Setting Boundaries When Young Adults Return Home - Dr. John Townsend

With college campuses closed and many entry-level jobs being impacted by the economy, young adults are moving back home with their parents.

Dr. John Townsend helps families to navigate expectations and responsibilities to set healthy boundaries and show mutual respect. He addresses communication issues and formulating and implementing a plan for rules in your home that can work for everyone.

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[jclilstar]

I wish I would have known this before my daughter and I had our big blow up in Oct 2019. I felt I was out of control so I held on too tight as my daughter was wanting to grow. I raised her in up the things Lord by doing my best to be a example for Christ. The hard part was letting go and allowing my adult daughter to learn to live as a adult. She moved out and moved with her boyfriend, and she walked away from the Lord. I'm learning to love her back to Christ

[robzee]

This was so helpful. Focus on the family has helped me in every area of my life. Thank you 😊❤️

[Rosedaleb]

This discussion is so needed. We have two teenagers at home, 14 and 19! Thank you all very much! We’re happy to be monthly supporters because we’ve been blessed, in our family, by this ministry, for years!❤️

[dianemanskie]

Goodness, just listened to this, long overdue advice. April 2023 will be 5 yrs of doing life with an adult son and his 4 children. This is not a daily situation as he is a firefighter with a varied schedule.
Marriage turmoil, including unsafe behavior was at the root of the decision to end cohabitation.
Frankly, i don't see light at the end of the tunnel, financially not feasible. However your program was welcomed advice.
Thank you for your debotion to families.

[cbak]

This is great for long term house guests!

[vynedvyne]

Helpful in this season for sure :) thanks

[robzee]

He’s not talking about not being their Mother or Father; he’s talking about having the wisdom to know when to stop parenting your older children and when to

[T-Moss]

What about disabled adult children who in no way could afford anything these days on a disability check? I’m the parent and can’t even afford anything on my disability check. I understand the way regular families should work, but with the democrats running the price of everything sky high, unless you make $25 an hour and married with a second income, you can’t even afford a place alone. And unfortunately no women want anyone that’s on disability these days. For 15 years everyone I have met has been fine until they ask what I do for a living and I say I’m on disability. So if I can’t even do it, how can my kid do it when they are in the same situation? Counseling has been done over and over and over and you can’t squeeze rent, food, gas, electricity, on $1000 a month. Even a singlewide trailer is renting for over that out here in the country in the middle of nowhere

[chassityg.]

I'm on the otherside of the fence. I'm the adult child who is trying to grow up but my mother doesn't want me to leave. I can't really talk about moving out or my desire to get married without being pushed away. I know I need help in this area. I'm praying and researching

[debbiewood]

...this is excellent, ....a husband and wife need to see the importance of this together....it would be nice if the husband would lead in this....not allow the mother to "carry it all" and become the "hated" parent...what a weight!

[sandrawhite]

That does seems difficult to say...I don't want to parent you anymore. This is an interesting podcast.

[sandrafagan]

I need this book and the link for smurf ...awesome listen

[allforthegloryofjesuschris]

How do you address an adult child that perhaps has mental illness and he came back home after his girlfriend broke up with him home he was living with? He came back home in January and told me he would just be with me a few months until he is able to get on his feet. It is now October and I actually have move forward with getting him help for depression Through the mental health organization that I myself work for. He is in the process of getting into services. What else can I do at this point? Having him back with me has been difficult especially since he has talked about suicide. I have been emotionally and physically drained myself. It has gotten better but only with me setting boundaries such as making them pay a fixed amount to live with me and requiring that he gets the help he needs

[cpayne]

I just can't fathom the idea of living back home, as a zillenial

[lc]

‘I’m no longer your parent’ that’s what this guy reckons we should say to our adult children. I’m sorry, but that is simply ridiculous. I understand what he is trying to say but he has lost common sense. You are not merely a mentor or peer, you are your adult children’s mother or father. Very very different from a mentor!

[nathaliecowong]

19:50 checklist SMERF
Spiritual time everyday.
Mental, im gonna make great, logical and rational decision.
Emotional, vulnerable emotion
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Functional. Structure.