10 Best Ideas | How to Win Friends and Influence People | Dale Carnegie | Book Summary

The Most successful leaders all have one thing in common: They’ve read “How to Win Friends and Influence People”

Today’s book summary and book review: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

This book will rock your communication. Dale Carnegie's classic public speaking and interpersonal communication book, how to win friends and influence people is packed full of actionable ideas and takeaways. You might also consider getting the full book for this – it’s killer!

Here are the best 10 ideas from “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.

★★★ BIG 10 IDEAS ★★★
(1:30) 1. Become Genuinely Interested In Other People
(2:45) 2. Let The Other Person Feel That The Idea is His or Hers.
(4:30) 3. Talk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticizing The Other Person.
(6:50) 4. Dramatize Your Ideas. Break the script.
(8:45) 5. Talk in Terms of The Other Person’s Interests.
(10:20) 6. Get The Other Person to say “Yes, Yes” Immediately.
(12:45) 7. Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation
Flattery is of the tongue, and appreciation is of the heart.
(14:20) 8. Give the Other Person a Fine Reputation to Live Up to.
(16:00) 9. IDENTITY The Power of “I AM”.
(17:40) 10. SAY MY NAME!


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[JustinOhio]

This book changed my life. I was cocky and arrogant in my younger years and I just had no idea. I cared too much about being right and outsmarting people. After I read this I started becoming successful in life. I can’t stress how important this book is for anyone to read. Good video!

[dylanyoungerman]

love getting advice from Cristiano Ronaldo

[rockingbeat]

This boils down to "everyone loves themselves, you can use this fact to your advantage"

[rafael]

I read this book when I was a teenager, now at 67 I read it again. To my surprise, I discovered that I apply many lessons that I learned 50 years ago, I had no idea how many principles stayed with me all my life, and helped me greatly.

[junevorster]

I did a Dale Carnegie course in 1975 and the principles are as relevant today as it was then. It influenced my life and how I deal with people enormously for all these years.

[danamolina]

My grandfather read that and he was an awsome man, he built a tailor business from scratch and made costumes for presidents of my country and such. My mother also read it and made it by supporting and educating me alone, by helsef, working on sales and being the first person/woman taking store windows designs to another level here in Ecuador. She won a few prizes and people from her work still miss her. As teacher she also has helped a few boys from the street to study, change their selfperception and seek for a better future. It's amazing.

[RosieN]

Always watch this guy at 1.25 speed. It's a great way to consume his content quickly and it makes him sound even more enthusiastic.

[mizanurr]

I find that using someones name is extremely powerful, the conversation with the individual is more deep and genuine, and you put a smile on the other persons face which is an amazing feeling.

[KristianLindbjerg]

Overall a solid book that can be applied in a lot of areas.

One thing to keep in mind if people have not read this book: Carnegie was a very successful salesman and businessman in general. A lot of his ideas are heavily influenced by "climbing the corporate ladder" and establishing professional connections.

Take the first idea for example:

This is a great suggestion if you feel like having 500 superficial friends rather than 5 genuine friends. Quantity > Quality idea.
If you have to force yourself become or "seem" interested in other people, is that still genuine interest? All the friends you make in those 2 months, will not last much longer than 2 months either. Over a longer period of time it becomes pretty transparent if a person is trying to befriend you by showing interest where there really is none. This idea, in my opinion, is a purely business solution for making "friends" to gain advantage of their friendship. Real friendships will have you automatically interested in the other person and there shouldn't be a need to summon the interest.

[miriamgruber]

I'm a huge Dale Carnegie fan, you really do a good job of bringing his expertise into what a lot of us are up to. It's no wonder Dale's book has stood the test of time.

[nhasato]

I got to a specific Vietnamese restaurant because the owner remembers my name and ask my about my family! The food is decent but farm from where I currently live, but I go out of my way whenever I’m near his restaurant to stop by and get something. I see it’s really is important to build that connection with your customers and community now. I will practice more and make it become a new habit! Thank you Clark for the video

[alisonmiller]

Points I like:1- Better ways to correct kids so that they feel like we understand them and expect good things from them; 2- remember people's names and saying it back to them. Whenever I encounter a new name I immediately think of something that would remind me of them or someone else that I know that also has that name. 3- I also appreciated the idea of giving someone else the credit-self does not like that but it's a healthy character uplifting habit. Finally I think that it's a marvelous habit of saying something heartfelt and kind to someone else. Everyone wants to feel cared for. Thank you sir for uploading this video. I have already begun to use the suggestions posted here and have reaped positive rewards so soon afterwards.

[davidedmunds]

Favourite point from being a manager and a supervisor is "give people a reputation to live up to" it molds them in the image you believe them to be through empowerment

[thomasdewolfhound]

Clark, I am a Dale Carnegie trainer and you have done an awesome job here explaining the principles.

[ilustradamente.oficial]

Clark, this series of "10 Best Ideas" is awesome! :)
And look! I have learnt some things from Dale Carnegie...
I am calling you by your name, I made a sincerely appreciation and I am smiling here haha
Best wishes from Brazil!

[FrodeOsen]

Hey Clark!

You really make your videos enjoyable and insightful by using real-life examples and telling stories.

I’m 6:45 minutes in, and am already loving it. Way to go, man!
Frode

[prsona]

I generally dont like talking about myself because when I do, people dont really give a shit. Unless its a professional like therapist that I am paying.

[juliusschroeder]

I teach high school freshmen and intend to use this book to help these young people learn how to better connect with others on a personal level. The digital age is robbing them of this ability and I'm looking for ways to help them overcome this hurdle. I think this will be a good start.

Dale

[jravenx]

this format of review is better than most I've seen, thanks for going so in depth with personal stories :)

[estebanfuentes]

One of the principles that had the most impact on me was, try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view. This principle made me put myself in the other person shoes and find a suitable situation to satisfy both of our wants.