERMANENT in our marriage (of 12 years) I found out the first time when I was 5 months pregnant, and big mistake not leaving then... I am done mentally and emotionally... just waiting for a few more weeks before I call it quits
He does not deserve my smiles, my emotions, my loyalty, My dedication or my love.
I am done being put down, disrespected, berated and belittled on an almost daily basis especially in front of my 11 years old son

[ACollectorNotAHoarder]

We're all responsible to learn how to manage our emotions. If you choose to act out, you're going to find yourself alone.

[bridgiesue]

My partner has an incredibly tense job, he works 80 hours a week, and has problems with management all the time. But you know what happens when he comes home? He walks through the door, gives me a big smile, and says "yes! The best part of my day is finally starting!" If your job is affecting your family that much, your family isn't the priority.

[michellejohnson]

I’ve been married for over 20 years. I don’t tolerate after work venting anymore. I’m not responsible for fixing or absorbing a bad mood. I’m not a garbage dump. However, I love offering advice and support if asked. I don’t feel guilty for setting boundaries to guard my inner peace.

[malteserjones]

Many times husbands resent their wives for their own choices and turn around and mistreat or abuse their wives. Like if he had a certain dream or goal and couldn’t accomplish it because his wife mysteriously got pregnant and now he has to put his dream on hold or forget it altogether, he’ll blame her.

[ashleysalazar]

I can't stand people who bring their work home with them. I have worked plenty of jobs I hated. You have to leave that irritability at the door.

[rebeccabamford]

I’ve tried this myself explain that my husband‘s energy washes over me and makes me so miserable that I’d rather go live in a cardboard box then spend one more day with him but he’s basically telling me that’s just how he is and won’t go get help get checked for Depression nothing so I am looking to have to leave soon because after 22 years I can’t see the rest of my life looking like this with this dark cloud of gloom over for me .. and I mean everything bothers him even if the dogs bark outside. Or someone cuts their grass. He’s never happy about anything and refuses to count his blessings. I’m out.

[jamesbassett]

As one who grew up with a minister/missionary father, this was very affirming. The constant criticism was such that I was relieved to be sent away to boarding school and did not experience an iota of homesickness. It seems to me that many ministers relish having the God card up their sleeves in order to beat back any challenges. Sadly, it is my opinion that my father's illegitimate interpersoanl style damaged everyone in the household more than it damaged me.

[carolhedberg]

I love this meaningful discussion. Two months ago, my husband died angry and miserable. I'm now unpacking the fact that this was the way he chose to live his life. I tried to help, but he was too afraid to try. Don't let this happen to you.