Do You Struggle with Always Being Late?

It's a new year and maybe you've told yourself that you're not going to be late anymore. 2022 is the year you're going to be on time...Right?

Today Jackie discusses why being timely is a virtue and how we can combat the temptation to make excuses for being bad with timeliness.

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[susanclark]

Once I realized my that I needed to focus on my departure time rather than the actual time of the event I found I was much more successful at being on time and I actually was a lot more relaxed. Thank you, this is an excellent topic.

[cjralson]

I picked up a shirt at the National Basilica that says, “I’m always late. But God’s timing is perfect. Ecclesiastes 3:11”

[IONov]

I am an extreme procrastinator. I suffer from poor time management and I can be easily distracted.

[eyesofamessenger]

One of my sons was always running late when he was in high school. So, I did what any mother would do...
I changed ALL the clocks in the house to 30 minutes earlier... lol
He was never late after that 🤣🙏

[suegz]

Underestimating the time it requires to get a job done, get ready or get somewhere, that's why I am always late 😏

[celestebenson]

I HATE being late. The stress response it triggers in me feels awful. If another person is causing me to be late, the stress feels twice as bad. I can feel the adrenaline being released.

[AlejandroCampeche]

It's so stressing to be late all the time! Thank you Jackie for your advices

[tinahalle]

I HATE being late but it keeps happening 🤦‍♀️. Like someone on here said, it’s so stressful and you feel the adrenaline from that . I’ve never been thirty minutes late, I’d feel so terrible about that and if something happens to cause that I’d definitely text the person to let them know what’s going on . I keep running 5 minutes late or I stress myself out practically running to get where I need to be . It’s so stressful, I’m sweating and I swear people can pick up on how frazzled I feel once I get through the door. I really don’t feel it’s because I’m trying to be selfish, rude or inconsiderate but I know people see it that way so I practically give myself a heart attack lol, just trying to hurry and make up for my lack of time awareness. I don’t know why I can’t get it right . Sometimes I literally misread how much time I’m going to need to get somewhere, it seems it’s only been 5 minutes when it’s actually been 10 or I’ll be so busy taking care of the house and my kids needs that suddenly the time to start getting dressed to leave not only creeps up on me but it’s passed lol …. Then the stressful “get ready to go dance “ begins …. Ugh … I’m so tired of it . I often miss my kids bus and have to drive him to school . I hate that it could be affecting him negatively when that happens . He has adhd though and often his dawdling and getting sidetracked mixes with my lack of time awareness and there you have it …. Running to the bus stop 🤦‍♀️. I tell myself to be ready 15-30 minutes before we need to leave but I’m sooo exhausted. I don’t sleep well and I already set my alarm at 5 a.m. and I never seem to resist not hitting snooze . During the summer I’m late a lot less because I can get the sleep I need and I’m on my own schedule. But anyway…..hope all that doesn’t sound like excuses lol. It’s just what happens. I didn’t used to be late until I had kids lol and it’s not that having kids is the cause ….. I think it’s exhaustion brought on by not having enough support combined with the fact that I might be slightly adhd myself ?? …… who knows … I wish I could figure it out because I truly hate it .

[mrsc]

I used to be late because i totally underestimated how long it took to be ready and leave the house, or I'd just have to empty the dishwasher, or put on a load of washing, or check the mail or whatever... And I'd also underestimate the dead time. So eg the train jouney is 20 minutes, I need to get the 8.35 to get there by 9. But Id not compute the time from the train station to the destination, even the stairs from the door up to the office, or being stuck behind a slow walker. Also I was (am) always so busy. But spiritual reading and studying is so important and often difficult to find time for. So now I leave much earlier and the extra time isn't dead or wasted time, it's an opportunity to read for 10 minutes while I'm waiting. And it's also much much less stressful and embarrassing.

[victheone]

After years and years of being late all the time, I've put some effort in trying to find out what could be the cause for such behaviour. It's not that I liked being late! It was stressful, humiliating, exhausting...

I realized that I always waited for the last minute to get myself ready, most of the times behond what was reasonable. That forced me to hurry up, trying to emend the mistake I just had made.

From an holistic perspective, I believe my problem was a light but cronical state of depression. I would take too much time convincing myself it was time to go because, ultimately, I didn't want to go in the first place. No matter what the destination was: school, work, dinners, family meetings, parties, medical appointments... Good thigs, bad things, you name it. The fact is that I always felt the need to force myself to go to any of these places.

As I never tried to fix anything, I keep being late all the time till this very day (- . -)'

[louisehine]

I used to say that running late was my cardio. Wish I could have more hours in the day for sleep; my reason for being is that I’m beyond exhausted and can’t get up. 😭

[garrettstephens]

I was once told by a friend who is at least 30 minutes to everything:

"Punctuality is the virtue of the bored, being late is the virtue of the creative."

[DavidSupina]

I struggle some, but a lot of it has to do with having ADHD. It gets really stressful if I worry about being on time to everything, so I put in the large amount of effort to arrive on time selectively. Sometimes I am on time anyway. Other times I run a bit behind even if I make arriving on time a priority. I know this is not a character flaw, so I try not to worry about it too much.

[patty.cakes.]

Perfect timing. I was laying here thinking of how I need to stop waking up just on time or late. I will rewatch this. Thanks

[Bazerkly]

I had a friend who was ALWAYS late... I started telling hit the the Start Time 1 hour early... Then he arrived on time and he became very angry!

[danoregon]

As a kid, we were always late to church, rushing out the door, etc. etc. I always hated it. My dad yelling at us to "move!" "Let's Go!" and it really impacted my enjoyment of church and was stressful and not fun. Now, I try and make a point to get to church 10 minutes early to relax, slow my breathing and be in the right frame of mind for church. I also don't understand people who seem in a rush to leave after mass is over. You get the sense that going to church is just a "box to check" on their to do lists.

[wms]

MRI studies have shown that people with childhood post-traumatic stress syndrome are late due to inability to cope with having to be somewhere on time.

[casc]

“Tardiness is a sign of RESISTANCE.” Review with yourself, who or what are you resisting?

[diannaachando]

So much truth in this. I’m ocasiónalo late and this will help me reset my brain when I need be

[humberto]

Thank you Jackie! God bless you! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!