Relationship Possessiveness and Retroactive Jealousy | BREAKING This Toxic Partnership

Relationship Possessiveness and Retroactive Jealousy | BREAKING This Toxic Partnership

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In this video I will share with you how being in a possessive relationship is incredibly toxic and why it's one of the leading causes of relationship jealousy and insecurity. I'll give you some tips and mindsets that worked for me and share with you some stories of possessiveness in my past relationships as well.

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Hey everyone its Matt and In this video I am going to be sharing with you how you can overcome possessiveness in your relationship for good! Being a possessive partner…or having a possessive partner causes things like massive jealousy in relationships, really bad cases of rj when you’re jealous of your partners sexual past, trust issues, control issues, arguments, just a ton of toxic factors that will weigh your relationship down and in most cases destroy it. And looking back on my own life… I was possessive all of my previous girlfriends… and spoiler alert.. none of the relationships EVER lasted! I wouldn’t ever want them hanging out with friends… I’d get mad when they chose to hang out with someone over me… I’d get mad when it took them a long time to text me back… and in return THEY WERE POSSESSIVE RIGHT BACK TO ME! Pretty soon our relationship was in shambles and we had ZERO FRIENDS! Haha! I am happy to report though I have learned from all that and have a much better understanding of why possessiveness nature in a relationship exists and how you can put an end to it once and for all. So if you are suffering from jealousy, insecurity, have control issues or things like that…I’ll show you exactly what you need to do starting today to stop this possessive landscape in your relationship and by the end of this video you’ll know exactly what to do in order to build a full, trusting, and flat out awesome relationship with your partner. So lets jump right in! Possessiveness in a relationship is the deep need to hold on to a person and only have them for yourself. It’s when you don’t want your partner to spend time with anyone else or even pursue interests outside the relationship, all you want is that person’s attention and love. And as I said.. in my own past…I was possessive all of my previous girlfriends… I didn’t want them doing anything without me! I even got mad at one girlfriend for booking a trip to London, before she met me! We met in like August one year… she had booked a trip in the spring time to go to London around October. So I got mad at her for booking the trip before she knew me because she was going to be gone for 4 weeks and well… what was I to do?? Shes all mine! She can’t just go off whenever she wants without my approval! That’s just ridiculous! Finally my behavior stopped when I met my honest, upfront, and feisty Brazilian wife who just basically told me… we can be together but shes still going to live her life and do the things she wants to do… see the people she needs to see… and if I have a problem with that… byeeee! And I was just like… ummm… whoa… ok. But that was what I needed to hear… it put me in my place! And it made me realize that the reason all my previous relationships didn’t work out…. And the reason I suffered from horrible bouts of jealousy my whole life… was because of ME! It had nothing to do with my partner in the least bit! And sorry to interrupt I forgot to mention this at the beginning of the video but it would mean so much to me if you could take a fraction of a 2nd and like this video real quick! The algorithm on youtube loves likes and comments and the more you do this the more youtube puts this video out to more people who really need to see it. So please hit the thumbs up button real quick right now it would mean the world to me!Getting rid of possessiveness in a relationship begins with the Understanding that Its not about your partner its about you…We are taught throughout our lives that life is this external game. This happened to me… and it caused me to feel this way. I saw my girlfriend talking to another guy downtown last night and it CAUSED me to feel jealous so I took it all out on her. But in actually… its how you see yourself on the inside. What you got going on on the inside reflects to the outside. If you have trust issues with your partner… its because you have trust issues with yourself… If you feel insecure about your relationship its because you feel insecure about yourself. If you fully trust yourself.. know yourself.. understand yourself.. respect

[DudeCalledDibs]

Thank you… currently struggling with possessiveness and jealousy just as you described. I can’t be mad at my partner for wanting to see her friends. That’s outrages and unacceptable on my part.

Like you said, she’s her own person and I need to be my own person too.

[katarina]

You're really brave for admitting all this. Respect.

