How to Win Friends and Influence People (EVERY PRINCIPLE)

[BasedPepee]

Hamza dropping off free skillshare classes for everyone that cant afford them, thank you Hamza, we appreciate all that you've done for us

[itsbenbro_]

Imagine studying this book in high school instead of some next novel that isn't relevant in a teenager's development. 🤯 Cheers for putting the books lessons in your format man.💙

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1:35 CHAPTER 1 : Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

2:48 First Principle
4:13 Second Principle
5:55 Third Principle

7:59 CHAPTER 2 : Six Ways To Make People Like You

7:59 First Principle
9:20 Second Principle
11:12 Third Principle
13:02 Fourth Principle
15:23 Fifth Principle
17:20 Sixth Principle


18:33 CHAPTER 3 : How To Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

18:33 First Principle
20:29 Second Principle
22:14 Third Principle
23:55 Fourth Principle

25:42 Fifth Principle
27:36 Sixth Principle
29:29 Seventh Principle
30:44 Eighth Principle
32:00 Ninth Principle
34:02 Tenth Principle
35:32 Eleventh Principle
37:18 Twelfth Principle

40:16 CHAPTER 4 : Be A Leader

40:16 First Principle

[Kenji-]

After i lost my prior job 4 months ago I started to seal a pact with myself to never let myself down, Physically and mentally. Yesterday I was applying to a new Job which actually is too good to be true and after I had a 90 min Interview with 2 Managers of this Business, I enchanted them so badly with the way I talked about my ambitions, principles and my worldviews that both of them became so inviting and wanted me for this job without hessitation and even wanted to support my efforts to reach my own goals. I can't believe how much I changed over the last few months...
"If you change others, you change nothing. If you change yourself, you change the world."

[musa]

You helped alot of young men in a very short timespan. For that I can only respect you.

[Bogdan_Nicula]

I)

1. Any fool can criticize, condemn or complain, but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.

2. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Positive reinforcement.

3. Arouse in the other person an eager want. Before you speak: How can I make this person want to do it? Get the other person's point of view. Appel to people's self-interest, never to their mercy or gratitude. What they will get out of it?


II)

4. Become genuinely interested in other people. Everyone has a mistake that I can learn from, they have succes I may be able to replicate. We are interested in others when they are interested in us. Ask more questions

5. Smile. Happiness ≠ outward conditions, Happiness = inner conditions. Fake it till you make it.

6. Remember their name.

7. Be a good listener and encourage others to talk about themself. We love talking about ourself.

8. Talk in terms of their interests. People briefly mention something that they are interested in in the middle of the conversation (ask a question about that).

9. Make them feel important. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

III) Win people to your way of thinking

10. The only way to avoid an argument is to avoid it completely. Don't make others feel inferior. Keep your mouth shut. When you argue with someone and they argue their point in retaliation they're just further solidifying their current belief. An argument ends with each of the contestants more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right.


11. Show respect for other's opinions, never say "You're wrong". You cannot teach a man anything, you can only help find it within himself. "I thought otherwise, but I may be wrong, I frequently am and if I'm wrong I want to be put right".

12. Admit your wrongdoings quickly. Say about yourself all of the things you know the other person is thinking/wants to say/intens to say and say them before that person has a chance to say them = a generous forgiving attitude will be taken and your mistakes will be minimized. (They will minimize your wrongdoings if you admit them first)

13. Begin in a friendly way. (Apartament rent too expensive example). Start with a compliment. You are teammated trying to solve the problem rather than putting the other person on the offensive and making it a you vs them situation.

14. Get them to say Yes.

15. Let them do a great deal of the talking. Always say less than necessary. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. Don't interrupt.

16. Let them feel that the idea is theirs, to change someone way of thinking you have to do it subtly, without making it obvious what your intentions are. They can only believe this way of thinking if they reach that point themselves

17. See things from their POV.

18. Be sympathetic to other's ideas and desires. 3/4 of people are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. "I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do".

19. Appeal to their nobler motives

20. Dramatise your ideas

21. Throw down a challenge

22. Begin with praise, once whe realised I had confidence in her.

23. Call attention to their mistakes indirectly

24. Talk about your own mistakes first.

25. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders

26. Let them save face

27. Praise every improvement

28. Give them a fine reputation to live up to

29. Use encouragement

30. Make them happy to do what you ask

[citizenpunx]

10:32 I started smiling to myself when I was slightly not in the mood to speak with friends or family if they call my phone. It instantly increases my mood and allows me to treat them like they deserve, as a priority in my life

[ethanoptimized]

One of the best self improvement books on the market - I got the audiobook thanks to your recommendation Hamza. My biggest takeaway was to start focusing on what other people want instead of self-centeredly focusing only on what you yourself want to get on track towards huge wealth

[Larey.]

My dad gave me this book earlier this year when I turned 14, this book is one of the best I've ever read

[ilyz]

Don’t talk to much, be positive, learn how to talk to someone, smile when talking, it’s great that you seen this so if you have more keywords that can help everyone then fill in💪

[gymdian]

No one else would simply give away Skillshare classes like this for free if their account was banned. Shows that Hamza just wants to help as many men as he can.

[peckneck]

One thing i learned from this book is how self absorbed people are. Showing interest in other people and talking with them about themselves just makes them like you much more.

[Aymenzegguir]

I'm a dental student and i work at my university's medical clinic, i've been using these tactics with patients, especially little kids who are usually very scared to go to the dentist, and it just totally changes their behaviour with me, they are calmer than usual and sometimes even are excited to come, and if it works with kids with scares, it can work with adults too and more than anyone thinks.
Thank you hamza, for changing my life to the better.

[ItzzzDre]

honestly all i’m really hearing from in this video is just to be a nice person. Not in a way that comes off as fake just being an actual nice and genuine person

[khyzer]

Watched this video yesterday. Have to say that I really had the determination and really wanted to improve my social skills. My friend group was great at the start of my skl year but things slowly started getting a little boring, repetitive and maybe toxic. I noticed how I would have to chase after them at lunch/break. I was the one initiating I felt worthless in their eyes and started communicating less. They seemed to just ignore me. But today I saw them feeling awkward asked if I could sit with them. Sat down and just was being myself. I was able to bring up our previous/relevant funny discussion topics. By asking questions I found out about their interest. I was able to get them to speak about them. I was able to also share my own interest 2. Convo started and it maybe wasn't the best Convo or where I would like it to be but I felt better making the friendship better than it was going before

[UGM_Vier]

Dude, I litteraly just watched this video today, take notes, and use it to convince my friend to go to the gy. who I've been struggling to convince to go to the gym for a while now. We just made a deal for him to stay consistent for 3 month and we'll see where it takes him, but i just wanna say damn, this is some real powerfull stuff.

[samotivationbysami]

I used to be a really shy kid when I read this book over 15 years ago. The first self-help book I read and changed my life completely! A timeless treasure!

[inoghmia]

What i also noticed is that when trying to include someone into a group conversation it can help explaining what you were discussing or the context to an inside joke. It makes the person slowly feel like they belong because they’re “in on the joke” and will be much more receptive to opening up about themselves.

This applies to a group as small as you and someone else, letting someone in on what you were discussing can make them feel welcome!

Very nice summary of the book and principles and I really like how you added examples from your own life :)

[Vanko-bjzn]

I have read this book like 6 times back when i was 14 and this book totally changed my life.Highly recommend .

[micahmartz]

Started reading this book in 8th grade.. made many great friends since