Dependent personality disorder and narcissistic relationships

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[knoble]

To be so possessive of us yet neglect most or all our wants & need. Its infuriating to say the least!

[rosettesionne]

Narcissist force us to be dependent on them and later abuse us and disrespect us because we are dependent on them and are the first to tell us later that we are dependent on them and that we are where we are because of them and that without them we are nothing and that we should be grateful that they take care of us. Creating in our mind a feeling of hopelessness which makes us unable to cater for ourselves again. It is really a toxic circle.

[taotaostrong]

A Narc will drain the target dry and then criticize them for being dehydrated. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[NarcSurvivor]

Narcissists become heavily dependent on you for everything. Everything is a problem that you have to fix.

[HunnyBee]

The dark side of DPD is that we CRAVE the neediness of the narcissist. They need to control and we need to be controlled. Someone who actually WANTS to make every decision for me?? Heck yeah! Please do! You don’t want me to have friends or interact with family? Well, my family has been controlling my life which is why I don’t know how to do anything myself, so relying on you seems way healthier than relying on them because you want the best for me for your own sake.
I know it’s unhealthy. It’s a real curse to WANT to depend on someone else. Swinging from person to person to depend on like a drug.

[madeleinekallas]

I have many traits of this personality style, I lived with a passive aggressive man with a narcissistic traits for 8 years....
After getting divorce i began to meditate and change my behavior.
Thanks Dr. ramani for all this information.
I love what say because I feel satisfied with all this education and awareness.

[insanelysaneman]

When a narcissist latches onto you, think as if you've adopted an unwanted person for whom every problem is an event which you have to fix. And if you won't, then kiss your peace and self-respect goodbye.

[independentthoughtsnotthot]

I love being alone and doing things for myself, i can't stand the thought of being dependent anymore. I can get attached to people because of the lack of connection i have felt though. Sometimes i just have to remember i can be my own source of happiness.

[lauragadille]

That's how my family is towards me. They think I can't do anything for myself, when in fact I can.

[brandonf.]

I think it's interesting that a narc will criticize you for wanting different while complaining about things staying the same. Quite a paradox of chaos.

[jds]

I have a business relationship with a covert/communal narc. They feel absolutely entitled to my resources, materially, intellectually, and psychologically. Because they see themselves as dependent on me they're entitled to everything that I have. Usually, their requests (aka demands) come wrapped in their tragic backstory or their seemingly overwhelming present that they need rescuing from. When I go DEEP, I feel like I've left a helpless puppy by the side of the road.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

This was me during and after a badly abusive narcissist relationship, it beats down your confidence and independence for sure. But thankfully am out of it and getting my power back, one step at a time. Thank you for this. 💖🤗🙏

[anne-marieshaffer]

I see this in two of my kids who were subjected to the narcissistic abuse of their father. He made them feel helpless and stupid by constantly setting them up for failure.

[cindyriley]

Oh yes, you hit it on the button. Go back to when they experienced their first trauma....than comes the shame and guilt. Loathing....than they project that onto you. Go back to yourself before these traumas to remember who you were.
Thank you Dr. Ramani. I have grown back to who I was, but to a better me.

[dianasponsler]

Growing up or living on "quicksand on a tilt table" certainly leaves one feeling terrified of actually making a decision because the consequences have been so devastating for so long. Putting things "in the wrong place", (even if it was the right place last time) resulted in soul-murdering shame-fests often enough that I've had a tough time organizing my home. It's getting less difficult, but it is still a struggle, I feel an internal wince like a rescued pet responding to an outreached hand with fear every time I make a "this goes here" decision. (Every time my mom & sister came to visit when they did, I'd get ridiculed and maligned for putting things "in such a ridiculous place" "don't you see how THIS makes SO MUCH MORE SENSE?") I told them when they bought the house and lived here they could do it that way. It didn't go over well, but it was the beginning of my recovery on that front although I still second-and-third guess every decision and get support from others in the house before I assign a "home" to things. I suspect if it were seriously debilitating (it isn't, most of the time), I'd have this diagnosis.

[MultiSenhor]

That's why there's gotta be a whole investigation into the person, and that is why I hated the time I spent into therapy recently, the therapist jumped to conclusions in a few sessions and drove therapy in a very unproductive direction

[bridgeofsighs]

The scariest thing for me, and I'm guessing for others, is that some victims of narcissism have adopted narcissistic behaviors as coping strategies. I've been manipulative, my family has told me how "scary" I am when I'm angry, which sounds like narcissistic rage. I've responded in toxic ways and that is what haunts me.

[AvantiusMaximus]

I'm so grateful I found your channel. Your videos have been beyond helpful especially when dealing with my mother.

[Gwen]

The spouse takes over everything, sometimes pretends to include me in decisions, then word salads and forces his decisions and choices. I have given up on making most decisions. Not worth the battle .

[wks]

Yes. It is cultural. Independent women are seen as bad. This already starts inside families and friendcircles. It often leads to social exclusion if u break free of the dependency.
Edit: Also religion plays a role.
Also because u are raised to help and have understanding and being selfless.
Also i figured that my grandmother is a narcissist, which led me to fall for a narc husband. Because i was thinking thats normal.