5 Ways Narcissistic Abuse Changes You For Good

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[Susan-iojr]

Narc abuse has taught me to trust my own judgement and to recognize gaslighting. I don't trust anyone and I no longer over share. I used to be very open and trusting. Now I keep my own council.

[hafizfaheem]

Thanks. I do not trust people blindly and second guess on my intuition anymore.

[lavendar]

Thank you very much. ❤ Now I can see red flags earlier and trust my intuition more than before.

[Fatimalove]

It’s made me more aware … and also shown me how strong I am. I’ve learned so much about myself and what I’ve allowed . And won’t do it again . And it’s helped me with boundaries ❤
I thank him for that and that only

[Genxmom]

You are one of the best narc abuse experts on the internet. Thank you 🙏

[catspurr_]

I think the biggest way it made a difference to me was when I realised I no longer needed attachments in my life, and how unhealthy attachment is different from healthy ones. I always used to feel like if I go through a break up, my life will tear apart and I'll feel alone to the point of getting depressed. But when the narc went away and came back and went away again, i realised that i cant rely on attachment to survive and I need to have a stable life first before welcoming someone in it. I realised how pointless it was to expect someone to 'not leave' and how so many things in life are outside our control. Yes the trauma isn't a positive thing to undergo, but this certainly taught me a great deal.

[happy_me]

After I came to senses abt wat I was actually goin thru I’ve become resilient as u said.. I’ve began to remember how strong confident a person I was nd still I have it in me.. I understood I was always special nd child of god.. I’ve realised my potentials nd focusing on my goals nd purpose towards life..!!Each nd everything u r telling is wat I’ve felt as well..💕💕💕You are too good at narc analysis huge respect for the guidance ur videos provide and the good work u doing..God bless u with abundance..!!😊💕💕💕

[jenhenningson]

My whole life I've been told that I'm deep and now I understand why

[keerthi]

You are very right .. We the survivors understand how strong we are to go through all that sorcery.. strength, resilience, passion for life and healing attitude are what I got after the abuse

[sharlayneblair]

You have a clear understanding about Narcissism. May God continue to bless you and your family always.

[amyfuentes]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge, and own experiences..I've been married to a man with NPD, for 24 years and finally had the courage to run for my life, to save myself and the lives of my 3 special needs kids almost 9 mths ago..after him beating me, breaking my hip and spine, I see 2 different therapist's, but you truly understand the trauma, and abuse like no one I've talked to or heard..every time I speak the truth now about what he's done to me, I feel my soul getting lighter...

[BasantiDevi-zp]

Everything that you have said is correct. I have emerged as a very strong woman after enduring narcissistic abuse for twenty years

[penne]

Thank you great content you put out! Much appreciated.

[Sarahwakingup]

Love your assessment of the spiritual meaning behind this. YES to increasing self love, understanding and compassion, which ultimately increases it for the collective (narcissist included). So my narcissitic ex (one of a few, wink wink) said the empath and narcissist are on the same continuum. Yes to the continuum, but he would say this in such a way that gaslit me to think: "Well if you are calling me that, then you are that too. So watch what you say."
He would say that when he trapped me a loop and was gaslighting me to make himself appear "more" --"spiritual", "knowledgable", or fill-in the blank with your own "more" here. His tactic was to constantly gaslight every time I called him out on seeming narcissistic (without using those words, as the were triggering to him, and rightly so) behaviors.
His wounds led him to be so jealous and possessive, I started to disconnect from all relationships, family included. Any outside contact was seen in his eyes as a threat and "cheating" in a sense. And yet he had a myriad of women reaching out to him from various outlets that he constantly stated was "so weird" and probably b/c his energy was "special."
When I would call him out on this he would obviously get defensive and in his defense would throw the mirror at me for doing something like responding to a text from my neighbor about using a parking spot, etc. Mind you, I'm a trained therapist. He appeared "so" emotionally connected when we first started dating. I think I stayed to prove to myself that I hadn't been duped by a master deceiver. It was clear at times, then he would cover his tracks and I would feel confused again and think he was the real deal.
I was SO hard on myself during and after this relationship. The unraveling process is long-winded and very delicate, like grief. Felt that I had to share for my story is probably a reflection of someone elses. We are not alone in this. I was in denial of my draw to this personality for years and just thought it simple codependency. The empath/narcissist quandary is a hero/heroines journey of sorts. I am exploring that more in my journey and on my channel as well.
Namaste for your work as a healer, shedding light on this dark corner of our world. I personally don't like projecting blame on others or putting myself in that victim role. I think taking ownership of our own trauma and work is the empowering place to be. But I also realize we have to acknowledge these patterns as they arise in both self and other. And the "other" in this situation is a very sick and insecure individual that is preying on the highly sensitive, empathic souls that want to fix the unfixable. That in and of itself can be a hard truth to swallow.
When I bring it back to myself I look within at where this pattern lies inside of me. Where is that unfixable little girl? How can I help her heal. Only then can I find true freedom from this addictive cycle. That is a work in progress. And I believe we need each other to get there. We are all walking each other home!

[gracefulexit]

All true...🎯 although how I wish I did not have to grow this way😞

These emotional vampire impostors are like demons in disguise, you would think you actually waged a battle that is truly spiritual by nature.

#woundedBUThealing...
#scarredYETstronger

[antheajones]

I cried after listening to this, as I realised that my entire life has been affected by narcissistic I've
abusive people, starting with my parents, followed by boyfriends, a husband and now, potentially, a possibly closeted gay partner. I'm now 73 and a chronic hoarder. I have now resigned myself to it and given up on life, even though I have 3 children, and 5 grandchildren, none of whom seem to care.

[narcissisticawareness]

This is very true. For me #4 is the most beneficial aspect of narcissistic abuse. However, everything you discussed is 100. Thank you for your help 👊🏻

[princess_sapphire]

My parents dont support me and never have, even through all this-no support just blame for everything that happens to me even if I did not cause it.
This has made me more aware of how little they think of me.

[wendydaniel]

It was a spiritual journey for me... Experienced hell, and it lead me to my healing . I was awoken in a rude way finding myself through this very painful abuse...That dance with the devil made me stronger and did not destroy me ..What a

[olivegoddess]

You articulate the these concepts so, so well. I absolutely agree with each phenomenon you described.