What Makes People Cheat? #psychology

What Makes People Cheat? #psychology.

Certain personality traits, such as high extroversion, neuroticism, and narcissism, have been found to be more strongly associated with infidelity. These traits can influence behavior in ways that increase the likelihood of engaging in unfaithful actions in relationships.

High Extroversion
Social Interaction:

Extroverted individuals are typically outgoing, sociable, and enjoy being around others. Their desire for frequent social interaction can lead to more opportunities to meet potential romantic or sexual partners outside their primary relationship.
Impulsivity:

Extroverts often exhibit impulsive behaviors, seeking immediate gratification and excitement. This impulsivity can make them more prone to spontaneous acts of infidelity, especially in situations where they find themselves attracted to someone new.
Neuroticism
Emotional Instability:

Neuroticism is characterized by high levels of emotional instability, anxiety, and moodiness. Individuals high in neuroticism may experience dissatisfaction and insecurity within their relationships, which can drive them to seek validation and comfort from others.
Coping Mechanisms:

People with high neuroticism might use infidelity as a coping mechanism to deal with their negative emotions or to escape from perceived relationship problems. This can be a way to alleviate their distress temporarily, even though it often exacerbates underlying issues.
Narcissism
Self-Centeredness:

Narcissistic individuals have an inflated sense of self-importance and a strong need for admiration. They may engage in infidelity to fulfill their constant need for attention and to reinforce their self-image.

#cheating #relationship

[WildKat]

Please, the cheater always blames the victim. It's the running around, gaslighting, and BS the cheater that puts the victim through that causes them PTSD. Usually the cheater is conflict avoidant as well, and so rather than communicate issues and resolve them, the decide to take the "easy" way out and cheat.

[sunshinehope]

Cheating is a form of avoidance from solving a problem that exist in the relationship. Instead of communicating and solving it, cheaters chose to run away from it. There's always the option to break up but of course they're too selfish to lose their sense of security from the unknowing partner.

[RedHeadForester]

Having recently been cheated on by an emotionally abusive narcissist, I have an increased lack of regard for anyone who's unfaithful. It's a brutal, horrible experience. She gave me 2 of the 3 worst mental health crises I've ever experienced. Nasty. It took me 3 months after ending things to just begin to start feeling better. The unwanted thoughts swirl in my head every single day, especially when I'm working. It's exhausting.

[stormyskye]

Well it can't just be factored on the wives behaviours, that seems so biased. Wouldn't husbands who are highly narcissistic also be more likely to cheat? C'mon

[UwUImShio]

Selfishness. Putting your own pleasure before others' feelings

[MarisaPaola-umyb]

Dopamine..narcs who need validation from new source. My father was a serial cheater, diagnosed NPD (in his 70s after a stroke) my mother was stunning, fun and intelligent, basically too good for him..but she wanted her family unit to stay together, he was her first....it hurt her greatly.

[bapparawal]

I was not treated well in relationship. He bever made any effort but I tried to do my best. I was alsmot on my way to depression.
The dissatisfaction didnt lead me to cheat, I simply broke up after he completely failed in the relationship. Didnt cheat. So no cheaters most of the time have a chance to break up or communicate . Not go behind the backs and later blame the partners only.

[americanbeautyl]

Also an addictive personality paired with low self esteem, that's a recipe for disaster

[The_Jerkinator]

I was cheated on bc my bf was a poly sex-aholic (who blamed it on their ADHD) and boiled it down to him treating me like one of his friends-
Aka he fcked all his friends and saw me as no different, even tho he initiated us being together.
I already knew something was up, especially when his arrogance and narcissism started showing more. But shrugged it off as my anxiety acting up.

He lied to me for months.

[tfoxen]

Sexual predators and sexual addiction can be added to the list.

[aquari]

If you want another person in your life, then just tell your partner and break up with them. It feels soul crushing to be cheated on. Please don't be selfish. Just communicate with your partner before doing something unfair to them.

[ShyiaRobinson]

I’ve always said that betrayal is based off of a character flaw. It doesn’t matter who you date or what they do, if you have unhealed trauma or you’re insecure and never work on yourself, bc that’s the only thing you can control, then you’re putting your relationship at risk of failure. Also you’ll continue to attract partners who will trigger you until you change.

[happymack]

Narcissism; the narcissist believes that only their feelings and wants are valid. And the reason for those feelings and wants, are always someone else’s fault.

[suggestagoodnameformeplz]

I'm 18 btw, grew up with my mother being regularly cheated on, destroyed her marriage to a man that was essentially my dad, grew up with the man (after I stopped seeing my bio dad who was also unfaithful)
Just witnessing that, seeing the pain it caused someone I love has made me withdraw entirely from the idea of having a relationship, iv been with a couple girls who were actually looking back on really nice and I could've made it into something better than I did but because of my anxiety around it I always push them away when things get more serious than just casual fun.
Idk how to fix myself and its sh*t not knowing when I'm gonna be able to just grow out of it and trust someone enough to try having an actual relationship.

[H.Michele]

If you’re not happy in your relationship, leave. Never cheat. I will probably never be able to date again after the betrayal trauma from my ex. You’re destroying lives.

[strawbraryliberry]

Maybe I'm not a cheater because I am extremely introverted 😹
Really, I'm afraid to do something that bad. I feel guilty by default, and couldn't respect myself if I cheated.

I did read a book that covered infidelity, though, called "mating in captivity" & overall it was really interesting & enlightening.

[whos-violet-mars]

I feel like so much of our society blames the victim of cheating more often than the actual cheater. The blame that men and women face is often different from what I've noticed, if a woman is cheated on then the blame is a lot more hostile and it's often about how she "couldn't satisfy her man" or "couldn't control him better." If a man gets cheated on then the blame is less hostile and the humiliation is different, instead of them being told they couldn't satisfy their partner's needs properly they're told that they weren't good enough, they weren't enough of a "man." Ofc there's a lot of different factors and this isn't even including same sex/non traditional relationships. I feel like when it comes to the psychology of cheating and reasons why people do it, a lot of people end up using this to make excuses for cheaters and put the blame on the victims. Not saying that this video is doing that, just wanted to point out that I notice so many people do it and I think it's an important thing to talk about. And it's important to remember that no matter why someone cheats on their partner, doesn't matter if you have sympathy for the cheater cause they were going through a lot, doesn't matter if the victim wasn't a great partner, there is no excuse for cheating. Unless you live in a place where divorce is very difficult to do or you have some serious reason for not being able to break up/divorce, other than that there is no excuse. It's better to get counseling or end the relationship. Cheating is a choice and under typical circumstances you don't need to make that choice.

[SamTankko]

Cheating is obviously a mental issue, to not be able to stay committed to one person and then purposely damage that person for whatever reasoning you think is okay is clearly mental.

[saraandstuartshannon]

Who cares why people cheat? By overthinking about their reasoning, we are giving too much importance to people who shouldn’t be important at all. What matters aren’t their reasoning but recognizing who’s a cheater and stay away

[zidedeikery]

There is never an excuse for cheating.