If you're struggling to make a big decision, WATCH THIS.

I believe that you should always use your heart and soul as the basis of your decisions because that’s how you align what you’re doing with your values.

Use your brain to look at the fine print and to weigh the options but when it comes to the actual “feel” of the decision, you always want to turn inward and check it against the feeling in your gut.

Wondering how to do that? Watch this video to find out ❤️

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[briannabanks]

Great Clip, As someone with chronic anxiety, I often get decision paralysis, and in particular - any decisions that involve people pleasing or have an emotional component. When every option feels terrible, and it seems like a much, much bigger deal than it really is or that it does to anyone else it's debilitating and NOT making decisions like that causes a lot of problems. I'm looking for better tools for managing these situations ad this is helpful.

[nathc]

I made the decisions, have started the process, and now am feeling the fear. still going ahead though. A New Beginning.

[jaylianneescobedo]

I absolutely love this. "Live in what's true for you, not what's safe in the moment"

[DamyanLP]

I spent an entire week absolutely shredding my brain thinking about the decision I had to make and you have the nerve to swoop in here and give me, not the answer, but a way to decide, in only 2 minutes??? Wow. Thank you so so much. I know what to do now! :)

[rjs]

Forget the 20minute Ted Talks on decision making. THIS is it! thank you

[SableEllen]

Ugh, this spoke to me..

For the past year and a half a family member has been asking me and my other family members to move out. I found a place and was super excited as this will be my first time out on my own - I was hoping they'd be happy for me but made they situation all about them when in reality they chose the outcome. I love this person with all my heart and have often sacrificed my happiness for theirs and it's still not enough. While this change may alter our relationship I think this will be the best for my well being and growth. Thank you for this!

[rebekah]

Mel! Thank you! I’m in the middle of that decision making moment and I was already trying to rationalize why NOT to do something I know in my Heart and Soul I MUST do. I love your way of comparing whether this will grow or shrink me and even though it might be uncomfortable in this moment I already know the rewards will last a lifetime. Thank you❤️

[SY-spuo]

It is like Mell reads my mind. Whenever i am struggling with something and she pops out with a solution! Thanka Mel!

[movizdar]

I've gone through so much physical, verbal abuse my whole life which led to hatred of my own existence. But after 2 years of not deciding, I have put up the courage to pursue what I wanna do with my life. The decision is about my expansion and my life.

[lindamartel-inoi]

I so needed this. Thanks, Mel. I will not silence me or my creativity despite the anxiety and fear trying to keep me small and safe. Courage to everyone here.❤

[mathews]

Thank you for this.. I seldom seek advice but am going through a really hard time in a relationship with children involved. I’ve been putting everyone else’s needs before my happiness for long time and I know I need a change. I’ve been making the mistake of looking outward and it’s made me focus on everyone else’s judgment rather that following my heart. My brain has convinced me the world is watching but it’s really not.. nobody cares. That false fear & self deception is enough to make the strongest person lock up in anxiety. So yes, thank you for your guidance. I refuse to look back in 30 years with regrets and sadness. It’s time to live!

[harleejones]

I absolutely love you Mel. You're such a beautiful and intelligent person.

[stylestory]

I can't thank you enough Mel. I have been through some hard times and have come to point zero again. I am so confused to make any decision right now. Feel very helpless. This video is a great guidance for me.♡

[serenityflo_sound]

The heart always. Silence the mind & our soul will speak to us. It’s knows before we do. Great video!! 😍

[sarahy]

I don’t know how but this video showed up at just the right time. I’ve been on furlough since May 4 and have appreciated this time “off” because it’s the sabbatical I’ve been wanting for a long while. It’s allowed me the time to spend with mom and has relaxed the deeply entrenched attachment to my job that I’ve had for nearly 30 years. I love my job, but within the last two years, I’ve changed and it no longer reflects my views, plus our “new-ish” boss is taking us in a direction that I don’t agree with. An email exchange with a colleague today reminded me about my frustration at work, then I saw this video. Everything in my heart says to leave, but financial concerns are holding me back. I hope I can find the strength and confidence to make the cut. Thank you for this timely video! 🙏

[leilebantino]

Mel, you are giving me a sign in this video. I am already in a dilemma on making a big decision that could possibly change my career. Thank you.

[LondonBridge]

I’ve been thinking about a huge decision the past few days and my mind was spiraling with possibilities and a huge list of pros and cons. But this single short video helped me clarify what decision was right for me immediately. This is such beautiful and amazing advice. Even if the “safe” way may seem more logical, if it ‘shrinks’ you then it’s not worth it. I may have to write down some notes on this and hang it up so I remember ❤ thank you so much!

[mohanjphilip]

I was actually in a confusion for my current decision.. not only now but everytime I feel the same . But now I’ve got a clear idea 💡. Thanks for your words 👍😊

[brandondelgado]

I’m in the middle of one myself. A job that is unfulfilling and being stressed every day. Being stressed to start my work day. Good pay but it is with me every day and waking hour.

[kozugyekrolerthetoen]

A brandnew approach to decision-making! A new dimension! Instead of listing pros and cons, putting the best question: does it expand/improve me? I stumbled upon your video the very best time, just while hesitating. And you give the perfect answer! Thanks a lot for your great work!