Phil In The Blanks | Ep 173 | Navigating Narcissism pt 2: Gaslighting And The Covert Narcissist Pt2

Gaslighting And The Covert Narcissist Pt2

Dr. Phil continues discussing narcissism and focuses on covert narcissism, which is more subtle than classic narcissism. Narcissists have a false sense of superiority and lack empathy. Covert narcissists have the same traits as classic narcissists but express them in more subtle ways. They manipulate and gaslight their partners, are judgmental, and envious. Dr. Phil emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and not trying to fix narcissists. The series aims to provide insight and help people manage or protect themselves from narcissistic individuals.

[plnthrd]

After a 27 yr marriage to a narcissist I'll give one piece of advice.... NEVER share a vulnerable emotion with them because they will eventually use it against you

[davemeiser]

Silence is golden with a narcissist I've finally found that out!!! And you can't win with them. And I know now you can't fix them.

[phoenixash]

I’m 59. I spent 57 years trying to make my mother proud, then I learned about covert narcissism and my whole world changed. I became the greyest of grey rocks. She countered w the silent treatment! I can’t tell u how much I love the silent treatment from her! I’m finding peace at long last!

[suemitchell]

I was married to a narcissist for 55 years and I never knew what it meant. My husband and I moved in with my daughter seven years ago and she told me mom you don’t need to live like that and I really didn’t know what she meant until she started explaining to me that he was a narcissist he was never going to change and I didn’t deserve to be treated like that, she got me moving. He is not here anymore. He has been moved to a nursing home because he can’t take care of himself and neither can I. It’s just very freeing to live alone with my dog and my daughter. I thank God for her every day, she is my angel because she recognized what was going on when I didn’t .

[marydickey]

Most dangerous question a narcissist asks you is, "Whats wrong?" They dont care, they just want to start an argument to get supply.

[Milestonemonger]

Don't take it personal.
Set boundaries.
Don't feel bad.
Don't expect an apology.

[TheShospitali]

They start a bunch of 💩 💩 & then when you get pissed off they play victim! 😂

[zetasmith]

I was married to a controlling narcissist for 34 years. He abandoned me and our 23 year old special needs daughter in a house that was unsafe. I recently learned what "gaslighting" is. For the past 10 years he kept telling me I was ruining our marriage and after a while I began to believe him and was committed to a mental institution for a few days. I've cried so much in the last 10 years that I strained my vocal chords and lost my voice for over a year. Gaslighting is REAL

[law.c.]

The best thing after a narcissistic relationship, is I observe every word and action, the saddest part after a narcissistic relationship, is I observe every word and action..

[mrfantastik]

The hardest thing to accept is the fact you will never get closure from a Covert Narcissistic.

[daniellewatson]

There’s a mighty, big difference between someone who is intelligent and smart compared to someone who is shifty and cunning.

[MT-txbu]

The silent treatment! The stonewalling! The aggression! The endless gaslighting! When I stopped playing the game, silence. Peace. Creativity. kindness. Patience with myself. Compassion. Joy.
Laughter! Friends! CONNECTION. It's not easy at first. Don't beat yourself up. Embrace the awkwardness and realize that they were the ones that created it. Take it as a gift. Thank you for the gift.

[carolannstevens]

I am new finding out. I am married to a narcissist. He sucks the joy out daily as he is very abusive. His mom is also! Wish I left him decades ago. I am in the process now after 35 years.
Thank you Phil!

[dalenemarie]

I married two covert narcissists, currently married to the 2nd. I will never marry again because I don’t make good choices with men. I love spending time alone and in relationship with the Lord. This gives me strength and peace. Thanks Phil. 😊

[barbarahanks-utzn]

People don't talk about "leveling" anymore, which surprises me because that's what narcissists try to do: They try to level you down so they can feel superior. Leveling.

[ElsieDee]

Covert narcissists also put on a perfect persona outside their home, while being a tyrant inside their home. Therefore, their affected family, spouse, children, can’t get any support from others. Their complaints get minimized.

[anitapaulus]

I have a covert narcissist step daughter. I’ve learned to stay out of her life, I am friendly when we speak, but avoid any meaningful discussions. Life is so much better this way.

[kmduarte]

Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know going into a relationship with a narcissist.
Forgive yourself for knowing what they are, and still repeating the cycle.
Forgive yourself for expecting that things can be any better or different with them, trying to reason with them, explaining yourself to them, or trying to convince them you deserve to be loved.
Walk away and pour all the energy and love into yourself that you would normally give to somebody who doesn’t deserve, and can’t understand, real love.

[haitiqueen]

After surviving narcissistic abuse only to encounter others afterwards with similar traits, have to admit it's become a challenge to meet new people. I see a lot, I feel a lot and sad truth is the bad guys outweighs the decent ones out here. Sad times😭

[melaniegerard]

I was married to a dangerous, evil Narcissist. We lived in Oregon. One day we went hiking in the wilderness. He often would take off for a short distance without me. I thought nothing of it, until I heard him at the truck. He sped off and left me there.
I hiked to the main road. It was dusk, and there were no other cars. I was in an area known for mountain lions. I was terrified.
It became dark, and I had no flashlight to see where I was going.
About 45 minutes later, I heard a car coming. It was actually a truck, and it turned out to be him.
I cried and sobbed, asking him how he could do that to me.
His words were, "Don't be hysterical! It was just a joke."
I left him and moved to Maine.