Why Moms Are Miserable | Sheryl Ziegler | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

[marisaperez]

It’s not motherhood that makes us miserable. It’s the lack of support.

[Hopeanyway]

I'm married with 3 kids and I stay home with the kids. Despite having my husband's income which I'm grateful for, I feel like a single parent because the weight of the isolation and repetitive days. I love my kids to no end but simultaneously, I've lost my identity completely. I'm so grateful for this talk; I'm glad to know this is a situation most of us find ourselves in.

[sgsodyp]

If we’re a working mom, we feel guilty. And if we are a stay at home mom, we feel judged.

[kimberlyanderson]

Wish i had heard this 26 years ago. Motherhood is draining yet fulfilling. I felt guilty for not being 100% happy about staying home with kids. Started drinking and hide my drinking. Culture doesnt support stay at home moms. I had a career but gave it up because I thought it was the right thing to do. Three years sober now.

[Michelle-byfp]

Exhausted, overwhelmed, and lonely. Wow, that describes me exactly

[HerHighnesss]

I'm a stay at home mom of two boys and I have 0 friends

[zuleika]

I've been a single mom of 4 for almost 4 years now. No friends, no family. Just get deeper in my thoughts everyday... I've been learning to heal from the past but its been a struggle. To all moms feeling this way, I send you love, light and healing💙

[Nadacokolada]

I was a say at home mom for 7 years, and I have 2 children. I describe that time as, never being alone, but never feeling so lonely.

[ravenclaw]

"The problem with no name" = Not every woman can handle having a career, balancing a marriage, and raising children all at once. Women need to know that its ok, they don't need to do all three to be accomplished.

[barbara]

I think the trouble is that when a woman has a kid, her life almost stops and revolves around that kid.
The man’s life interests stay just as important as they were before the kid.
Women cut off their friend circle and stop going to hobbies or sports.

[Financialreliefs_]

I can relate. Being a mom is lonely and we are afraid to tell others how we are feeling because of the fear of being judged. So many women suffer in silence.

[cassave.]

The problem is that the burden of parenting falls directly onto the mother. Even now with more women working, women statistically do majority of childcare, cleaning, and cooking. I suspect the reason behind this is because a lot of old-school parents raised their girl children to do majority of the housekeeping while boys were allowed to be kids, reinforcing that idea that it's a woman's job to do all this. We need to start raising boys and girls the same way.

[carlabarbosa]

Thank you for talking about this. No one wants to admit that motherhood is not a pleasure cruise and then they grow up and have their own lives. Make room for yourself no matter what. Kids and husband's will take, take, take.

[kawaiisakura]

Sometimes I just want to get in my car and keep driving. 😥😔

[kco]

To women parenting is an obligation but to men, it's an elective.

[juliea.]

The expectation placed upon our shoulders is tremendous: we have to be go-getters at work, super moms, lose baby weight in 48 hours, it's nuts!

[acmulhern]

I don’t think social media is the reason for social isolation, but rather one of the biggest symptoms of it. People use social media because they yearn for connection and it’s not getting met.
The problem is the way that society is built, with work and commute, as well as chores taking away from tim with others. We work for 8+ hours a day where we sometimes don’t even say a word to any co-workers all day. Then we commute home where we are alone in our cars and arrive home, exhausted, with nothing to talk about than work or what we saw during our commute.
As for mothers, all we end up talking about is our kids. And let’s get real, on those days where your kids have been nagging and fighting all day, making a mess and you’re just at your wits end, we still feel like we have to lie and tell everyone how blessed we feel and how our life finally has meaning since we have become mothers. This pressure is what drives mothers insane, not the fact that they have children, but the fact that they have to act like they’re perfect in order to not feel judged.

[melissasmorris]

It just sounds like we are never happy. When we’re single and just working on goals something is missing we yearn for motherhood and marriage when we get it we’re still depressed. 😩😩😩😩🤦🏽‍♀️

[tikaroxanne]

Being a mom is a beautiful thing but being a mom with a lack of support is torture 😢 We are expected to just take it but guess what we didn’t make these kids by ourselves…no mother should ever be overwhelmed because there should be another parent doing their part.

[blackstagartstudio]

You see what's weird is I don't like being around people too often. I am very creative and would rather be with animals or writing or painting.