Phil In The Blanks Podcast | How To Handle A Narcissist pt. 2

Navigating Narcissism
The term 'narcissist' is having a moment right now- but is the word being overused? It's important to know exactly who and what you are dealing with. An accurate, clear understanding of narcissistic behavior is essential to living with this condition.

Dr. Phil discusses narcissistic personality disorder and how to deal with individuals who exhibit this behavior. Narcissists have a pattern of grandiosity, lack empathy, and see themselves as superior. They can be difficult to confront since they manipulate and gaslight others. Dealing with narcissists involves setting boundaries and recognizing their behavior. Dr. Phil emphasizes the importance of protecting oneself, having a support system, and being aware of narcissistic behavior to prevent exploitation.

[GinaG]

I've learned from the YWCA that the most dangerous time with a narcissist Is when you try to leave. I've also learned this from experience. So it's important that you have a safety plan in place if you in fact plan to leave or else it could get very dangerous for you....I learned from the first narc but moved as quickly as I could with the 2nd once the "revolving door" opened one last time, to a new place with a garage. And the help that came my way was a Godsend so I could do it all...

[virginiamitchell]

From my experience - don’t give a narcissist any warnings - just go make the report. If you tell them you are going to HR if they do it again you will find that they will pre-empt you and go to HR and accuse you of being the bully and threatening them with an HR investigation !! It’s happened to me!!

[kkennedy]

Excellent advice Dr. Phil, took me year's to really understand this, and how narcissist truly destroy lives, and if an empath like myself, it takes time to understand why you are so unhappy. Once you see it there is no unseeing it. Boundaries are needed, and you are right, every loss is NOT a loss. Thank you.❤

[charlientrotter]

Whoa. I am...speechless. i have words but too many to process. Im going to have to watch this again. I think ive been taking the bait and blaming myself when in fact ive been dealing w narissists...

[izawaniek]

Yes, true. Talk to someone who can get you and support you. It is impossible to deal with the narcisists without support. Those people are relentless. Incredible but true. They will not give up until they have run you into the ground.

[katiedid]

My mother is a covert relentless narcissist. She is 86 and I am sick of her. Sad…..

[denisechaoub]

Thanks so much dr Phil for these podcasts ! Please make a part 3 to all the narc videos I’m in a extreme bad situation with my narc husband who abandoned me he’s truly sick

[privateprivate]

One of my major problems is that I don’t have anyone who cares about me. I know people, they may think I think they’re my friend. I know better.

But, as I’ve often said, although it doesn’t pertain to situations where your physical safety is at risk), I had to look in the mirror and find my hero there.

[cf]

One of the best things I did, that Dr. Phil mentioned, is to be there for someone else. It's very healing. My ex became a stalker and tried to kill me by running me off the road, showing up at my home with a butcher knife, making death threats, after he tried to throw me down stairs and smash my face on the tiled foyer floor. This is when i tried to leave quietly. I never got a restraining order from the judge and once a man was threatened and kicked because he tried to intervene on my behalf- well then, the D.A. and judge panicked. Are sociopaths dangerous? Yes. They will kill you. Prisons are full of domestic abusers who feel they were wronged. Dr. Phil, thanks. I have P.T.S.D. from the lack of understanding of this personality disorder by the courts and police. I went completely no contact and got gel mace and a dog. At a certain point, trying to discern if they are a sociopath or psychopath is irrelevant. They will kill you just the same.

[beasaroseco]

The problem is HR rarely enforces policies. Most people have to take legal actions outside of the company.

[mohammedmm]

Thank you so much doctor. This is really helpful 💙💙

[patoaklitefrenchtv]

I appreciate this description and way out you've provided, Dr Phil.

You really know a lot about them.

Merci beaucoup !

[junevandermark]

It's exhausting to live around our own narcissism, without adding on the narcissism that afflicts
others.

[vsdwmtd]

Dollard 1939, Frustration -Aggression Hypothesis

“if the individual is prevented from achieving a goal by some external factor, then this will lead to frustration which will always lead to aggression”

[bettycapps]

THSNK YOU for this commentary about narcissist. I have lost our only child (daughter) and our two grandchildren because she married a narcissist. We have been estranged since 10/16/2016.
I could not find our problem until the word narcissist came to my attention. He is a control freak, threatens our daughter, he is a shyster, manipulator, plus he has one tattoo that says, “Rogue”. He screamed those definitions at first sight of him. But we never dealt with a narcissist before. We were far too late to save our daughter from him. When her father was on his death bed and even after he passed, absolutely nothing from either our daughter or anyone from that household. It’s been over 2 years since her father passed. He loved her very much. I still love her, but I cannot deal with this. They have been married 20 years already. And they lose more friends, he has lost more excellent jobs allowing our daughter to support the family.

Thank you for this video. If we had only known 21+ years ago.

[lIII]

Best advice I have yet heard from you Dr. Phil!
Need more of this?

[elletuppen]

As always, brilliant advice, thank you Dr Phil.
Your opening tips are spot on : they are not going to change; one does not feel better for venting; own your own feelings; don’t give them your power; don’t take the bait; set boundaries.
The only things I have experienced differently : that it is best not to pre warn them. The other is that the one I am still dealing with, is that 21 years after divorce, the individual has not given up gaslighting or other subtle forms of harassment. Maybe this is the slightly different MO of the passive aggressive covert narcissist?

[patralink]

Why threaten them? Instead immediately go and report them to HR and file a complaint without talking about it.

[ralphramsey]

First thing here, is to forgive yourself for putting up with it and just count it as a learning experience.

[bec]

Don't give a narc your Trade Secrets. Never say what you 'will' do. Just wait, and DO IT, then they will know after its done.
Show a narc the results not the proposal.