Feeling Guilty After a Breakup? Watch This

I believe many of you will relate to this . . . You break up with someone or tell them after a couple of dates that you don't feel you'd be a good fit. And then, guilt creeps in. And even though you know you did the right thing, the pain seems to become unbearable. Why is that? Well, maybe this is what your guilt actually means 👆

Thank you, @ChrisWillx for having me!

[odfmhsc]

You can feel both. It is a legitimate feeling to feel guilty for breaking someone's heart.

[BrockLanders]

I think guilt is a much harder emotion to deal with than disappointment.

[angeline]

I've thought long and hard about this, but actually I think it really is that I feel guilty.

[authines]

I can relate. I’d much rather have someone break up with me than hurt them.

[Portia]

Agreed when you’re looking for something unique, it’s hard to find

[annettepaul]

This makes so much sense because I usually feel the guilt at the break up, but more recently had a break up where I was not so focused on the guilt. I myself had discovered something more satisfying and in tune with my needs, and I was wondering why I did not feel as much guilt when I did the most recent break up. Must be because I found something closer to what I was needing.

[flojo]

I left him because he hurt me repeatedly.I could not take that pain anymore, so I broke up with him.I feel the guilt of allowing him to hurt me so very much.He didn't care about 😢😢I left the relationship

[brennerleonie]

Damn, this is so good.
I really needed to hear this! ❤️

[deborahfortin]

Starting to feel like you’re broken is an awful feeling place. I have to deal with that at least once a day due to past trauma and past trauma bonded relationships.

[marufgazi]

Omggg thankuu❤❤ ... I am going thru it rn ... 12:32 27/07 sat

[SPOOKY-HAZE]

damnright i feel guilty.. i just broke up with a lovely woman and the reason ws just because we where too different to make this work peacefully, we didnt fight or argue but i just think its better this way cause tat was a wonderful person and i would been sadder if the struggles caused later conflict either way guilt is a strong emotion and i just felt that for the first time, after all she deserves someone that better suits her emotional needs i couldnt give that cause its hard to show emotion, i just felt disapointed in myself not in here

[deethompson]

I felt guilty but also relieved - the people involved are now free to find their actual "Person" rather than settling ✨️🙏❤️ Nice people don't like to hurt people - you're being empathic in my humble opinion.

[esraalrashed]

Such an important message thank you Matthew

[judithansley]

Terrible therapist. Feeling guilt after breaking up with someone is a REAL thing. Especially if youre not a narcissist.

[sammylenjou]

This is literally me for the past 30 years and why I didn't want to start a new relationship.
I did and it's the worst relationship I've been in so far.
I'm in a really long distance relationship : I live in Belgium, she lives in china.
And now the last 5 years, her visa gets rejected over and over, and I'm not healthy enough to visit her yet...
From the beginning, I felt like I'm always alone, in a jail cell, while I see people living together, taking vacation together, thriving together and I always think "waw they have it so easy".
I want to get out of it, and sometimes I want to stay in it.
It's been driving me mad for 6 months now.
It's not only the guilt again, but also the fear of not finding anyone like her again, especially her support, we've been through so much the past 10 years.
And yes I certainly have attention of other women, but I turned them all down.
The first years because I love my girlfriend, the last years because I can't or I would be cheating.
Can anyone give me an insight, a slight push in a direction please ?

[MadisonEstes]

But sometimes you should feel guilt for leading someone on and making them feel like you are building something with them, even telling them you are, then backing out because you dont feel ready or some other BS excuse. I'm sorry but if you don't feel worse about crushing someone's heart who loved you and wanted a future with you over feeling sorry for yourself that you didnt find your "perfect" partner, you are a selfish prick who shouldn't be dating. If you have any empathy, breaking someone's heart should break yours too.

[zrated]

Sometimes we just aren’t prepared for love either, and that’s OK. It’s all a lesson to be learned.

[clairehedge]

What's the title of the longer version of this interview? I really need to listen to it

[corinnehiggins]

He left me because i couldn't give him a child. I'm heartbroken 13 months later.

[skie]

Interesting this is how i felt leaving a job lol