Phil in the Blanks: Toxic Personalities in the Real World P7 -Antisocial Personality Disorder [EP93]

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[ReneeHarris]

My ex-husband was diagnosed with bipolar and narcissistic personality disorder with anti social personality disorder and an alcoholic. He was such a JOY to live with! Knew when I divorced him I would become enemy number one but it was well worth it for my sanity. Hard to share custody but children are grown now and daughter has cut of contract and son sees him about three times a year. If I hadn't left, they would have never been ok.

[deborahhord]

Dr. Phil I need your strategy.
I just keep people away because I have accepted the fact that I can not decipher the bad, cunning from the others. So I've accepted that I'm safer just staying to myself and my animals.

[le_th_]

FINALLY, someone admits the statistics for personality disorders are WAY OFF and actual rates of prevalence are considerably HIGHER.

[somerandomyoutubechannel]

Once I thanked my husband for being so kind to me during something hard that was going on (that had nothing to do with him). His response, "I know. This is how a person with empathy would act."
You're right. Therapy can definitely make things worse. You'd think, oh well he's working on improving this lack of empathy. No, he got even better at masking a real deficit, and uses that to gaslight even harder.

[samanthajoy]

I dated someone who had this, but it was very subtle in the beginning. I had never heard of this disorder before, and was so confused as to why he insisted on violating boundaries and trying to make people uncomfortable because he thought it was funny....when I left him after a few months and shared with my family what he had done, it all clicked. ASPD.

[AHNOYTED]

I seriously love these new videos very informative! Keep them coming please they are helping me identify these traits, what to do and not to do.

[garysilvers]

Big problem! Thank you for this information…I’m shocked and so thankful for these programs on narcissism! MY STEPDAUGHTER is one and now I totally understand how to deal with her ! I’ve suffered for 38 years …. Thank God your program showed up when I turned on UTube! I’m crying from joy on why I’ve had such a problem with her : Praise The Lord ❤️🙏🙋‍♀️

[gic]

I’m diagnosed ASPD (formerly known as sociopathy)
It’s good to know, first and foremost, it’s also a spectrum disorder. Not everyone with this is unaware of self. I grew to understand how dangerous I can be with certain types of people and I stay away from them, for their own safety. My symptoms began at 15. I was a dangerous kid. I was aggressive, but I was more of a conartist than anything. I can find loopholes in anything. I used people. I hurt people. All for my own benefit. And I saw it as playing a game and they lost every time.
I’ll be 41 tomorrow. With a lot of therapy under my belt. I actively try to improve who I am every day, for the sake of those I love. I hate how I used to be. I am still ASPD
But I am aware and much less of a threat than I used to be.
He’s right..no remorse. I didn’t feel bad for what I did. I still wouldn’t feel bad if it’s someone I’m not attached to. Again, why I stay home lol.
I’m a single mother of 2. Raising them is my only focus. I think if I didn’t have children, I’d be a lot different today..
I’d most likely be in prison

Edit: cruelty to animals happens mostly with psychopathy. Psychopathic people are more likely to deliberately harm/kill someone than someone with “sociopathy”

[rkbllc]

Best books:
"Without Conscience"
"Snakes in Suits"
"The Sociopath Next Door"
"The Mask of Sanity"
"People of the Lie"

[lucindaturley]

Thank you for this series. You just helped me understand what I’ve been through and what I’m going through. You’ve helped me to identify, see and understand why people around me are behaving the way they are. For those of us who don’t have $300, 000 for therapy, this has been extremely helpful.

[yvonnetatalovich]

Dr Phill please keep doing these podcasts! I love this information so we can live better lives!

[sumofo]

I love this series, Dr Phil. Thank you so much. 🙏🏻 I have a masters in psychology, and you’re absolutely right — the info you’re giving here is about as good as you’re going to get in academia. Like you mentioned, the ASPD and NPD won’t come in for therapy. Why would perfection need help?!? 😆 So therapists/counselors often receive little training on this. The problem is that you WILL see many people coming in for emotional/physical abuse received from these people, or as mentioned, in couples/marriage/family therapy. So I hope that therapists start to learn/study more on the subject so that they can more readily identify the dynamics and spot these disorders. I’ve seen therapists/counselors easily manipulated by clients, with disastrous results.

[Timbergal]

Dr. Phil, I spent my entire growing up years with an extremely toxic sibling. However, my mother refused to acknowledge this….and she was always protecting them, until the day my mother died. I was on my own in dealing with the toxic sibling, and I was her target. At times, it became unbearable. I no longer speak to her, since my own well being was suffering.
I love listening to your podcasts on this subject…I wish I had it available years ago….Thank you so much for sharing what you do.

[HH-rjxg]

I agree this can be very dangerous when the aspd person can learn to mimic appropriate responses learned via therapy sessions etc. Thank you for sharing Dr. Phil! Loving this series- psych enthusiast here 😊

[kmax]

This is the most clear and concise description of my domestically violent and abusive ex common law partner I've heard to date. Thank you Dr. Phil. This has truly helped me to validate my decision to leave and go no contact with this person.🙏

[loganross]

This is excellent! I can’t wait until Tuesday. Thank you Dr.Phil. What you’re doing here is outstanding. You’re helping us protect ourselves. You make learning exciting.

[drcorastack]

What a brillaint clinical psychology professor it is Professor Phil we should be calling him!

[dareal]

i got diagnosed with aspd, and i gotta say that its on a spectrum. i myself cant feel empathy for others the way you do, but i teached myself to react with the appropriate ''emotion'' when its needed. yes its an act in a certain way but the idea that i go as far as to react in the way normal people would react is my form of empathy. its cognitive empathy.

[toniaaltis]

I am so glad to have found this podcast series. I was in a 20 year relationship (17 years married) and with 3 teens children. I knew something wasn't right but had no clue until 3 years ago even what a narcassist was. After a childhood of abuse (physical, sexual and verbal) and me being an empath, it gave him the advantage he needed. As I reflect back over the years there were signs I brushed them under the rug. Or he would say he loved me in between. In the end, in Feb 2020 I was at my lowest point in all my life. He had taken everything from me. My self worth, my integrity and my kids. Even though we all lived in the same home, my children dispised me. He made me believe that I was the worst person on Earth. Not a good mom, not a good spouse nor even a good friend. And no matter what my friends and family told me, I saw no relief. I woke up one morning and just wanted to die. I could never harm myself but I wanted to naturally have something happen. But instead, God saved me. I was reminded through him how good I am. So I started going back to church and Ioved out in March 2020. At 1st he seemed "OKAY" with the idea. Like it would be fine. I was done with the relationship and wanted out and he convinced me to try therapy. We went to 2 sessions and it made it worse. He was now a wrecking ball because he had no control and I was on my own. He was raging, harassing me and making tons of accusations of me cheating when married. I finally got a camera system and he actually filed divorce April 2020 (before I could) then I was left following his parenting plan and such. In the end when the divorce was final March 2021, I gave him everything, the house (and almost all belongings) no child support, no alimony and 50/50 custody thinking it would keep him off my back or solve everything (I WAS WRONG)

[Lexxus]

My mother is diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder, borderline and histrionic personality disorder so this is extremely eye opening to me to try and understand her more. Thank you