[nicolab]

The timing of this video couldn't have been any better...it has been an underlying issue of mine which I've only been able to admit today and I'm ready to stop being possessive and insecure...I'm ready to be free of those and live and love healthily 😊

[TheUfm]

This only makes sense after 7 years of inner work and the development of a individuated entity from my mother

[andreaf]

this is a great video, so real and introspective. i've honestly been struggling a lot with this. the only reason my relationship has not taken a hit is because my partner is very observant and will not engage with that behavior. but it has become a bit of an issue in certain moments, and i feel horrible about it. right now im watching this video because she went out and i have noticed myself feeling anxious. and i don't really wanna feel like this and it makes me feel horrible about myself. this possessiveness, i've noticed, comes from different places. one of them, which is the one that has caused me to sometimes bring this problems into the relationship is my anxiety. i have recognized that i am very attached to her, and its not okey. it makes me overly worried about her being okey, and whenever she goes i am stressed or cautious. sometimes, when she doesn't immediately text me back or can't respond, i get super anxious and start imagining that something horrible may have happened to her. its become a bit of a routine by this point but i'm really trying to work past it. i don't know why i wrote all this, probably just trying to vent. i also want to say to anyone who might be reading and it's very easy to hate or be upset with yourself about having this issue, but don't feed into that negative pattern. recognize that something needs to change, but do so from a place of love to yourself and your partner. at least this is what i have to keep reminding myself.

[parijatbhowmick]

Thanks Matt, I am not comparing you with other people working on same issues, but I truly feel that the help you provide us is more on point and higher quality and more insight on us than the contents other provide. I truly don't know why you are not getting the amount of spotlight you deserve and had not people run behind presentation and had put more on what's inside the box, your videos would have been viral by now. Thank you Matt, we few truly value what you give us as they pull us out of the foxholes.

[MichaelM-wugy]

Thank you so much man! I just today realized I was possessive and I’m actually watching this with tears cause I know I need to change… wish I could like this video 100 times man!

[Mary-zorx]

This is so on point in my relationship he is very insecure and don't trust me im more relaxed then now im starting to get jealous for stupid things, i need my life and hobbies back, im Brazilian also he is American we all need life a part from our partners thats when we can bring excitement to the relationship

[cory]

Be alone until a woman brings you peace fellas

[VicG]

Bravo to you brother. I commend you for being a real man and admitting how you used to be and what you've learned from that experience. Imagine if all of us men and women did that. This was shared with a friend and I hope it will help her dealing with a possessive boyfriend. Keep up what your doing. This has inspired me to create my own content one day. God bless.

[healthvsfatigue]

This is a excellent tackle of the issue, i am in recovery from possessiveness and thank you thank you

[debralitton]

wow thanks so much for this. so real and authentic.

[dhananjay]

This video exactly answered all my questions... Now i will try to focus on myself... And i will definitely get rid of these toxic characteristics that I have...

[NT]

Thank you for your honesty and congratulations on your transformation. I’m proud of you. Thanks for the video.

[ecurb]

Thank you Youtube for bring this thumbnail up RIGHT when I needed it!
This is all GOLD for me right now...I am so guilty-as-charged!
Thank you Matt for this great advice 🙏🙏!

[Arookunn]

My god the amount of relate I experienced is almost creepy 💀

[ad-vinv]

Matt... truly you saved me... thank you ❤❤

[ElskaTheAnimator]

Thank you so much! Each time I search « How to stop being possessive » it only gives results like « 4 signs a friendship might be coming to an end » and it’s SO depressing, as if there was no solution and I’m just made to be a monster to society and remain it and I should just isolate myself completely… I’m so happy I finally have tips here, thank you very much

[R-]

Superb bro… thats the problem i am facing with me.. will try to rectify myself in order to build strong relationship with my soulmate..

[Saboramii]

Wow, thank you 🙏🏽
Validating and solution real