9 Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder

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MedCircle host Kyle Kittleson sat down with Dr. Ramani Durvasula to discuss how to spot the 9 traits of a highly misunderstood mental health condition, Borderline Personality Disorder, also know as, BPD.

She answers:
What are the trademarks of borderline personality disorder?
What does it feel like to have borderline personality disorder?
How is BPD different from other personality disorders?
How is BPD different than bipolar disorder?
What are the 9 traits of borderline personality disorder?
Do you have to have all 9 traits to receive a BPD diagnosis?

Dr. Ramani ends the interview with tips for helping a loved one who might have borderline personality disorder.

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[pocoapoco]

I'm relieved to find out that I only exhibit 13 of the 9 traits.

[gabewaite]

just starting to realise that it isn't normal to feel intensely sad, stressed, relaxed and happy all within half an hour

[BrownGeorge-pwxo]

I was diagnosed with BPD 18 years ago as a teenage. Spent my whole life fighting BPD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

[yourstruly]

I've been watching so much stuff about these disorders that now i wanna know the traits of a normal human

[MarvinDavenport]

That rug really tied the room together.

[sofiap]

The worst part is when you just KNOW your reaction is innappropriate but you still keep doing it without any control knowing you slowly make the other person feel horrible especially when they don't know about the disorder and then you spend a lot of time feeling guilty and thinking about how bad of a human you are :/

[kellycarroll]

I ultimately lost my daughter to BPD a year and a half ago…she was 24 when she took her life. She suffered for so long and she had been in and out of psychiatric hospital/ drug rehabilitation programs. I tried so hard to save her and yet I couldn’t. My world is so dark without her💔

[michelleluisce]

I think it’s important to talk about the correlation of BPD and childhood PTSD and trauma.

[sarahw]

"They want to be alive, at the same time they want to be dead-- because they can't manage that pain."

[mrssmiff]

"I FeEl LiKe WeRe AlL lIkE tHaT"

This is why I hate explaining my illness

[pokemonpro]

So many issues that appear to be BPD seem like what someone who is on edge and traumatized by dealing with a narcissist would do after years of dealing with a narcissist. Your personality can be altered by living in fear of serious and severe threats, manipulation, constant ups and downs, and on edge and also dealing with the depression and realization of the severe unfairness and feeling totally trapped for so long. Eventually you can't help but become suicidal or reactive, or one and then the other.

[danikim]

My friend does exactly what this woman explained. I had to focus on studies, I was really busy, she snapped. In a flick of moment we argue, because I tried to reason with her. Only when she burts into tears she kept apologzing. That's when I seen how much serious is and how much she fears people will leave her.

I stayed because I want to help her. I want her to know she is not alone.

Thank you for this video.

[dew]

“They want to be alive but at the same time they want to be dead because they cannot deal with the pain” wow. Just wow. That hit hard.

[EB-wlst]

"People with BPD don't want to be dead but they also don't want to be alive." Wow, that's me exactly.

[smartie]

Just found out that i have BPD. At 29, now all my life makes sense. I've realized that since I found out I know exactly what and who triggers me, I was able to reduce the anger by distancing myself of certain people but as soon has they are with me and say smth that bothers me ( my mother criticizing me ) sends me into a crises of mood swings in minutes and feeling lots of anger. I only feel calm when im alone now. Lord, I'm starting therapy. Good luck, everyone ❤

[sadie]

I HATE to admit that I have a personality disorder. It kills me to do so.

Here are my symptoms:

I have a sense of emptiness that shows up around happy, normal people.
I don't know who I am unless I'm helping or rescuing someone.
I am a chameleon depending on who I'm talking to. I exaggerate and lie.
I fixate on one person at a time.
I job-hop. I've had well over 100 jobs.
I 'date down' so that I cannot be rejected.
I am extremely jealous and it makes me paranoid.
I am extremely competitive and if I think I won't win then I won't try.
I lie. A lot.
I literally run away from attractive men.
I feel repulsed when someone likes me.
I've had three unplanned pregnancies by different men. All alcoholics.
Abuse and horror does not scare me, kindness does.

[catherinewohlfert]

My husband once said of me "You're like a beautiful garden with landmines."

[kilipakioritahiti]

Yup spot on: “you wanna die, but at the same time you wanna live”.

[laurenpatterson]

I think something not talked about a lot is that many people develop similar traits when in an abusive relationship with narcissists. Infidelity can cause you to feel some of these things also and lots of times its a combo of the two

[sharicoburn]

I thought I was BPD until I realized I was with a covert narcissist.
Once that relationship ended and I healed, I was fine. It's not me