Phil In The Blanks | How To Handle A Narcissist

Navigating Narcissism
The term 'narcissist' is having a moment right now- but is the word being overused? It's important to know exactly who and what you are dealing with. An accurate, clear understanding of narcissistic behavior is essential to living with this condition.

Dr. Phil discusses narcissistic personality disorder and how to deal with individuals who exhibit this behavior. Narcissists have a pattern of grandiosity, lack empathy, and see themselves as superior. They can be difficult to confront since they manipulate and gaslight others. Dealing with narcissists involves setting boundaries and recognizing their behavior. Dr. Phil emphasizes the importance of protecting oneself, having a support system, and being aware of narcissistic behavior to prevent exploitation.

[CrawfishCuban]

Its crazy how much content on narcissistic personality disorder has come up in the last few years

[nothing]

Its really simple, If they are not willing to change get yourself into a position where you can distance yourself from them

[ganymeade]

Never explain or apologize to a narcissist. Narcissists use good intent badly and demand more submission. Best to go and stay No Contact.

[facialsonDemand]

They would have to admit something is wrong with them first and that is not something a narcissist would do

[michaelclark]

Assertiveness is the ability to tell a narcissist where to go in such a way that they actually LOOK FORWARD TO THE TRIP.

[carlineprime]

Omg!!! Yesss!!!! I just ended my relationship with 1. My relationship was like a roller coaster and it’s exhausting ! I developed anxiety and panic attacks.

[markslist]

Dr. Phil, your capacity to distil complex topics down to very easy to understand conceptions; and without losing the substance of the source research, is a deep gift. Thank you for making your ideas available to the rest of us by video. It's a major contribution.

[izawaniek]

Absolutely the case. You have described the narcisist and what they would do to you perfectly well. There is no talking or dealing with the narcisists If we want to stay sane, healthy and alive. A lot of people have not made it. Thank you dr Phil.

[nicj]

The best thing you can do in a narcissistic relationship IS LEAVE AND NEVER LOOK BACK!

[meganphillips]

Their problem is our REACTION to their ACTIONS. There would be no reaction if there wasn't an action, but they will spin our reaction to be the problem and make themselves the victim.

[kkennedy]

Thank you Dr. Phil for helping so many with awareness. I never completely understood before, been going on for too many years . I am at a point of no contact, putting myself first. That is new for be, but once you see it, can't be unseen. Heartfelt Thank you.❤

[mthomas]

The Narcissist does not want to learn because that would require them to look within themselves. They spend much of their time looking at us, the culprits. The issue I had was that I was hoping things would change. I lived in that world for a long time. I realized that, by golly, there are many of us that know that feeling. I'm not alone! I'm so thankful for Doctors who talk about this. We talk to others about it, our friends and family, but it's so helpful when Doctor's talk about this abuse. It's affirming.

[gwendolynwehage]

This information is right on to all I have experienced. Almost all extended family members are like this and I have been the scapegoat through gossip. I have been very happy moving on without them. They keep trying to contact me on birthdays and holidays, I am polite but decline any contact by saying things like; "I will be busy during that time." Narcissists just hate that you don't depend on them in a co-dependent way. They are angry and jealous that I don't need them. The narcissists are so dull in character that their rude attitude and actions refuse to admit they did anything to drive us away. One thing I have noticed is that they just hate when I am joyful and happy. They refuse to enjoy anything that I am enjoying with me. They are hell-bent on never affording me any validation at any time even when others have positively engaged with me. In fact, the validation of others aggravates them, they have to do something rude to make it look like I didn't deserve the praise of others.

[elletuppen]

Thank you a balanced view Dr Phil. No fixing, just register empathy and move on.

[emmamonroe]

I love it when dr Phil says when I was a young lad I thought I could fix everything. I honestly do not thank by any means they can even fix themselves. Like ever.😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

[adrianaleon]

It’s nearly impossible to get rid of those leaches, the more you give them the more they will take.

[michaelclark]

Dealing with narcissists can be like pulling elephants teeth with a pair of tweezers.

[kalubafak]

My(75m) adult son(40) is staying with me after losing everything (wife, kids, job) due to alcoholism and the fact that he is a mean sadistic narcissist. He used to hurt me a lot but the lesson I have learned is it comes down to using a carrot or a stick. For example, he recently sarcastically mimicked me during a conversion because I am hard of hearing. I instantly got in his face and said "don't ever mimic me again. If you do I will throw you out of my house". It got his attention because he would be homeless on the street if I threw him out. He hasn't attacked me since then. I kicked him out of my house two years ago and went 100% non-contact for two years so he knows that I will follow through and kick him out. He throws tantrums like a child, but I just leave for several hours. He got mad over my Home owner Association (HOA) pool rules and threw a tantrum when I said "I have to go with you to the pool". When I confronted him about his tantrum he said "well YOU said that YOU did not want to go to the pool". I didn't argue with him. The next day I went to the HOA and turned in the pool key. No more pool access. I don't use public pools so I don't care. Logical consequences.

[dr.bishop]

thank you so much dr phil.. you're so good in explaining this that it made me realize i should pursue my masters in clinical psychology.

[debbiedoughty]

If you think you are involved with a narcissist the only choice you have is to run! As fast as you can. Don't let the monster suck you in. There is life after a narcissist. Keep listening to Dr. Phil's videos and hear what he's telling you. Just RUN and don't look back!